I mean they are each other's "best friends", maybe even "codependent"? But least they are loyal? They're one of few Hollywood couples that haven't separated, or are they?

I've been coping with losing a girl who sought the caretaker role. I'm damaged goods (obviously, evident from the fact that I'm on here), but I was never comfortable with the way she mommy-talked me when things got contentious. I felt myself becoming smaller, and needing to attribute some successes to emotional support from her. It felt invasive. It reminded me of family and obviously, it didn't work out. She even had Nia's smile, with how the lip is shaped upward, pissed me off for some reason (reminded me of my manipulative uncle).

But seeing couples like this it takes me back. I wonder if I missed out on a lifelong partner. If I'm retarded. Or if relationships like that are fundamentally toxic? I look at Bill Burr, and he seems to self-isolate. It's like he can only open up to Nia, remain damaged and prove himself to the public. He seemed way more authentic 15 years ago, even in his work.

What do you think /adv/? Are relationships like this toxic?
Also a thing I noticed, there are never any children around. Bill Burr has one daughter, but it is always him and Nia, they're never doing things as a family. It also says a bit about the relationship if you only have one child. It's like you had the child for yourself, and don't care about their lives and having siblings. https://www.instagram.com/reel/DBWyOcUylPh/

>>33325542 (OP)
>lip
I notice I didn't get that in the image, might leave people curious, totally unrelated, it just reminded me more because the smile was similar. It's a combination of upper lip shape and gums

I think it’s great that you recognize your loss. If you’re even identifying that a lifelong partner was in the cards, then that means they were important.

Heh. I guess they’re at peace. Why do you act like you know them? They are just celebrities you’ve never met.

>>33325565
>If you’re even identifying that a lifelong partner was in the cards
I don't. It would've never worked out between us but I wonder if I'm destined for this kind of dynamic or if I should strive for something "healthier(?)". Had I stayed in that relationship, I could see myself having the life of Bill Burr. One child, possibly, as a relationship "benchmark" and then sticking around because of trauma bonding.
I look at couples like Bill, at least they are lifelong partners, but is it healthy? You can have lifelong partners without seeming codependent.

How could you not want to have more children if you "truly" were happy in the relationship. What would the goal of the relationship be – to feel good about yourself? That's encroaching trauma bonding. If you were truly fulfilled with someone else, you'd be curious about binging more people into the world with them. And if that's fulfilling, you'd want more of it. Time and energy would be the limiting factor, not whatever is going on here.

>>33325542 (OP)
They have two kids you twit. Not parading their kids in front of the media is a credit to their parenting skills.
Bill Burr is less authentic because he's Disney now and making Disney money, who cares about being "authentic". He's still good and authentic enough, judging by his latest special.
Anyway, you need therapy or something, not 4chan advice. Not that therapists are any good, but, you need to some back-and-forth reflection and observation about your dysfunctionalness.
Rambling about celebrities isn't that useful, except maybe as a sort of Rorschach test, it's you projecting your psychological issues onto them, you don't know anything about them.

>>33325542 (OP)
If you don't like being mothered and it makes you feel disrespected, then you just weren't compatible. She needs someone that has mommy issues and likes coddling, you need someone who treats you like a man and not a boy. It's nice being taken care of, it's not nice to be talked down to like a child by your partner, or being treated with kid gloves when you want to be an equal partner with you. Also, if you enjoy the provider man of the house dynamic, doesn't sound like she was offering that. Don't ask if you missed out on a possible good thing, ask if she wanted the kind of relationship you wanted, or was offering what you were looking for. Doesn't sound like it, so you wouldn't have been happy.

>>33325591
>you don't know anything about them.
Wdym? They put their life up on display. How would you know something about somebody if not for what they tell you about themselves. They post on social media, do a podcast about their relationship, talk about what's on their mind. We can know them enough to do reliable Rorschach tests, there's nothing wrong with that.

>Good parenting if you don't involve your kids in your work
This is not an absolute. I don't need to list the examples, but the issue is when both parents are active and you still see little of the kids. It begs the question who is involved in the kids' life.

Couples like picrel have both active parents, which forces the kids to be involved due to time constraints, and the kids aren't fucked up for it.
Then you have couples like Joe Rogan, when only one is active. He can afford "hiding" the kids, because mommy is with them.

Then you have couples like Bill and Nia, where both are active, and both hide their kids. This is when it becomes weird.

>>33325626
Yes, emotionally, I don't want to be mothered. I guess it all boils down to compatibility.

>>33325640
>Couples like picrel
Forgot pic

>>33325640
Dude he couldn't even get right how many kids they have and goes off on them having one kid means yadda yadda. The shape of Nia's lip, the kids not being on camera means "they're never doing things as a family" when obviously they are doing things in private. Totally useless things to focus on.

>>33325674
The shape of the lip reminded of ex, which triggered the thinking, nothing else, admitted it meant nothing
Right about the kids though, but they do seem reserved. It's weird to only post on social media with your spouse. Imagine being a child in that family, watching memories of your parents online, it creates an emotional distance.

>>33325542 (OP)
Bill Burr is not the best example of a good marriage (pic rel).

>>33325708
Oh wow. But the guy in that skit is not darker than Nia? He looks mulatto

>>33325708
Ahahahahah holy fuck

>>33325708
as you can tell by this the grass is always greener, op.

most marriages fail but what you're never told is that the marriages that "succeed" often have a big asterisk at the end that won't be reported in any peer-reviewed study.
you see it on /adv/ every now and then (and specially more mainstream social media sites): think sexless marriages, "in it for the kids", married to keep up social appearance, or cuck situations like with bill burr.

>>33325708
Who did Bill piss off that they're spamming dumb rumors about him on multiple 4chan boards?
Oh I get it, that's the whole point of this thread. Get a life.

>>33325542 (OP)
Am I supposed to know who these people are?

>>33327768
Eat goylsop. Consoooom celebrity gossip. Get vaccinated. Worship the climate (i.e feel guilty for existing). You will own nothing and be happy.