Thread 723802945

I have a first date with a girl playing stardew valley together tonight on discord. i am anxious and i need some tips on the game because i never played it before and i dont want to look like a fool.

just tell her that you fucking retard
just ask her for help and let her sperg out about the game for X hours on end while you sit there and agree / talk back

once you feel more confortable you can start sperging out or whatever the fuck you want

>>723803080
/thread

>>723803080
do girls enjoy it and find it hot when you cling to them for help instead of being confident?

>>723803242
nigger no one said anything about being 'clingy' just say you've never played the game before and use that as a kickstarter for the conversation

Yeah, you're not gonna make it.

>>723802945 (OP)
>girl
>discord
[x] doubt

I did this with a girl and she seemed cool and we played a few times but then one day she randomly just says she doesn’t want to continue talking.
Most girls want to meet in person ASAP I think

>>723802945 (OP)
its stardew valley bro, you literally can't fuck it up

>>723803750
we used to go to the same high school but i never talked to her because im a pussy
>>723803859
she's the one that suggested it

>>723803859
She was talking to many other guys and a chad settled for her momentarily. Sorry bro thats just modern dating

>first date
>on discord

>>723804124
>she’s the one that suggested it
Not trying to break your spirit but women literally don’t know what they want. My ex broke up with me over something that she also suggested and I complied with. And it’s the same for minor shit like this too.
Maybe she actually will enjoy and bond with you over it who knows, but don’t be surprised if things go south

>>723804124
>we used to go to the same high school
Whao whao red flags here. I was in a very similar situation and it went horribly. Im assuming youre young and only a year or two into college now. So answer this do you know why she reached out to you? Was she connected to any of your hs friend group in any way? Did she have any relationship prior to reaching out to you?

>>723802945 (OP)
You need to clear the air, banish your anxiety, and demonstrate you have something to offer.
An unsolicited dick pic is a great way to do all three.

>>723804165
I was dating a girl who had a longterm discord boyfriend and she did eventually feel bad enough about cheating on him to break it off. It was funny how she had this long monologue about how he's "just a friend" when she accidently mentioned him

>>723804404
What was his name because I had a discord gf who cheated after a year and a half

>>723804404
>get her to dump him
>dump her
cheaters get nothing

>>723802945 (OP)
>I have a first date with a girl playing stardew valley together tonight on discord
>playing stardew valley together tonight on discord
>date
It is not a date

>>723804337
>So answer this do you know why she reached out to you? Was she connected to any of your hs friend group in any way?
My friend is dating her friend a couple of months ago and we kinda have our own discord group thats where we started talking.

>>723803242
anon it's a fucking game, if anything she'll find it cute-hot that you're oblivious to pop nerd shit. you're not gonna give stud vibes from being an expert in SV

>>723804501
I never got a name I just know he existed and apparently lived in Alaska at some point.

>>723804607
Ok that sounds a bit more promising then from my experience. Already having the notion that you will be talking a lot through the internet will help. Good luck anon

>zoomers are dating on discord
>zoomers are scared of dating on discord

your generation was over before it even began

Who called this a "date" and were they serious or was it a joking, "lol its a date."

>>723804845
Zoomers get anxiety attacks over simple phone calls, what did you expect?

>>723804603
Stardew valley is a perfect lithmus test though. better than just sitting in a bar.

>>723804845
>>zoomers are dating on discord
>>zoomers are scared of dating on discord
zoomer obsession has gone too far

>>723804845
Far superior to having to spend 50 bucks minimum on dinner for a bitch who will walk out if you say 1 wrong thing

>>723804607
Fair enough. Its probably not actively malicious then, but >>723804603 is correct. Its not a real date, even if she says it is. Dont be a sperg about this, treat it like youre just playing a chill coop game with one of the bros. Depending on how it goes you can keep playing games with her afterward, but eventually AND SOON youre going to want to ask her out to something in person. See>>723804165
Realistically she has other guys on the back burner but is giving you attention. Dont pussy out.

>>723804934
My last first date cost 29.89 including tip for the both of us.

>>723804894
ngl why call when you can text tho?

e-dating is fucking shit
gotta meet ASAP to see if there's any chemistry or you're gonna waste your fucking time
you're one missed text (or 5m late) away from a breakup its fucking stupid

>>723805394
Girls will like you more if they can’t get your attention easily. It makes you more exclusive in their mind
Atleast once they’ve actually gotten to know you a little bit. Right out the gate ignoring them will make them disappear

>dating
I must be an alien because it sounds really robotic and strange to me. You either like a person or you don't, atleast that's how I see it as a shut-in loser.

