>>33350713 (OP)It's called having a 'black-or-white' and/or 'all or nothing' mindset. These mindsets count for delusion. Not because you are imagining things, but because you are blind to nuance.
For example, you try to do something, you suck at it, and you immediately think "I suck at this, therefore I suck and will always suck. If I was smart/good/skilled then I wouldn't suck."
That's black or white thinking in action.
"if I cannot X, then it means I am Y and will never be Z."
Truth is, you do suck at the things you attempt. Everyone sucks at whatever it is they try to do, at first. No one is absolutely amazing at anything the first time. That shit only happens in cartoons and movies.
Real life means sucking at first, but allowing yourself to suck at it until you suck less and less through failure. Failure teaches you what doesn't work, and shows you what to do different. Eventually over time you get good. Takes time.
But no amount of time will ever work if you keep using the black or white mentality. Because it's self sabotage. Means you will give up and guarantee perma-failure at worst. Or at best, your road to learning skills becomes harder and longer than necessary because you're too focused on paying attention to your negative feelings rather than the lessons within the failures.
>How do I stop this?By paradox. Don't stop it. Let yourself feel shit about sucking at something. But this time feel it on purpose. That way you gain control over your own feelings.
