Thread 33310576

Friend of mine just got dumped. With her since college. Ten years. Ten years and she just woke up one morning and told him "Listen, I'm not happy in this relationship, it's better if we go our own way."
>reddit spacing
That's it. That's all it took. One simple morning, one sentence, she picked her stuff and she was gone.

Guy is one of the nicest (read: most carpet/submissive/simp) man I ever met. Earns $85k a year. Pays restaurants, travels, everything. Gave her incredible gifts, even a cruise once. She works as some educator for half that.

He financed her for years, even paid 2/3 rent, and one morning, despite all he did for her - boom, gone. All those "I love you," "you're the man of my life," "I want to be with you forever," meaningless. Miss woke up one morning in a bad mood and that was it, game over, do not pass go.

All that time, effort, money - wasted.

>>33310576 (OP)
What is the point of watching a movie when it's going to end after 2 hours anyway?

>>33310576 (OP)
You only have one half of the story. Maybe your friend really was as nice and submissive as you claim. Maybe not. Maybe it wasn't about being nice or bad, maybe there was massive things your buddy sucked at or had missed entirely.

Point is whenever you talk to someone who gets dumped, you'll rarely hear the full truth from them, they tend to victimize themselves and downplay any contributing factors coming from themselves. Most of them don't do it out of lying they just really are oblivious to their problems. Or in denial, whichever.
If it'd been the other way around and he dumped her, I'd also caution against her side of the story too.

Yeah you think he is such a nice and dependable guy as a friend. But you don't know him as a lover for obvious reasons. You never get to see that side. So you'll never know why they broke up.

>>33310576 (OP)
I won't read threads whose premise is that gf/bf is a final goal rather than a stepping stone to evaluate someone for marriage. It shouldn't need very long.

>>33310576 (OP)
I guess that's why my ex is so mad at me lol
I'm a dude and I dumped her without explaining anything when I travelled abroad
the other day I went to see the reactions on a picture of a friend we have in common on facebook and I sent a friend request by mistake and quickly cancelled it
and I received a long and very aggresive message
very aggresive, very mad, accused me of everything including rape even tho we always had consensual sex.
anyways people hate time wasted I guess but she was the toxic one and dudes can just end things up like that, not only girls.

>>33310576 (OP)
This doesn't happen, anon. People don't just wake up one day and decide to dump you. It happens because of long-term relationship/emotional erosion. Much of the time, the dumpee won't even notice this gradual erosion because he/she isn't paying enough attention. Maybe he repeatedly brushed off her complaints, until she gave up and stopped complaining or getting angry and just stewed in silent resentment, which he took as a sign of there being no problems anymore - but the problems never went away, she just stopped talking about them because she felt hopeless.

Buying her shit is useless if he isn't addressing her actual concerns. Let's say, for example, she was complaining that she needed more signs of affection, and it felt like he didn't love her because he didn't like to kiss, didn't caress her, didn't tell her he loves her before bed or before work, stuff like that. The next day, he buys her a necklace. Not only does this not fix the problem, it makes her feel unheard. She asked for more kisses and words, he buys her a thing. Not what she asked for, not what she wanted. Do you get it?

Anyway, I'm sure she stewed in silent resentment for a long time, slowly detaching and figuring out an exit plan, then just said "Okay, bye". Did you speak to her? I'm sure her story is entirely different than his.

>>33310588
>what's the point of loving family when they can go no contact
>what's the point of getting a job if you can just be laid off
>what's the point of making friends if they can just move across the country

yep its pretty much impossible to keep a woman long term without becoming her servant boy. If you want to have balls and you want to keep a woman long term then you had better be an absolute alpha beast who crushes it every day and never shows her a hint of weakness ever.

What's the point to life if you're just gonna die in the end alone anyway?

What's the point to a delicious dessert if it's just gonna be finished in one setting?

What's the point--

The journey anon, the journey and experience is the point. Life is short, so fall in love pussy

>>33311152
This

>>33310576 (OP)
Do not take advice from people like >>33311222. These guys are the ones you should listen to wholeheartedly >>33310600 and >>33311072.

>>33310576 (OP)
Somebody has to breed and raise the next generation of goyim nigger cattle. Most normies will happily step up to the plate and wage their life away for a chance to reproduce. I'm just glad that's not me.

>>33311349
>goyim nigger cattle
This series of words coming from your brain is essentially a steelclad confirmation that you will never touch a human vagina without paying for it.

>>33311336
filtered. >>33311222 is the most wise comment of them all. You really do have to be an incredibly strong man to keep a woman around without her wearing the pants. Women are like a drip of water that can crack a boulder. The nagging is legit powerful.

>>33311432
>You really do have to be an incredibly strong man to keep a woman around without her wearing the pants
Oh ok. So how long have you and your girlfriend been together, alpha dog?

>>33311440
I have never kept a girl around for more than 3 years and I am an old fag who has had many relationships. As I said its extremely difficult if you refuse to be a provider or helper in any capacity. Pimping ain't easy.

