>21 year old chud
>entering senior year of college
>was a loser in high school
>in STEM so the only attractive girls I see are outside of my classes
>I don't have a pretense to talk to them
>sophomore year there was this really pretty European exchange student I saw at the library and dining hall, thought about talking to her but never did
>waiting for marriage, only want to date virgins (not religious, just a hopeless romantic)
>feel like I missed out on my youth
>worried if I'm still alone after this year it'll be OVER
Do you guys think I'm attractive enough to cold approach? Would changing my /fa/shion make a difference? Right now I just wear jeans and T-shirts.
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>>33332454 (OP)
You look like a woman.

Be easy going and don't push things.

>>33332477
I imagine that any girl I randomly go up to would understand exactly what's going on.

>>33332486
They kinda would considering they get picked up at bars by weirdos all the time, but really not, unless you push things.

Bro you look like a movie star twink in a good way.
Do something special with your hair (even a nice headband) and get some zoomer fashion going like the ugly big jeans or whatever and you will clean up with alt chicks.
Do you have any artistic hobbies like listening to obscure bands or niche korean web cartoons?

>>33332541
>artistic hobbies
I play drums, am learning guitar, and I want to learn how to sing. I mostly like metal though, I'm guessing not that many women are into Agalloch and Solitude Aeturnus lol. I also like classical a bit, would like to learn a classical instrument some day.
>zoomer fashion
Honestly I'm pretty out of touch with tiktok and Instagram and such. Nonetheless I feel like I should be presenting myself in a more interesting way than T-shirts.

>>33332464
not sure if this is supposed to be a compliment or insult

>>33332920
meaning manly women are attracted to you

>>33332454 (OP)
>sophomore year there was this really pretty European exchange student I saw at the library and dining hall, thought about talking to her but never did
if this is real and you're still day daydreaming over someone you never talked to, you're not going to handle the rejection and pressure of cold approaching, you've got a long way to go. Start trying to go to some of the clubs at your college so you can mingle with other students and women and you can get more experience talking to lots of people and then you can start thinking about approaching women romantically.
>feel like I missed out on my youth
your youth is rapidly ending, soon you're going to be a wageslave, where it gets exponentially more difficult to make friends compared to eduction. So if you want to start living a casanova, outgoing lifestyle you need to start going out and making friends like tomorrow.
The good news is that you're 21 and I assume in the USA so you can now legally drink, you can use this as an opportunity to go to bars, ask some of your buddies at college if they want to start going to bars on weekends/after school and it will be a good start to your social life.

>>33332454 (OP)
>only want to date virgins
>in college
Give up on that already

>>33332454 (OP)
You are a textbook mentalcel. You are attractive but I can see the zoomer doomer brainrot in your post. "It's over", "I missed my youth (21 years old)"

I'm a 10 years older chud and I'd give anything to go back to your age and not make the same mistakes
- Make it a goal to leave all social media including 4chan, ragebait slop is death, your ancestors didn't want you wasting time with this
- Forget "cold approaching", statistically people meet at work, through friends or online. Read Models by Mark Manson to start getting the right idea about how to meet people
- Either get a haircut and look more normal, or be prepared to suppress your power level and lean into the alt look
I don't know how to say this in the correct combination of words to get you to see the point, but the reason why you hear women recommending le ThErApy so much for men is because of guys like you, mentalcels who are starting to get a bit warped, but could be fixed by working hard to be chronically offline and more sociable..
Whatever you want to be, you have to wonder if I followed you invisibly for a month, could I guess what your goal was? Do your actions match what you want? Do they look like someone actively trying to make friends and find a gf? Or would I see your posting here every free minute?
Hope you make the right choice man, it's far from over but your 20s will slip by faster than you can realize if you don't start really living.

>>33332454 (OP)
>>I don't have a pretense to talk to them
go to parties/other events and talk with people
it will take some practice but you have time

>>33332454 (OP)
you'll do fine keep the long hair

>>33332454 (OP)
accidentally uploaded the first two as an hour instead of 3 days here they are
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>>33333124
Are they? I wouldn't know. I like women with (relatively) high facial masculinity and (natural) muscle but I don't like the butch look. So not sure what to make of this.

