Thread 33293450

I feel like I’m living to seek women’s approval. Every time I get a connection with a woman, and it doesn’t work out, I get this feeling of depression that I otherwise do not. I feel as if I value myself by seeking their validation. I want this to stop, but don’t know how to let go of this feeling

>>33293450 (OP)
Before getting someone else to fall in love with you, have you tried falling in love with yourself? It's only when I figured that I'm a hard person to love that I started making it easier for myself, and easier for everyone, and even if nobody loves you in the end, you'll still have that self-respect and no rejection will drag you down. Don't seek their approval. You don't need it. Welcome them for a trip with you, but be aware that not everyone is ready for an adventure.

>>33293589
But that’s just cope and is not enough to actually snap out of this

>>33293600
Yes, anon. You have to cope with feelings, because that's all you can do. You can't help what you feel. If your arm hurts and you grab at it, that's cope too, but it sure does make you feel better. There's nothing wrong with coping when it comes to feelings.

>>33293450 (OP)
>Every time I get a connection with a woman, and it doesn’t work out
What does that mean? Are you being cringe and asking bitches out as soon as you think they don’t dislike you? Approval for what?
I am not a modern pickup artist or anything but I have always had a girl and all it is is to be cool and have fun to the point that she’s yours. Let it sneak up on her until it’s implied that it already happened. And then you might as well start humping.

>>33293965
Yeah, that’s a good idea. Still, we gotta be the ones to actually ask them out. What’s a good way for it flow into that? Because we still have to ultimately ask them out in one way or another. Just not sure how to escalate attraction appropriately

>>33293450 (OP)
If you feel like you are living to seek woman's approval, then that's your life nigga! Find a good one

>>33294005
>one way or another
To start doing stuff and making decisions as a couple.

>>33293965
Behold, the only man alive who has never been rejected. Ignore this retard OP and develop your self esteem. So things that you feel good about, regularly, not shameful things like fap and waste the day playing videogames.

You need other people to like you because you don't like yourself.

>>33293450 (OP)
live to get very good at some [activity/job/skill/craft/etc.]
you'll notice once you've become good at something and quit caring as much about women, they'll become interested in you. shit is like magic.

>>33293450 (OP)
Hehe, I go to therapy for a very related reason.
In my case the source is my parents always wanting me to be the best at something and praising me based on results, never on effort.
If it's this deeply rooted it's honestly hard to fix that shit on your own

>>33295479
I was rejected when I was twelve so I switched my attention to some other gal that I was ignoring. I always had plenty to pawn off on my friends too. Idk why you are mad. I am not any kind of catch at all. Just not going around acting needy.