>>723805516
>Girls will like you more if they can’t get your attention easily.
do NOT try this if you're ugly

>on my monthly visit to /v/ to see what’s going on in the video game world
>see this thread
>leave

>>723802945 (OP)
I still can’t wrap my head around how people, even anons here keep telling stories about how they started dating a girl they met in a game.
Everytime I’ve played with a girl, they basically stop talking or playing with you after a little while, and they pretty much always seem to be playing with other guys. Either way you end up being the only one making any effort to keep in touch with them and inviting them so eventually you just drop it.
Even if you do get to talk them, I don’t get how a random person you met in a game would be able to progress into a romantic relationship, it just doesn’t add up to me at all
And even then when you actually think about it, why would you even want to play with one to begin with, they always suck at games and they're not funny so they have literally nothing to offer so like what even is the point

I’ve given up on dating and will probably just have to settle for my semi-autistic childhood friend Christian virgin girl who I always hang out with.

>>723805935
You dont give off bde.

>>723805935
>Everytime I’ve played with a girl, they basically stop talking or playing with you after a little while,
Thats what kept happening until i met my wife 9 years ago.

I will never stop laughing at zoomzooms lmao

>>723805952
You could have a worst fate and marry a shallow girl who will divorce you for alimony and child support.

>>723805935
I don't get it either. Women are so fickle and there is so much competition on any given server/lobby for a chicks attention that I can't imagine anyone but the horniest horndog playing astronomical numbers games to manage to actually secure one that way. Way easier to just do it in real life

>>723804934
Take her to the beach, or the park, or for coffee.

>>723806114
I wish I could find someone else because this girl doesn’t like vidya or really anything I like and we just click purely on a personal level and are similarly social retards, and she wants kids and I don’t so I guess I’ll have to bite the bullet there.
Certainly could be worse because I do love her for who she is to me even now. I just hope that kids don’t drain my soul and I can get her into some vidya

>>723806571
You dont need the same interests as your gf/wife.

>>723803242
I had a Druid main in WoW help me as my first time with Druid healer. We bonded and eventually we talked everyday. There is no shame in learning something new.

>>723805935
It's better to NOT give her the impression that you are into her at first or at least keep confusing her. they get intrigued and that's how you hook them. That what worked for me. It's shitty that you have to play this game but if you just throw everything at her at first she'll either get creeped out or bored.

>>723802945 (OP)
>discord date
Your just playing vidya together.

>>723806919
>Ignore a girl in game
>she stops talking after I steal all her attention by jeering the enemy team and shit talking from the top of the scoreboard over mic
>game ends, never see her again
Behold, my autism

>>723802945 (OP)
Why do you want tips, dumbass? She probably wants to be the one who teaches you the basics, like how people like to watch streamers react to things they're already familiar with for the first time.
You're not going to impress anyone by going into a casual game of Stardew fucking Valley with insider knowledge.

>>723805952
Oh NOOOOOO NOT THE PURE WAIFU, AHHH YOUR LIFE IS TRULY HELL!

>>723802945 (OP)
Keep it up anon. An online date is better than nothing. Kinda faggy tho

>>723807369
>tho
Fag

>>723806686
What do you do to spend time together? Currently me and her are always out of shit to do on the weekends and end up just wandering around our town and getting food. That’s just 1 day a week. What do you do for a full time marriage?

>>723802945 (OP)
Let her teach you how to play, she'll love it.

>dates are online on videogames now

wtf?

>>723807430
You meant chad

>>723807509
You're supposed to actually do fun shit with your homies. GFs are literally just there to prove you aren't a gay virgin, to fuck, and for her to take all your money. Marriage is just for tax reasons

>>723807607
Yeah these zoomers are lucky. It would be easy to ask a chick to come over and play DDR and then make her dinner after or something. Instead people before had to sometimes roll out the red carpet... or do mini golf and chill at the beach.

>>723807324
You don't ignore them, you create opportunities to get together without making it obvious that makes her confused if you really into her or not that keeps her interested. Girls love romance but you have to create a sense of mystery and spontaneity to hook them. All romance eventually dies once you get to know each other well but you use that time to create a bond between each other that will last after the romance dies.

>>723807889
I don’t have any friends. She’s my only friend and I’m her only friend

>>723807509
Talk about stuff other than vidya and movies, fuck, do stuff together

>>723806056
>>723806919
>It's better to NOT give her the impression that you are into her at first or at least keep confusing her.
That's... pretty much what I've been doing lol. I've been playing online multiplayer games for over a decade now, and barely met any women, and if I did, I treat them like a normal person but I wouldn't really interact with or add them to begin with because as I said, they suck at games and they're boring.
Anyways, on the rare occasions I do add them and vice versa, I don't give them any extra attention, I just ask them to play a couple times the following week or two, and they never ask me, so it just fizzles out and they delete me. That's pretty much what happened everytime, and I'm not exactly looking to get with girls over games, I'm just asking how the fuck do you guys pull it off when logistically speaking it seems near impossible

>>723808363
Okay I'll bite. She's not just a woman but a sperg whose entire social circle consists of you. If you put in any effort at all you could mold her into whatever the fuck you want. The more of her free time you take up the faster this goes.
She already has most of the rare traits. Something as malleable as interests is easy.

>>723808639
The trick to getting women interested in you is being playfully mean to them. Works every time.