>>33332454 (OP)
You have good facial structure but currently do look pretty feminine. I would get a different haircut. Maybe buzz the sides of your head but keep the rest of the hair long viking style? Also yes try to develop any sort of sense of fashion. Just buy some things you look cool, you don't have to go /fa/ mode or anything - wearing jeans and tshirts just means you aren't confident enough to wear anything more adventurous. And yes - you do need to approach women unfortunately. However you aren't ugly so it shouldn't be a problem. Are you tall / in shape?

>>33333190
>if I followed you invisibly for a month
Depends. Job market is shit, so I'm currently a NEET and broke. So I can't really afford to go outside, and there are no girls my age hanging around the neighborhood. At college I'm always socializing, but mostly with other STEM guys, hasn't got me too far yet. Also I've been taking really hard schedules the past few semesters, so I haven't had that much free time. So I am actively trying to make friends, but that hasn't helped me romantically.
>your 20s will slip by faster than you can realize if you don't start really living
That's what I'm scared about. But I'm also scared that if I just start mindlessly waging it'll slip away no matter what.

>>33334568
>tall
Literally median height exactly lol
>in shape
Reasonably well

>>33334582
>Job market is shit
It isn't that shit, companies literally always want healthy young college kids. It doesn't have to be a glamorous job just something over the break to get you some pocket change. Where's your loan money gone?
>mostly with other STEM guys
It takes time to find the right guys, the ones that go out, but if you look for them and mean well, you will find them, and when you're a guy who goes out, it's easier to meet girls, get a better dating profile if you want to try online, have more stories when you do meet someone, etc, it gets the ball rolling. I can't stress how important it is to be well meaning and entertaining when you meet people. That's all people want from you really, whatever it is you can provide, be it conversation, a concert buddy, holiday buddy, whatever.
>That's what I'm scared about. But I'm also scared that if I just start mindlessly waging it'll slip away no matter what.
The goal for everyone nowadays to live a self-directed life, the number one regret old people have is that they wish they had lived as themself rather than just a cog in the machine. But how? It seems impossible to live and be broke, but people do it, happily. Most artists are poor, yet they are happier than wagecucks earning twice their wage, because they like their work. A good book regarding building a satisfying work life is So Good They Can't Ignore You by Cal Newport.
Avoiding doing the wrong thing is as important if not more important than doing the right thing, and the wrong thing is to become a terminally online 4channer. It's really hard to leave this place the longer you browse, but there's really nothing to be gained here, it just slowly makes you weirder and weirder, and more isolated.

Ponder that, one day you will die, imagine writing to your son, or grandparent saying everything you'd say before you die. It helps to get perspective. Life is too short to psych yourself out of living it. Read the first chapter of "4000 weeks"

>>33333190
>leave all social media including 4chan
4chan is anonymous and disjoint and by definition not social media

>>33335116
>by definition
By most definitions, 4chan is social media

>>33335187
nope. it's not linked to your real identity or connections, nor do you have an account that's persistent enough to even keep track of social interactions in an online sense.

you simply don't know what social media means. take your L

>>33332454 (OP)
>thinks it's "worried if I'm still alone after this year it'll be OVER" for him at 21
Youngniggers are fucking retarded.

>>33335201
Feel free to look this up for yourself, I really don't care enough

>>33332454 (OP)
>>I don't have a pretense to talk to them
Coed "fun" school sports teams.
View/fandom "real" school sports teams.
Volunteer BS related to sports
Church (if your church sucks, thats OK there's only "125K minus 1" other churches in the USA)
Frats/Sororities
School clubs/activities
School Spirit Bullshit activities
If you're doing school online, I think you're out of luck, otherwise it should be OK.
Your internship might have women working there.
Possibly your major sucks; dual major in accounting or something. It can't hurt your employment prospects to be the guy with the same degree as everyone else plus something that's relevant to the employer. Even if you don't have time to officially graduate with a minor, take "intro to dating freshmen chicks 101" as an elective instead of taking "COBOL and JCL Programming III" as an elective.

>>33332454 (OP)
You're literally at the easiest place to meet girls around your age.
There are literally 1000s of pretty girls walking around campus at any time.

