>>40947134 (OP)
you want some magic? here's some fuckin magic for you. check it-
I knew this guy, the other guys on the boat crew called him PUMA- Possibly the Ugliest Motherfucker Alive. his name was Baker, can't remember his first name. tall, skinny, pock marked face, greasy hair out of the shower, glasses, stuttered, top 10 of the smartest motherfuckers I've ever met. he used that like a weapon. our job was to work on the submarine propulsion system, giant steam engine with a nuclear reactor attached. we had to memorize about 3 encyclopedias worth of manuals just to start in the job. the majority of the men working that job were smart, but not like him. he could cite the manuals, diagrams, operating procedures, material history, etc... of the entire submarine, not only the engineroom, like he was telling you about the weather. the effect was that it was his technique of establishing himself in the pecking order. anytime someone would bring out the PUMA joke, he'd lay into them.
last I heard, he married a stripper and had a good family with her. I know it's the old 'find another way to shine' bullshit advice, but it isn't. see, Baker would use it to badger someone if he had to, to dominate and force another man to do work, and other military tasks. he wore his ugliness like a target for idiots to attack. he would earn the respect of other men by putting others in their rightful place, low on the pecking order for making fun of his appearance.
I've known many men and women who had some sort of disfigurement, handicap, etc... and use it as bait for people to make a comment on. kind, intelligent, smart, and sophisticated people know not to care about looks. fools, bullies, and braggarts look for people they see as weak all the time to comment on their looks.
put them in their rightful place, below you and others who are civilized, preferentially mock and humiliate them with their own words in front of everyone. my pal Baker did that and got a stunner of a wife. magic.
