How do you guys make friends?

>>33217826 (OP)
Usually by signing up for something or joining something. That's kinda how cults get you, but there's lots of things that aren't cults. Sometimes people become friends in circumstances they were forced into like school, prison, or military conscription.

>>33217861
I probably still wouldnt end up with a friend.

>>33217826 (OP)
I won't read survey threads about no-one in particular.

have a real, genuine interest or hobby. something that isn't just done to make friends, but that you truly enjoy and are excited to talk about. then you can simply find other people who do the same thing and use it as a stepping stone (don't just be "two guys who like whittling" forever, eventually you have to actually like people, but the hobby is a start). i advise having it be making something rather than consuming, fandoms are trash and you'll be satisfied if you can make something meaningful even if you're alone for a while longer

>>33217826 (OP)
how old are you? me in my 40's I have little advice to give you, it's damn difficult at my age. Plus I hate people.

>>33219482
well ok
>>33219822
ive been alone for so fucking long, but every time I try to make friends something goes wrong and people just dont like me.
that hurts like hell and usually makes me leave

>>33219861
in my 30s
pretty much lost all my friends several times
one time cause i felt betrayed as a young teen I cut it off
one time i was with the wrong crowd and wanted to fix my life... so i cut them off
then I flunked in college cause of stress
and been friendless since
I mean I had gf at on point and her friends were my friends but it was clear they didnt care about me, that I was just some guy that cockblocked them.
Still cant believe she was still friends with guys she fucked and that those guys were still desperate to get with her

>>33221238
well you've pretty much described me, not on the part of the gf but pretty much else the same yeah.

I have cut off relationships too many times, last one? a couple of weeks back. I have expectations of what a friendship should be and when I don't get shit in return I cut off. Don't get me wrong, I don't do it immediately, this case in particular has taken me years to realise.

Anyhoo, it's better to be alone than with toxic friends. I'm sick of everybody.

>>33222369
Honestly I'd die for a toxic relationship

>>33221218
>I try to make friends something goes wrong and people just dont like me.
>that hurts like hell and usually makes me leave
That actually means that YOU are the problem.

Sounds like you're not having difficulty meeting people.
Find what you're doing wrong. You will need to journal and think about what happen in those friendships that broke them (without ruminating on it) and think about how to do better next time.

We (/adv/) can't give more advice beyond that in this regard, since the scope of things that would make you isolated is so great I can't just guess what is wrong with you specifically. There could be any number of things

But ultimately, the pain of having YOU around was more the pleasure of having you around. Otherwise they would be insisting their way into your life even now.
That can be painful to admit, but that is the truth. I specifiy that it was you bc I know the urge will be to claim that you were not at fault. Just anticipating that and addressing it.

>>33217826 (OP)
Shared activities

It's the only way as an adult, really

Go to the climbing gym and get chatting to familiar faces over time, go surfing and do the same, join some sports club (run club, triathlon, whatever), or maybe some Facebook group for people who meet up and paint or draw, or some D&D club. Or get a motorbike and join a group for local riders and shit.

You need to DO things with people as an adult. And then maybe you'll get invited to the occasional meal out or drinks or whatever.

>>33225258
Problem is I cant get any feedback and Im just forgettable.
Always was.

>>33225280
it' gotten more difficult to socialize over time, plus the closer I get the more painful it gets.
I always feel like this fucking burden.
The amount of times I got told I couldnt join, without even asking to.
Getting rejected without even trying to make friends is fucking horrible dude.

>>33217826 (OP)
Coronahoax exposed the goyim on levels never before thought possible. We already had a decent idea of who the jews, elites, corporations, governments and the occultists really were and while there have been a lot of new revelations regarding their plans nothing pales in comparison to how much the goyim have been unmasked.

The fuckers who pushed it were geniuses and deserve our gratitude for exposing how foolish and willing to betray us most people really were. The real criminals are the morally sanctimonious narcissists who put their faith in governments and pharmaceutical mega corporations. Every day average "law abiding citizens" are the reason the world we live in is in such turmoil and full of suffering.