>>723809068
This. When I met my first gf the first thing I did was call her research topic for college a schizo tinfoil hat theory

>>723808639
It's been a while since I last dated since I haven't been single in years but we were in the same guild and I would use that as a pre text to spend time with her without really making it obvious that i was into her but also sort of baiting her leaving her subtle hints that I was into her.
I even told her about it years later and she said she would be laying in bed at night wondering if I was really into her or not trying to figure out the things i said and did. I guess the trick is to make her think about you a lot even when you're not around her.

I couldn't even imagine modern dating. I'd be out the moment anyone ghosted me. Fuck that shit.

>>723809613
You start to grow a thick skin after the first couple of times

>>723802945 (OP)
>first date
>on discord
anon...

>>723809068
>playfully mean
how's that

>>723805935
You gotta have a good rap, anon. Guys out there talk better and are funner. It's a competitive environment goin for a girl online.

>>723806551
this is out of touch millenial advice, zoomettes get the Ick when you take them to what (they think) is a cheap disposable date.

>>723802945 (OP)
you should make a matrix of all the witty things you should say based on both the situation, and the level of intimacy you have attained. high intimacy responses would include things like "I'd like to 'plant' something inside of you" (if you're planting things in the game) or "I smell something... is that Stardew? In your valley? At this time of year?" etc while exaggeratedly sniffing at her pussy area. Good luck gamer: you need it

>>723810032
Its typically called flirting. You should have learned in in hs and college. Oh you didnt? Lifes basically over sorry

>>723804246
cant believe it took 11 posts for this

>>723810540
But what about when the tone is serious?

>>723809613
Exactly what happened to me and I gave it a honest try but after 6 times with girls you know you'd hit off IRL (same style, interests etc), it's too much on the psyche.
All the relationships I've ever had turned out to be friends of friends.

>meet girl in overwatch
>try to date her
>she just sees me as a friend she says
>sad but ok i move on
> a while later finds out i got a gf
>previous girl gets mad about it and starts sperging out about it
why does this happen?

>>723810032
bully them but sarcastically
thats what they like

>>723810108
That's the point. You're hard filtering women that want free shit from you. Unless you like being used as a wallet.

>>723811019
because she lost control of you

>>723811019
you were her backup

>>723804330
What happened anon?

>>723810851
>All the relationships I've ever had turned out to be friends of friends
This is the best way. It's like work. Not what you know but who you know.

>>723802945 (OP)
if this counts as a date i had at least a 100 of them
they mean shit
+ halfd of them are dudes with a shitty voicechanger

>>723802945 (OP)
Just be a helpless retard (in a video game, not in real life), girls love that shit. Basically what >>723803080 said. People like to share things they like with other people. Crazy.

But a Discord "date" with a girl, even if you KNOW they're a girl, is pretty goofy. Good luck, retard.

>>723803242
100%

>>723811375
>+ halfd of them are dudes with a shitty voicechanger
why would a guy do that isnt that kind of gay?

>>723811538
most of them try to grift stuff out of you
>would you gift me game X uwu

Be aware of how she behaves, the tone of her voice and watch out for any word games she might start playing with you. Don't forget it's a woman you're talking to and you're being judged the moment you log in to the discord call similarly to how you're being judged the moment both of you take your clothes off.

>>723811234
Two things. She said she liked how I was kinda protective of her and asked me to show that more often, then when I tell her she can’t walk around alone at night in her neighborhood because it isn’t safe she said I was being controlling and that she couldn’t live around me. She also said that she wanted me to be open about my emotions with her and not be such an immovable rock so I did that, just opening up about stressful stuff no emotional breakdowns or anything just light venting and she said that she couldn’t handle so much “emotional baggage” from me.
When I brought up that she asked for both of those she dodged the question and cut me off

>>723811090
he's clearly retarded and thinks the only women out there are the ones he saw in tiktok ragebait clips

>>723811754
no one would fall that right? even if a an actual girl would say this you say fuck off grifter.

I was in an online relationship for a while with a couple of in-person meetups but things ended up going like >>723811901 along with her generally being untrustworthy and we broke up
I felt bad for a bit after but on reflection nothing in my life changed except I broke someone's hymen and she introduced me to some games so slight net positive

>>723802945 (OP)
I think even for a girl who's a fan, you'll probably come across better if you don't know much about it. Plus it'll give her something that interests her to talk about while she shows you about it.

>>723813253
wtf how did I make this post without making it

>>723813253
what games did she introduce you to and did you creampie her?

>>723803242
Girls enjoy literally everything if they're sexually attracted to you.

>>723814123
Barotrauma
Grim Dawn
yes

>>723814620
cool games.

>>723813253
Mine told me when we first met that she was in a cult and that her ex thought she was an angel and so he had to kill her so he could get into heaven and eventually shot himself in the face with a shotgun

>>723814420
This. A girl told me she wanted to play Streets of Rage 4 with me. We got to the Nora boss and I told her that she moans each time you hit her and demonstrated it. She laughed and we had sex shortly after we beat the boss.