You're attractive enough to where cold approaching would be easy. I'd do something with the hair though. Keep the length but style it differently. Strong brows and jaw. Depending on your confidence, you literally don't really need a pretense to talk to them outside of "Hi". You could literally walk up to a girl and hit her with a cheesy, "Hey, excuse me. Would you happen to know the way to your heart?" If she giggles, just introduce yourself and compliment her. Small talk is simple. "What year are you? What are you studying? Are you from here?". Keep it short and end off with "Hey I think you're pretty cool, let me grab your number and we can grab coffee/boba/lunch sometime."

It really isn't that hard.

>>33332644
>I play drums, am learning guitar, and I want to learn how to sing
My local shit state-U branch has five music clubs for varying mixtures of jam sessions, listen to / appreciate, learn a specific instrument, and just hang out with music peeps. The "horn" club is majority female I'm sure they love jokes about being "horn"-y chicks.
My city has five higher ed schools, the other four uni/colleges are private and cost a lot more and are smaller, but also have clubs.
With all due respect you're a dumb ass college student trying to learn who are are, go experiment. Crash an "American Chemical Society Student Group" and ask if they know how to cook meth. Visit "Animation Club" to figure out if they are the types that actively use software to make memes or passively watch mongolian basket weaving cartoons. Visit a meeting of the "Anthropology Student Union" and tell them you love shopping at their stores. All this shite is just in the letter "A" alone in the list of orgs at the local U branch. If you have any creativity at all you'll be able to entertain yourself infinitely, meet a bunch of chicks, and maybe even learn something or gain a new interest. Or you can bed rot and bitch on a chinese cartoon online forum.

>>33333190
>work, through friends or online
Those are "cold approach" with extra steps, or the chick providing statistical data doesn't want to admit she fell for cold approach. The rationalization story is its "because he works in the same office park" we totally "met at work" it wasn't that "evil cold approach" at all even though it was. Or he cold approached her at trivia night at the bar but "they met via friends" because we're all friends at trivia night.

>>33335506
It's not cold approach if you know them beforehand, because they aren't "cold" regarding you

>>33332454 (OP)
Anon, you're being a FAGGOT

As a young man (ages 16-28/30) your first priority should be your own actualization of your full potential and focus on women should be second if anything. What this means is that you need to make focusing on your own self improvement your number one goal right now. Studying hard and doing well in school, taking care of your health and working out, persuing hobbies that are fulfilling to you, lookmaxxing by finding your own style in clothes, hair styles ect.

If you do meet a girl at this point, she should be second nature to you behind yourself. This means that if you meet a girl and like her, and it comes down to you having to choose between her or your goals, you chose your goals.

The ironic thing is that with your state of mind of hyperfocusing on them, you are repelling them. No girl wants a whiney, moody faggot dude.

>>33335506
through friends is absolutely not cold approach, that's literally the optimal way

Just lose it bro. Use cash if you have to. You are putting pussy on a pedestal.
You are looking for some special deep intimate relationship with your soulmate, but you most likely going to end up being 40 in the exact same situation you are in today.
Ask me how I know.

>>33336307
>just IMPROOOV bro
meanwhile chad is partying and getting prime college pussy not worry about any of that shit, and OP will grind just to get a post wall hag in his 30s.

>>33336714
trve i have a friend that thinks learning new programming languages and lifting is gonna get him a gf lmao

>>33336714
t. fox with no tail

>>33336511
>lose your virginity to a literal whore
lmao

>>33336896
?

>>33336307
I've basically finished up my degree, I practice music for dozens of hours a week, I work on projects, I bike every day. Not that I don't have room to improve, but the way I view it is that finding a high quality woman will boost my self-improvement journey instead of hampering it.

>>33332454 (OP)
Anon just have fun, man. Go find anything that you can do with other people that genuinely gives you joy. You’re in stem, so do you like machinery? Go to a car meet, even if you don’t have a good car just go and see what’s going on. If you don’t like it then fine. Try a climbing gym, go inside ask about a day pass, have a normal conversation with the staff as they guide you around. Maybe you like ping pong or pool, there are almost certainly public places on campus to join in on those games with people. You said you’re not religious, but maybe you’d like to learn more about religion, go to a church group on campus, don’t be in your head, be easy going and look for fun. Live life, women and friends will be on the banks of the river of life my friend.

