Thread 33347825

I had a girlfriend but she kept asking me for the social media of my Chad friend "as a joke"

I broke up with her even though she told me she loved me because it's obviously a lie, but we did date so maybe it could happen again?

I think it's pointless though because I believe that even if I date another girl she will just leave me for Chad

>>33347825 (OP)
Why do you want to be labelled so badly? Is it a coping mechanism?
>I think it's pointless though because I believe that even if I date another girl she will just leave me for Chad
You're allowing your insecurities to dictate your life for you. Clearly you're alright enough to get a girlfriend but you've somehow convinced yourself you're incapable of being loved. You can't control someone leaving you for someone else but never getting into a relationship so that it doesn't happen isn't the right way to handle it.

>>33347825 (OP)
What a sad story
I hope she found chad eventually :(

>>33347848
No, she's a whore. She never found him because OP never gave her his contact info (he posted a thread about this a month ago) and she doesn't even know his name.

>>33347825 (OP)
>I broke up with her even though she told me she loved me
How can you type that without recognizing what an idiot you were?

>>33347825 (OP)
>am I a truecel?
No
You are an insecure faggot.

>>33348006
People can lie, Anon

>>33348038
And they can also be honest. Why do you leap so eagerly to one conclusion rather than the other?

>>33348050
Because it makes no sense to me; why would she try to make me jealous if she really loved me? She knows I feel insecure about my looks

Yes, she did call me handsome but if she does that but at the same time asks me for my better looking friend's social media to me it's like mixed signals

Why would she do that? Especially when I did send her a picture of the guy so she would stop asking me for his socials

>>33348066
NTA
All you are doing is admitting that you are insecure AND lack empathy.
Women want to to make men jealous because THEY are insecure.
Also, and I know you are effectively retarded about social interactions, but you have called this guy your friend more than once. GFs like to be friends with their BFs friends. It makes them feel accepted. And if he is your friend he is safe for her to know.
You fucked up.

>>33348100
That's true, I guess it triggered all my insecurities. Like I had this pre-existing ideas of myself and her actions triggered all of them unknowingly and just confirmed in my head that I'm ugly and unlovable and I couldn't see anything else. Is it possible to develop more empathy? I am aware that I severely lack of and it makes me feel concerned

>>33348120
More empathy = remembering other people are real, you cannot read their minds, and they have their own goals and fears.

>>33348130
You have a point. Although I think that her trying to make me jealous because she felt insecure shows she could be manipulative, I miss her and I care about her but that trait of her did make me see her differently

>>33347825 (OP)
lol
My cousin is this dumb
>had pretty GF who adored him
>she is texting, he grabs her phone, it is his best friend
>calls her a lying, cheating whore and said she should be burned alive. When she was trying to explain he stormed off and smashed her windshield as he left.
>called his friends and cursed him out as a backstabbing asshole and threatened to murder him
>went to his parents to borrow his dads gun, they freak out because he was planning on killing his GF and best friend.
>tell him they know what is going on, he freaks out and threatens them, too
>finally explain everyone was planning a surprise party for his birthday, the GF and best friend were organizing everything
Now he has no GF, no friends, and his parents call him once a year at Christmas

>>33348133
If, IF, she was trying to make you jealous, retard

>>33347825 (OP)
>my Chad friend
Really the tragedy of this story is Chadness is supposed to rub off, OP is supposed to be eating good food like Chad, working out like Chad, socializing like Chad, dressing like Chad, dating like Chad, but instead he's being not Chad and not having fun in life.
OP is supposed to turn into Chad like a butterfly or at least be a Chad-lite and he's just not living up to expectations, so its not the girl's fault.

>>33348167
She did admit she was trying to make me jealous, she literally told me that. It was because my "jealous side" was cute and that she was afraid she could lose me

She told me all of that herself

>>33348006
Both OP and anon must be extremely young and very inexperienced, EVERY divorce story has something like this in it.
"We loved each other, but then..."

>>33348163
I'm not that much of a psycho, in our arguments I never insulted her, I did tell her I didn't believe her when she told me she loved me or that she was bullshiting me but that's about it, what your cousin did is insane

>>33348185
>I am a triple moron
lol

>>33348177
I cannot be like Chad if I'm losing my hair Anon, that ship already sailed. She told me she didn't care about my hair but somehow did care about seeing my Chad friend's Instagram who happened to have hair

>>33348163
>she is texting, he grabs her phone, it is his best friend
>finally explain everyone was planning a surprise party for his birthday, the GF and best friend were organizing everything
It's good bait but unless they were planning it at a nudist resort or were planning an orgy its hard to believe he'd fall for the "surprise party" gambit if they were sexting each other etc.
Cousin's only mistake is chicks just aren't worth that much of an overreaction. She's not his, its just his turn, and there will be other chicks, having some temper tantrum about living in a culture as toxic as that, isn't going to fix anything.

>>33348192
Why am I a moron lmao, she tried to make me jealous, she admitted it, do you want me to just accept that when she is manipulating me to get a reaction out of me because she feel insecure?

>>33348185
>She did admit she was trying to make me jealous
You're stuck WAY too deep in the game.
Your problem isn't that you were or were not jealous, the reason to ditch her is she plays games, don't stick your dick in crazy, run while you can!
Next game would have been hot and cold or some other chick bullshit game. If she really liked you, she wouldn't be playing games.
To be honest OP, and I'm not trying to make you feel bad, but chicks often do insane stuff to avoid what they think will be a worse confrontation, so if she knew playing games would get her dumped, and she wanted out for other reasons (who knows why?) then plenty of chicks would play games to get dumped to avoid a larger confrontation over a bigger issue. You may never know why she wanted to break up, but she "probably" knew playing games would result in a breakup, assuming you're both over age 16 or so LOL.
Probably you'd be better off spending your time doing anything other than ruminating on an ex-relationship. Go thru your stages of grief thing and move on and meet another, possibly better, chick.