>>33311507
>I have never kept a girl around for more than 3 years and I am an old fag who has had many relationships.
So, in other words, you don't really know anything about what it takes to keep a woman around firsthand. You've failed to do it. You just went from failed relationship to failed relationship and, seemingly, never learned from your mistakes to build a successful one. It makes you wonder when people like you, failures who have no first hand experience with the concepts they talk about, are at the forefront of giving relationship advice/insight.

>>33310576 (OP)
>10 years together
>no marriage
>no kids

>>33310576 (OP)
Anyone can dump anyone without warning
I dumped my girlfriend of a year because being with her was a chore and she was draining all my money
Shit happens, get over it

>>33311535
I know exactly what anon is talking about. On some level with women you are going to have to become a beta provider or she will leave because if she is attractive there is going to be a line of guys around the block who want to provide for her, take her grocery shopping, take her to brunch, give her thoughtful gestures, cuddle her to sleep every night etc. If you refuse to step into the womans frame the relationship almost always has a time limit unless you really enthrall her or there is an attractiveness imbalance.

>>33311562
Ok I guess its your turn. How is your long term relationship going? Obviously you wouldn't jump in here to save this guy who has no clue what he's talking about without any firsthand experience in alpha dogging your way to a successful long term relationship.

>>33310576 (OP)
>>33310600
>>33311072
Good responses. This never, ever just happens out of nowhere. I guarantee you there were numerous warning signs over the course of the years that your friend just chose to ignore.

Women are really easy to read btw, it's just that most men don't bother because they don't care. You can tell when a woman is genuinely into you vs. when she thinks you're "nice enough" but isn't actually attracted to you.

>>33311562
>Beta provider

There's nothing beta about providing for what's you and yours. It's the bread and butter of masculinity: Hunt, gather, provide & protect. What's actually beta is being an all-consuming deadbeat who just takes from everyone and expects people to fawn after then without merit. The only humans who have a right to do that are children who require it from parents. Men who provide have the luxury to do so because they are strong, externally and internally. They can afford to provide. The only guys who shit themselves at the idea of providing for something or someone that isn't themselves are those who don't have the strength, they typically aren't thriving and are barely able to exist with themselves nevermind others.

>>33310600
This post is nonsense. You’re assuming that being submissive and nice is how you maintain a relationship. It’s nonsense. You maintain a relationship by continuing to be what the woman is interested in. For most women, that is an ambitious, confident man with social proof. Men fuck up and get dumped when they get lazy and unmotivated. Do not be a slave to her will, understand what you want and how to treat a woman with respect, but do not mistake being a push over for being a good mate

>>33311726
>You’re assuming that being submissive and nice is how you maintain a relationship.

No, if you understand the reply, I was following on OP's own assumption. He's the one who claims his friend was 'nice' and submissive. You are right though about not being a submissive wimp though.

>>33311336
You are an oblivious woman or a tranny

>>33311354
Not that anon but I will gladly say Goyim nigger cattle and I have 2 kids, a loving wife and a home

>>33310588
This, obviously.
I'm a virgin incel and I'd have preferred to go through tens of different relationships and breakups than the absolute nothingness that I have experienced.

>>33311720
Yeah she isnt yours bro. You cant hit her you go to jail. She can leave for NO reason and take half. Providing for a woman was good back in the day when she actually did belong to you. Nowadays you are a cuck

>>33310576 (OP)
Its never as sudden as they like to claim. They have already been thinking about it for a long time and probably have already been with some guy(s) to see if she is still able to attract them. Sometimes they even have a specific guy in mind who has made promises to them and they have decided to jump to his lilly pad at your expense.

But believe me, they never do this on the spur of the moment. They've even been talking to their friends about it and of course the friends ALWAYS encourage her to leave you mostly just to cause trouble and make themselves feel better about their own divorces

>>33310576 (OP)
>with no warning
if you can't see a a breakup coming it's either because you lack experience with relationships or you're cursed with a touch of autism where you can't like read emotions on people's faces and body language.

>With her since college. Ten years
Yeah if your firend is slightly artistic and this was only the liked 3rd girl he ever dated before spending 10 years with her he wouldn't have seen the breakup coming even if it was written "breakup" on the girl's forehead for well over a year.

>>33311739
Imagine LARPing as a successful family man to impress a bunch of autistic teenage virgins

>>33312124
i think its funny that you use fitting into society and getting girls as the litmus test for good and bad. That is the textbook definition of over-socialization

>>33310588
>>33311152
>>33311233

soo true, besties.

>>33311233
>>33311336
>>33311072
>>33310576 (OP)
OP listen to these people if you want a real relationship

>>33311222
>>33311432
Or listen to these if you want to keep avoiding real emotional connection with a lover forever

>>33310576 (OP)
this shit doesn't happen in a day, your friend is probably a pussy

>>33311354
>foid who thinks her ugly gash is worth touching
Hehe, you can keep your rotten hole bitch. Hope you breed many goylets, the only question remains why are you still here instead of out there raising the next generation of goyim cattle? Perhaps because you are ugly and nobody wants to pump kids in you? Guess we will never know.

date women but dont be monogamous

What’s the point of living when you could die tomorrow with no warning or reason?

>>33315489
>What’s the point of living when you could die tomorrow with no warning or reason?
biological imperative.