Thread 33365418

How can I stop myself from having negative feelings about how others perceive me? I don't have a low self esteem, I'm good at what I do and I'm pretty fulfilled in my life so far. However, I always assume people are thinking the worst of me. Examples:
>my boss closed his door, that means that he's probably talking shit abut me and wants to fire me
Even tho I have a great track record and have been performing so well at work that they bought me a brand new car last month
>my gf probably hates my guts and is looking for the next opportunity to ditch me
Even tho we've been together for 4 years now, she has THOUSANDS of photos of me and she has a locket with my hair in it. She's obsessed with me and very obviously loves me.
Anyways, how can I stop these thoughts from happening in the first place? They're awfully distracting

>>33365418 (OP)
I won't read made-up silliness.

>>33365512
Its like you become this anon, to yourself, be the faggot in your head telling you what you need to hear.
You clearly know what you 'should' feel in those situations

>>33365418 (OP)
Humans are simple, me included. We're similar to dogs even. If you meet a dog that cowers or growls when you go to pet it, what does it mean? It means there was a hand that struck it one time. Now it's scared of hands.

So for humans, whenever it is given human interaction, only to recoil in anxiety and worry about social humiliation, it implies that human encountered it before one time.

So just identify what that was and remind yourself that your boss and gf are not the same people who fucked you over