what do you do when you "love too hard"?

i get very attached to people. i can only speak of platonic relationships here, since ive never been in a romantic one but i cant even imagine how terribly i would do in a romantic relationship.

it feels like i cant be loved the way i love. i know the way i love is unhealthy and so i wouldnt want that for anyone else, especially not for someone i care for but it still feels terrible. no matter what i do i can never feel secure with another person because i feel like they will leave me even when they're acting like normal friends. i dont know what to do. i should be grateful for what i have, and i am, but its like its never enough

i've dated several times, they all ended up poorly. i suffered from emotional dependence and many other issues.
>''why did they all end up poorly?''
anger issues, emotional dependence, lack of control, etc. nowadays i'm much better and i'm looking for a caring gf (like mommy gf).
>no matter what i do i can never feel secure with another person because i feel like they will leave me even when they're acting like normal friends.
i have this feeling too, i understand how horrible it is to give all your love to the person, give everything, do everything for them, only to end up like this. but before it was worse, i asked my girlfriend all the time things like "do you love me?" "do you hate me?" "do you still like me?", i suspect you, op, do the same thing. it was a suffering for 2 years. you occasionally get better over time if you cope, you stay with these issues for a long time, maybe even longer than my suffering lasted, but it's not forever, you get better and change a lot, in my case i did.

which way you love anyway?

>>33253367
i try not to bother my friends with "do you hate me" type questions. i know it would bother them.
>which way you love anyway?
both ways. this post was more about friendships tho so its not that relevant

>>33253383
oh then idk i dont like having frens..