>>33332454 (OP)
dude you look hot as fuck 10/10 if you get into some alt fashion (try some 90s grunge fashion aesthetics nirvana style), you will be pulling bitches left right and center
t.rannie and cis girl frens
clean up the chud act tho, most girls get the ick if they detect the chuddiness.

>>33341458
adding to this: I'd say about 70% of my cis girl frens would POUNCE on you if ever given the chance if your personality is any good, like seriously dude, AWOOOGA.
get your nirvana fit and go out there, talk to people outside your friend group, make it a goal to talk to at least 10 people a day, aim for 20, you want small talk and if any of them are girls you think you're interested in ask them out (i.e. if the talk is good and you liked her say "hey, that was a fun talk, do you always come here?" and also "here's my number if you want to meet up again some time", if you feel balsy you can even say "hey are you free after this? want to go grab a coffee?")

>>33341458
>>33341525
maybe you're the one who's turned on by OP to write all this

>>33341458
>clean up the chud act
What exactly do you mean by this? I'm not planning on changing my beliefs (nor do I think I could). I will admit I have some (a lot of) room for improvement in falling for the doomscroll/outrage machine though.
>most girls get the ick if they detect the chuddiness
Didn't 50% of zoomie white women voooote trump?
>talk to at least 10 people a day
that's actually a lot lol, might as well

>>33341849
just because they vote for him doesn't mean chuds are welcome, besides frenmaxxing and being a laid back chill guy is way better than exposing your full power level, you don't expose chuddiness on the first second or even fifth date unless you are sure the girl will accept it, you don't need to be a beta basedjack but being a little bit of a sort of "go with the flow" hippie type tends to make you more approachable

>>33342012
whichever janny thought changing s. oyjack to "basedjack" automatically is a good idea should shove a cactus up his ass

>>33342020
that filter has been there forever dude

>>33333164
>>33332454 (OP)
date 18 year olds or just legal. Maybe even develop a relationship and wait until legal before sleeping with them. That is completely legal and not immoral

>>33336714
>and OP will grind just to get a post wall hag in his 30s.
if you ignore the social shaming by hags and young incels (who cares what they think anyway) you can always date much younger women

>>33332464
kek

p sure that's not a face reveal

>>33332464
>>33343693
One of you two is retarded

>>33343477
>>33343481
I would really prefer not to for a variety of reasons.

>>33343477
>>33343481
>just date younger women bro!!!
>men peak in their 30s!!!
this is cope.

>>33332454 (OP)
On the off chance this isn't bait, you don't need to cold approach, and probably shouldn't. Women who are more likely to wait will also be more suspicious of men who cold approach--doubly so if you don't ooze charisma.

Just give yourself more chances to meet people, including women. Do stuff you would be alright with having done for its own sake, so that you don't feel like you're forcing yourself.

>>33345425
why would this be bait?

>>33332454 (OP)
You look good but a bit feminine, grow a stubble or goatee and you'll be chadlite, easily getting girls asking you out. In fact I have to wonder if girls don't already ask you out and you're just too autistic to notice. You got 4chan brainrot.

>>33345700
>grow a goatee
its not the early 2000s anymore gramps.
nowadays women like the young eboy look because that's what's popular in tiktok

>>33345733
Goatees with a slim moustache to avoid the numetal look are all the rage on tiktok. In fact I'd say it's the most popular zoomer facial hair.

>>33345543
Because OP looks too good to worry about this bullshit

>>33345745
Well I appreciate the compliment, but I assure you this is all earnest.

>>33345700
>You look good but a bit feminine, grow a stubble or goatee
I like being clean shaven.
>girls don't already ask you out and you're just too autistic to notice
Well they definitely don't ask me out. As for showing interest, I can maybe think of one girl, but I wasn't into her anyways.

>>33332454 (OP)
Honestly yeah, you are good looking.
Get a haircut.

>>33345996
The only compliments I get IRL are on my hair lol