>am i a "truecel"?
no because im the last truecel alive

>>33348230
I understand, I thought do too but it did happen out of nowhere, she made those jokes from time to time until I kinda had enough and confronted her about it but up until then we were doing fine so I don't think she was actively trying to sabotage the relationship, at least not then, but who knows

>>33347825 (OP)
Honestly anon I think you made the right move

that shit is not ok.

I’d start working out and doing a skincare routine if you don’t already.
Dress better, add some jewelry,
Start the chadification process.

Make her regret it.

A woman can love you as a provider but want a more dominant attractive man as the man to get her pregnant.

Dont fall for that shit.

Become a chad or as close as possible to one. Never stop trying to attain that. You will see GENUINE love from women eventually not just their empty words

Bump

>>33348130
>>33348100
Just because he "doesn't have empathy" why should he be the only one with that responsibility? She has also failed to considerate how her retarded games would mess with his feelings. That means two things: she is either still too immature or actually lacks the empathy to understand what he feels and how what she does affects him.

Even though you might seem rushed in breaking up with her, you are in your own right to consider the future of such a relationship where she continously keeps messing and playing your feelings. Take a break, i guess? Don't get hard feelings of hatred or spite against her, just give each other a little bit of space and think things through because as someone said here you two are too immature and may end up hating each other or even worse

Also
>truecel
ffs, get your mind out of this fucking shithole and clean yourself

What is with all this double standard shit? It's ok for her to pester for another man's contact info? I don't care who he is to OP. Why would she want some other man's info so bad? How would she feel if he hounded her for her girl friends socials constantly? Fucking idiots. Letting her go was the right move OP. If that bitch wanted to know your dude friend, you guys can ALL go bowling or something-- a group activity where everyone sees everything. She doesn't require private access. What the fuck is wrong with you niggers defending her like it's normal?

>>33350178
I do agree Anon, it's true. Both of us were immature and insecure so it was a bound to be a disaster. I guess my main issue is dealing with my inner turmoil of "did she ever love me or was it bullshit?" Because she gave up very quickly when I told her it was better to walk on different paths, she told me "I respect your decision"

I won't lie, I do notice some severe lack of empathy on my end and that concerns me

>>33350196
I think she did that because she wanted to get a reaction out of me rather than a genuine interest in the guy but it's still bad in a way, I'm very insecure and that's something I need to work on but I don't think we were good for each other in retrospective

>>33350223
So what. There are more healthy ways to shit test. Poking is one thing but she was genuinely trying to get a door open. No woman who cares about you is going to neg you like that. Next thing she would be making threesome "jokes". Forget her

>>33350243
Yeah that's true, I don't think it was a healthy approach on her part if she wanted to get my attention for whatever reason

>>33350216
>did she ever love me or was it bullshit?
What's the point anyway? Even if she actually loved you it's over, she won't fight for you, you two are very obviously tired of each other and have too much to grow up with. Look out for greener pastures and work on other aspects of your life. If you worry about some apparent lack of empathy do a retrospective in your life and find clues, talk with a psychologist, friends, or work on your side shit like jobs and hobbies, whatever.

Move on.

>>33347825 (OP)
awww :( sorry to hear that anon
she deserves to find a chad and i'm glad a beta like you realized that before she wastes the best years of her youth on you :p

>>33350318
It's important to me to an extent because it did triggered all my insecurities, all this experience taught me was that all my fears are true, that doesn't matter how hard I try, I'm just not good enough. She didn't try at all, which leads me to think that she never really found me attractive and only convinced herself that she was into me

>>33350406
There's always bigger fish, man. If it's any condolence, I can attest that being hotter can get them in your bed but it doesn't make you keep them. I was with a girl who complained about her ex and how she tried to make him what she wanted and fucked me and made comments about me being hot, relative to that context and how the sex was better. All that stuff you want to hear as a guy. Only one body prior to me, maybe ignorance is what it takes...

But we still ended up having too many issues to make it work, and she had too many retarded disrespectful woman moments for me to trust her too. Even if what she did wasn't in bad faith, it jeaopradized my faith in her. She did love me for a time, and I loved her, but she was unwilling to work on it, and her rationalization was "if I don't feel like working on it anyway I guess that tells me all I need to know." It doesn't matter how hot you are, girls get bored and have the illusion of too many options to stay with any one man these days. They're just too immature and it's not going to get any better until a new society forms from this rotting degenerate one.

At least you scored?

>>33350507
Thank you for your words Anon. It really sucks that you had to go through that but apparently you are attractive and from what I can gather from here you seem to be a good guy too. You will meet someone who is going to appreciate you for who you are and not take you for granted. I know these situations are very complicated and can take a toll on one's self-esteem

I did score, I had a hard time getting and maintaining an erection which is a nightmare but I have a hard time feeling aroused for some reason, especially in real life. Maybe it's because of the weird fetishes that I've acquired from watching porn at a very young age

>>33347825 (OP)
>wanting the trucel label
Oppression Olympics race to the bottom

>>33347825 (OP)
You correctly spotted the red flag and took appropriate action. You dodged a bullet; count yourself lucky and do not go back.

>>33348163
Haha holy shit. Mother of all crashouts