I really love having sex with my girlfriend but I can't orgasm/cum. It's kinda nice in a way because I can last really long before getting tired and I can finish her several times an hour, but still I wish I could cum. It's not that she's bad at it, she gives good blowjobs and likes to be on top, but no matter how much I like it I just can't cum.
It's likely something to do with my way of masturbating. I don't use my hands, I press my dick against a pillow or my mattress. I do it since I was 8 and never thought about changing it because I find using my hands is kinda difficult and takes too long. Also the orgasm is weaker. What do?

Quit fucking pillows and mattresses

>>33310356
I try but regular masturbation doesn't make me cum every time

>>33310312 (OP)
Ask your girl to jerk you off with a pillow or a piece of memory foam.

>>33310369
Because you've desensitized your dick with the mattress-humping.
This is a common issue by the way. Prone masturbation is known to diminish erections and sexual function. You're fucking up the nerves in your penis and no vagina or hand can offer as much pressure as sandwiching your dick under your body weight so you won't be able to get off any other way if you keep doing it.

https://healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/prone-masturbation
https://metromaleclinic.com/negative-effects-of-prone-masturbation-how-to-overcome-it/

>>33310312 (OP)
I'm a two-pump-chump. I'm still wondering if women prefer that or guys like you who never orgasm. I've heard both lol

>>33310312 (OP)
Oh Chuddie

>>33310438
In my limited experience it's the former. I've dated girls who couldn't make me cum and it was always a point of contention. Another woman I dated said she preferred 10 minute quickies to hour long marathons, but everybody is different I suppose.

>>33310436
Fuck. Can I recover?

>>33310446
Yes, that's also what I've heard from other people. They feel good about making a man coom fast. Meaning their pussy rocks. I personally never had any frustration from girls, they were understanding and sweet about it, but it sucks for me of course.

I've heard from other anons, that not busting is very frustrating.
Have you tried no fap, celibacy?

>>33310453
In a way I have. I haven't dated for a long time, I have no desire to. So in that way I am kind of celibate. I don't do no fap. When I feel like jerking off, I do and usually those times are days apart

>>33310452
Your case doesn't sound that bad considering you can maintain an erection and getting off through normal masturbation isn't impossible.
I have no personal experience but googling prone masturbation just now I saw people on Reddit and Quora discussing this and claiming that cutting out porn and masturbation for a period of time helped. I imagine it's the same as women who fuck themselves numb with vibrators, you just need the willpower to stop doing it and time for your genitals to adjust to normal stimulation.