Thread 33259472

What are you even supposed to do as a lonely man? I am so lonely and touch-starved that i am incapable of not thinking about a woman romantically. Being around women always end in disaster because I just can't hide it and they get creeped out. I don't know what to do.

>>33259472 (OP)
Do you not talk to women in general?

>>33259554
In what way? At work? Yes. Family? Yes. Female friends? I have none.

>>33259472 (OP)
>I am so lonely and touch-starved that i am incapable of not thinking about a woman romantically
false. there are women you can think about non romantically anyway. get fat or black or lesbian friends that are girls and platonically hug you

>>33259589
>friends that are girls and platonically hug you
Not OP but it's not the same man

>>33259589
That would not me give I need. I want to feel desired man. I don't give a shit about le friendship. I prefer being alone. But when it comes to romantic relationships it's another story.

>>33259554
He does, but his brain, in a desperate attempt to ensure his genes will be passed on, sees almost every women he interacts with as an unmistakable love interest, making him acting weirdly while trying to hide his exaggerated feelings and the lady in question feel creeped out by his unusual behavior. The result is that he feels more alienated as time goes by, thus making the whole process worse every time it happens. OP may correct me if I'm mistaken

>>33259641
No, you are 100% correct

>>33259577
At work is good enough, especially if they're attractive. Maybe you can turn them into friends?

>>33259641
This is quite the deep hole lol

>>33259678
They're all older than me and married. The only girl that worked with that was cute was also married and she quit.

>>33259727
That's fine. You can still talk to them for practice. As for female friends, if you want to make them, you'll have to do that through your hobbies.

>>33259614
no shit it's not the same that's the fucking point. he can't see girls and touching girls as anything but romantic. what i recommended allows you to deal with women with no romance

>>33259632
you can't get romantic relationships until you can deal with women. i thought you wanted advice, you're gonna have to do something that isn't directly what you want

>>33259651
Well, my accurate description of your problem stems from the fact that I have been going through the same issues as you for quite some time now(crippling loneliness, touch-starvation, neediness towards women, etc). I wish I could be of help, but I haven't found a solution myself. The best I managed to do recently is trying to harness my self-awareness and understanding. The problem regarding women can be traced back to a multitude of underlying causes that might makes you act like that. Maybe you had a shitty upbringing (or just lacked a decent fatherly figure while growing up), maybe some traumatic event is influencing your behavior in the background, or, most probable, there's a combination of factors (emotional and environmental) crippling your social skills. Those are all possible options worth paying attention to.

>>33259750
>no romance
i.e no intimacy, what's the fucking point

>>33259753
Lol. I have been doing the exactly same as you. Yes, I probably have attachment issues due to upbringing. But what can you do when you're already in this hole?

>>33259753
>>33259651
Intropect(objectively, without devolving into rumination), try to notice or even anticipate harmful thought/behavioral patterns, seek to understand from where they come from, and act accordingly to get different outcomes, those can be constant exposure(people in general, but I know the focus here is women), mindfulness, healthy lifestyle choices, yadda yadda, all the good stuff.

>>33259771
Build experience and tolerance towards the emotional process that have been sabotaging him in the first place. After getting enough experience, trying to have intimacy is the obvious next step.

>>33259793
Sorry for the typos, it's midnight where I live and I'm esl

>>33259472 (OP)
I won't read I'm soooo looonely! threads posted by basement-dwelling, perpetually-online, subhuman morons. Go outside.

>>33259472 (OP)
Post more funny pics

>>33259632
>I prefer being alone.
Well, there's your problem!
By which I mean: there is no problem at all.
Enjoy staying alone.

>>33259472 (OP)
>What are you even supposed to do as a lonely man?
MOBILIZE, ORGANIZE, REVOLT!!!!!!