>>33227458
Think you are in the wrong thread, but nice tirade 9/10

>>33225280
>>33225258
Let me make my question specific;

Should I lie to people more to make friends?
Like tell them what they want to hear rather than the truth?
So far Ive started emphasizing that I am not the one to ask for a compliment or advice cause im not a professional or expert in whatever it is they sort of fish for compliments for, but I never Lie about how I feel about it.
Ive tried stfu rather than say anything but give it enough chances and I just tell people what I think and usually they will stop interacting with me.

For instance, I hate crime, I hate drugs, but this 20 year old kid is into both and is a bit of a wildman, but he is trying to do better.
Ive told him "im not into drugs" but i do manage to talk to him about it.
Though outside of the stories i have from being a kid, his stories bore the snot out of me.
IDGAF about resin n shit, but he does so I try to go along with it.
I honestly think he needs serious help and some normalcy. He seems intelligent enough.
He's a hoodlum as far as I know, but he doesnt strike me as the average idiot.

Anyways, I do find myself interacting with angry broken people more easily, cause they tend to be stuck in their own self pity, frustration, shit like that.
And I can actually relate.
Think the only consistent face outside of my parents, I had since I was a kid was my shrink.

Oh yeah, I also dont trust anybody.

Even right now I think you two are fucking with me, giving me cookie cutter responses.
Ive looked inside for years but i cant see anything and if I do I always fuck it up.


So yeah, you probably think that last part is shitty or something, but that is how I see it.
>im not schizo
>im not high
Im just scared dude

>>33227458
It was over before we were born

>>33219822
My only hobbies are video games and porn

>>33227458
THE
JEWS
ARE
RIGHT
ABOUT
THE
GOYIM

>>33217826 (OP)
I talk to people and am friendly.

>>33227678
Is the bed the compliment?

>>33228189
Wtf, why did nobody tell me?! :o

>>33227780
Does it help with making friends?

>>33217826 (OP)
Mutual experience

>>33228509
Beats me

>>33228510
Video games, yes.
Porn, not so much.

>>33217826 (OP)
>How do you guys make friends?
I got you dont I?

>>33228596
Not to be a dick, but we dont know each other and i have trust issues up wazoo.
>>33228556
kek I thought you'd get i was joking. I am nice dude.
>>33228580
I tried making friends over video games, but im not about to tell another grown man that im a lonely faggot in need of a friend.
They'd dodge me like an indian dodges suds.
>>33228525
Dont work.
I often rub somebody in the established friend group the wrong way and boom, im all alone again.

>>33228625
kek, I thought you'd get that I was mocking you.
I didn't say "nice", i said "friendly.

>>33217901
sounds like learned helplessness ngl

>>33228954
fucking semantics xD
>>33229876
Maybe

>>33217826 (OP)
shared objectives.
If you struggle perhaps your life is meaningless?

>>33231101
Bit of a blind answer dont you think?

>>33217826 (OP)
maybe dont go on twitter and interact with asocial retards

>>33231460
Are you gonna list off everything I shouldnt do?

I don't get why some of you are fucking around.

>>33223372
no you wouldn't. Be careful with what you wish for. A toxic relationship will drain you and oftentimes even might even drive you to suicidal thoughts. You don't know what you're talking about.

>>33234201
I was only half joking

Why’s this pic keep making me gay? Is that Jesus?

>>33234760
No my child, that is not me.

>>33234796
Whew, I was afraid I was getting gay.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q539m05DK3s

>>33234827
but it is a me OP

>>33228954
I just looked up the definitions and apparently friendly includes engaging rather than waiting.
Walking up to people like Jehova's witness is apparently being friendly.

I am not annoying like that, should I be?

fml i hate that cunt that walks up to you all happy to make small talk and bounces without a care in the world.

>>33228189
Normie ywnbaw