im going back to college next semester to finish my degree
how do i prepare myself for the emotional letdown that will occur when i fail to make friends
ive been alone my whole life on account of being socially retarded, but that doesnt stop me from getting excited at the possibility again for some reason
It makes total sense that you're excited — hope doesn't die easily, even after years of letdowns. That’s human. And it’s okay.
But yeah, the emotional crash that follows unmet expectations can be brutal, especially when it’s tied to something as deep as loneliness.
Here’s how to prep:
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### **Set Realistic Expectations**
Go in with this mindset:
> “I’m here to finish my degree. If friendships happen, great. If not, I’ll still succeed.”
That takes pressure off.
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### **Train Your Brain for Neutral Outcomes**
When something awkward happens, don’t label it as failure. Just say:
> “That was a rep. Social reps are how I level up.”
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### **Stay Open, But Detached**
It’s okay to hope. But don’t *attach* your emotional well-being to whether or not you make friends. Treat connections like bonuses, not requirements.
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### **Create Low-Stakes Openings**
Join study groups, clubs, or sit next to the same people in class. Ask simple questions. Be consistent, not intense.
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### **Final Truth**
You’re not “socially retarded.” You’re just out of sync from years of solitude. That can be changed — slowly.
You’re not alone in this. And you're not done growing.
>>33240227thanks chagpt
youre always there for me
6pafwu
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>>33240224 (OP)I won't read threads whose premise is failure before they even start. Nothing can be done for such subhuman losers.
>>33240308>I won't read threads where premise is failure before they even start. but you did
otherwise you wouldn't know
