how do i stop fapping? - /adv/ (#33222375) [Archived: 937 hours ago]

Anonymous
6/15/2025, 11:24:40 AM No.33222375
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i've been fapping since 2019, nowadays i'm still trying to stop even though i can't, my fetishes and kinks are the main things that trigger my urge to fap. every single fucking time i do this i feel disgusted and dirty, i don't cry, but i feel like killing myself, and to make matters worse, i don't have any hobbies to avoid, i don't do anything daily, literally nothing, you know what i'm talking about, right. in case i get asked things like โ€œwhat are your kinks and fetishes?โ€ i might not provide them, only if i'm comfortable. btw if it matters, i don't watch real porn, i only watch fictional porn (anime). i accept any advice, unless it is negative and from an ignorant person.

no off-topic, plz.
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Anonymous
6/15/2025, 11:35:27 AM No.33222393
>>33222375 (OP)
you could try zoloft, or an older tricyclic antidepressant. They often kill your libido and ability to fap. You could also talk about it with someone until you feel that there is no need to feel disgusted by it.
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Anonymous
6/15/2025, 11:36:19 AM No.33222394
>>33222375 (OP)
Howie is a pedo? Neat. Perhaps you could get some form of hobby.
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Anonymous
6/15/2025, 12:02:13 PM No.33222446
>>33222375 (OP)
Fuck off back to /biz/.
Anonymous
6/15/2025, 12:10:42 PM No.33222472
>>33222393
thank u for the suggestion fren, i'd never talk about it with anyone, maybe i'm the only one who demonizes fapping, because it's affected me so much and i think everyone around me sees me as a retard, but i'm gonna see what i can do, because my life is difficult.
>>33222394
i can't, nobody helps me, i don't have enough to solve my problems on my own.
Anonymous
6/15/2025, 12:23:38 PM No.33222517
>>33222375 (OP)
Relax.
Masturbation is normal, natural and universal. It is NOT a sin nor a sign of moral inadequacy. It is mainly harmless (except for the possibility of temporarily wounding yourself by doing it badly).

And it is plasurable.
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Anonymous
6/15/2025, 12:55:51 PM No.33222618
>>33222375 (OP)
There is nothing wrong with fapping, I started fapping at 12 and still fap now at 30. It just sounds like you're fapping excessively, try getting a hobby or excercising, becoming a gymbro was one of the most beneficial things I've ever done.
Anonymous
6/15/2025, 1:37:06 PM No.33222725
>>33222375 (OP)
Jerk off so much until you can't and then set up a day counter like other addicts do
Anonymous
6/15/2025, 1:51:58 PM No.33222769
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>>33222375 (OP)
Over 90% of men consume pornography on a daily basis, when you aspire to be different, you will realise that masturbating is not worth it. The way of quitting will be hard but you just have top force yourself not do it it anymore, simple as, nothing else but pure conviction can help.
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S
6/15/2025, 2:05:26 PM No.33222798
>>33222375 (OP)
Blow yourself instead, it feels way better
Anonymous
6/15/2025, 2:13:05 PM No.33222816
>>33222375 (OP)
>>33222393
>>33222517
Watch this youtu.be/8vQLGeReLmI
Anonymous
6/15/2025, 2:16:49 PM No.33222826
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>>33222769
what's so interesting about pornography? it's just a person fucking a pussy, an ass, performing oral sex on someone, nothing more, this is boring. almost the entire population of the world consumes this shitty stuff, which besides being totally idiotic, makes people brain dead.
Anonymous
6/15/2025, 2:40:10 PM No.33222879
In this rotten society we live in we are constantly bombarded with sex and pornography. You can't scroll a Facebook feed or YouTube shorts for 1 minute without seeing some thot showing her ass to the camera so on some level it's not entirely your fault. It seems to me however that you've gone past that point seeing as you're now chasing fetishes and kinks.
The fact that you don't have any hobbies only exacerbates this problem. That parasite in your brain imposes itself over you everytime you feel bored and urges you to get a quick masturbatory fix.
I believe there is no easy way out of here. Your own instincts are weaponzied against you. If we were to live in a tribal society you wouldn't have the time or the means to devolve into such meaningless onanism but with all this pornography at our fingertips it's hard to resist temptation. In this age all of us are little Caligula emperors.
There are 2 ways to improve this condition... The first is to occupy your mind and your body so this parasite in your brain doesn't have the possibility to urge you to fap. I can't speak for you, but I found comfort in reading and I'm also developing a game as a hobby. I found a Facebook group and once a week I also play volleyball which is nice way to direct that sexual energy towards something that improves yourself.
The other way is to realise that sexual releass is detrimental to your well being. The ancient Chinese used to say that 1 drop of semen is equal to 100 drops of blood. Abstinence used to be thought as a way to enlightenment and even in relationships it is better to practice tantric sex than to seek sexual release. The book cupid's poisoned arrow can provide some insight into this.

