Thread 33292782

>be me
>sitting by myself (in a busy public area)
>a couple of girls come sit next to me
>they're taking photos of each other
>think about offering to take a photo of them but feel like I don't want to interrupt them
>one of them starts talking about how fat she is (she wasn't really, it sounded like she was fishing for complements)
>mentions out of nowhere how she recently got dumped
>starts talking about the tattoos she has
>she's talking really loud to her friend about this stuff and I get the strange feeling she's trying to attract my attention (no other guys were there it was just me)
>don't say anything because I'm autistic and not really sure
>eventually after a while they get up and walk away
Tell me I didn't miss an opportunity here and I'm reading too much into this. Is this how girls try to get a guy's attention?

>>33292782 (OP)
Alright this is going to help you out with social skills. I'm going to give you a tip and I want you to use it to help yourself. Instead of when you have a conversation you predict it will work like a movie scene, understand it by listening, it working out in an unpredictable anti-climactic realistic way.

Alright what I said sounds a bit confusing, but try to ponder on it a bit.

>>33292782 (OP)
Can only speak from my own experience, but probably nothing. When i was young and still had some shred of optimism i had similar thoughts on a few occasions. Some inane thing causing me to daydream about how maybe she might have been interested or something. Delusions of a desperate mind.

>>33292782 (OP)
Did someone talk to you directly? No.
Don't pay that much attention to it. Simple as.

>>33292840
To be honest I think expecting it to end pessimistically is as delusional as expecting it to end optimistically. It's like Schroedinger's box. I regret being too shy to actually talk to them, even in a casual way, that way I would be able to know for sure and not have to speculate.
>>33292847
How old are you?

>>33292888
Do women generally make the first move?

>>33292899
>How old are you?
late 20's

>>33292840
>it working out in an unpredictable anti-climactic realistic way
It's confusing because it doens't make any sense

>>33292914
If it's over for you it's over for me.

>>33292912
I mean, it gets tiring to be reading "signals" everywhere.

>>33292925
>nta
I think he's basically saying "just listen and let the conversation flow, rather than trying to structure and anticipate it in your mind".

>>33292939
This.

>>33292930
I'm assuming you're younger? As much of a miserable blackpill fuck as i am, i would give you the usual normalfag advice of not quite throwing in the towel yet. I don't know your situation, but some anons really do just need some exercise and social exposure. I'm personally not a huge believer in looksmaxxing, but being well groomed and dressing well can go a long way. Honestly if you have a personality and can hold a conversation with people/friends/whatever, i think you have a shot. I'm fucked on account of being an absolute mental zombie, with my height and looks just being an extra kick while im down.

>>33292974
I don't think my looks are the problem to be honest. I think it's my shyness, lack of social awareness and lack of confidence, which is far more crippling.

>>33293022
That's actually heartening, since those are all things that can be fixed.
>shyness,
Exposure is a good remedy for this. Any time you're in a social setting, at work, etc., force yourself to put the effort in to engage with people.
>lack of social awareness
I used to be god-awful about this one. Honestly it just came to me with age. My late teens and early 20's i was fucking clueless. The fact that you at least recognize you even have that issue though is already doing better than i was. Wish i had something more helpful.
>lack of confidence
This is probably the one i know the least about. Getting fit is the obvious thing to do if nothing else. I let my body wither since becoming a NEET, and it destroyed what little shreds of confidence i didn't even know i could lose.

You sound like a very workable case anon, don't let yourself turn into a sad sack of shit in your later years out of lack of trying.

>>33293022
>>33293068
Would also add on to the confidence bit: Whatever you do, be it work or anything else, don't be apathetic or half-assed about it, give it 110% even if it is just some bullshit work task or what have you. Sounds corny to say, but there is confidence to be had in taking pride in your work or whatever else you might be doing.

>>33293088
I don't see how confidence at work translates to confidence with women.

>>33293354
It's more about being confident in general. i'd be lying if i said i knew much about dealing with women, but you can't go wrong with a good personal foundation.