>>714707987Very common among BPD women
There's self harm that help in short term with the pain but with long term consequences (smoking, cutting etc.)
the better alternative are "skills" to calm oneself down when their own tension levels are too high
good altetnatives are something like eating something really spicy, smelling something really intense
google some more ideas and gift her some things to try them out instead of cutting
some very strong smelling natural oils, some super spicy gummy bears, a small spiky metal ball that gives enough nerve satisfaction but can't harm the skin long term and see what sticks and what doesn't
DBT therapy also helps out greatly if the diagnosis is BPD