All in all it comes down to a question of willpower. Are you strong enough to abstain or not? If you manage to eventually your urges to away and you reinvest that energy into yourself but you have give up on your reptilian brain and let ration take control.a

What are your kinks anyway?
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Anonymous
6/15/2025, 3:00:46 PM No.33222909
>>33222879
femdom (i'm very into gentle femdom), foot, thigh, pet play, etcetera... etcetera... etcetera...
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Anonymous
6/15/2025, 10:53:52 PM No.33224546
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>>33222879
sorry for the late reply but anyway thank you very much fren, your text is the thing that most reflects today's society, i get a headache seeing pornography everywhere, seeing children/teenagers/old people/adults consuming this disgusting stuff, like? they barely know that this kind of thing is bad for their brains, i found out about pornography when i was 8 years old, i went through a lot of bad stuff in my childhood because of it, it could have ended better if i hadn't found out about this. i'll try my best to stop with fapping and porn (even if it's fictional).
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Anonymous
6/15/2025, 10:56:51 PM No.33224565
>>33224546
get the fuck out you retarded avatarfag
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Anonymous
6/15/2025, 11:42:26 PM No.33224786
>>33222375 (OP)
>nowadays i'm still trying to stop even though i can't
Why? Masturbation is normal and healthy. There is no good reason to stop.
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Anonymous
6/16/2025, 12:26:38 AM No.33225005
>>33224786
but i feel guilty and dirty doing it, even if it's normal.
Real a$s niga
6/16/2025, 4:48:35 AM No.33226381
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>>33222879
Good poast

Find a wife have kids OP

>>33222909
>Pet play
You're the pet, right??
>Etc
Keep going
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Anonymous
6/16/2025, 12:08:15 PM No.33227827
>>33226381
yes i am the pet.
Anonymous
6/16/2025, 9:11:03 PM No.33229762
I jerked it every day for almost 15 years to porn. Some advice
>stop caring
Yes, cliche, but true. Your fixation is on yourself and thinking there is something wrong with you. Everything in excess is bad, but youre a guy, we are all horny as fuck. Sometimes you gotta jerk it. The more you think there is something wrong to fix the more you focus on it and make it something bigger than it is. Kanye was addicted to porn for years and still became super successful. He never really gave a shit and would even bring up porn in interviews. If you want to jerk off you should actually do it, and then when you're done find something you actually want to do. Dont spend ours looking for the right porn or gooning, do it and get it over with. Dont feel bad, and then search for something that interests you. The new thing will help you find motivation in life. Like an instrument or hobby. If youre single jerking is kinda expected. Go work out and take care of yourself a bit better, and get a gf. I got my first gf last year and we lasted 7 months but when you have regular sex you dont need porn. I watched and jerked it maybe once a month when we were dating. Sex is like a palette cleanser. Whenever I have it I can suddenly go a week or two without needing to fap. Good luck anon
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Anonymous
6/17/2025, 12:04:58 AM No.33230732
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Work backwards and gradually cut it down. For me the first thing I addressed was doing it every other day during the week, I got that down to once a week by having a specific day for it. Autistic as fuck yes but it's a technique that worked, it's what those self-help types mean when they say to "be kind" to yourself I think. The bigger issue for me was the fact that I would do it for too long, and that was because of how easy it was to access an infinite amount of content. I also noticed how the longer a session went, the more likely I'd start gravitating towards weird fetishes and inevitably sorta faggy humiliating stuff that I never used to even think about in the pursuit of novelty, sort of proof of what they say about too much porn turning you gay. You said you're a 2D man? Likewise, so I decided to limit myself to a single character or artist per session and make it images only. I haven't stopped, no, but I can proudly say that I've gone from cranking one out every other night for 2+ hours to thousands of videos and pictures and games that make me feel like Satan afterwards to doing it once a week, for 20-30 minutes, to something fairly vanilla all things considered. Maybe one day you can then quit outright from that position, which is much less daunting, but on the other hand maybe you'll realise that it isn't all black and white. You might even discover that you don't actually have any of those kinks and fetishes you thought you had to begin with, once the porn lenses came off I definitely realised that a lot of those things didn't really appeal as much as I'd thought. Chin up anon, you're gonna make it.
>>33222909
>femdom (i'm very into gentle femdom), foot, thigh, pet play, etcetera... etcetera... etcetera...
I thought I was into that sorta stuff for years, then I realised it was purely a low self-esteem thing. I still have low self-esteem, mind, but now that I understand that it probably never was a fetish to begin with per se.
Anonymous
6/17/2025, 2:34:35 AM No.33231712
>>33229762
even though it's healthy and natural, i still feel dirty and i feel like i'm overdoing it too much, and that everyone around me thinks i'm weird for doing it. occasionally i'll go look for a gf because right now i don't trust women very much yet, unless they're loyal, and not manipulative too (i've been through a lot of this my whole life and most of those who have done this have been women). btw thanks for the advice, i'll try to stop caring about it.
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Anonymous
6/17/2025, 8:17:12 PM No.33234854
>>33231712
>overdoing it too much
Yea I bet you are, but again, stop caring. Care about other things and slowly it starts to solve itself. Think about it, right now the most important thing in your life is jerking off. Make something else more important, and it solves itself because youll want to do that other thing more. Itll take a bit of time to get there.
>that everyone around me thinks i'm weird for doing it
Are you telling people you jerk off all the time? No. So stop caring what they think. Youre not gonna die from jerking too much, youre just sad youve got nothing to look forward to each day. Thats the real problem here. Its sobering knowing youre not gonna be here forever, bust a nut real fast then sit down and think about what you really want to do with your life