My whole life I went to church and they always said we're supposed to help poor people and like not to judge others lest we be judged, and so on.

A man who looked like a drug addict walked up to my bf and I when we were out and told us about how he needed $22 for cab fare to visit his mom in the hospital. I felt really bad for him since if he was being truthful most people wouldn't believe him since he looks like a drug addict.

I didn't have any cash, my bf didn't either. I didn't want to be rude or mean though so I kept answering and talking to the man while my bf led us away and back to the car.

My bf got mad at me for talking to the drug addict but once we were in the car and he told me to not talk to guys like that because they're crazy but am I just supposed to ignore someone who might need help? I still feel like I should make an atm withdrawal and go find that guy to give him his $22 to see his mom.

stop being retarded, your bf is right
the guy was lying and you owe him nothing anyway

you're incredibly naïve. do not entertain beggars and do not let them get within lunging/stabbing distance

>>33368619
I get that it's not smart to just trust everyone, and that the guy was probably lying for drug money, but I just feel horrible thinking that if his mom was really in the hospital and he was really trying to get money to go see her how hard of a time he must be having with it and it made me too sad to just ignore him.
>>33368664
My bf kept backing us away so he was never too close, but it felt rude to just not say anything to him.

>>33368434 (OP)
Normally you don't give money to people, you give them what they need: food, clothes, blanket...

>>33369584
They don't actually want that shit, they want to get fucked up.

Why are women this stupid? Why does their empathy only come out among the most dangerous and degenerate motherfuckers? Like risking your safety for some thug is you "practicing morality." It's not worth the risk trade off, and your boyfriend understands this and is right. He isn't some sad unfortunate soul. He got there through his choices.

Why do YOU suddenly give a shit about handing off hard earned money to some liar scumbag hobo who didn't exist 2 seconds ago? Why are women fucking like this... Honestly, retard. Is risking a mug or a stabbing really worth the 2 second "goodwill gesture?" Learn how to make fucking proper risk assesments you stupid bitch, jfc

>>33369470
i understand you are naturally empathetic but this is what causes you to become a victim. don't let these peoples shortcomings become your issue, especially if they look like "drug addicts". don't be afraid of being what you consider "mean" or "rude", and learn that your life doesn't come at the cost of being "le empathetic" or "oh noes i no wanna be rude!!!"

>>33368434 (OP)
I won't read made up shit posted by someone with nothing better to do.

>>33370913
If you didn't read it why do you think it was made up

>>33368434 (OP)
>My whole life I went to church and
I won't read threads that don't pass the sniff test. This one sounds an awful lot like a "my fellow White people" spiel.

I used to be like your boyfriend, then I realized everything I have God gave me.
So if God has given me so much, am I going to deny someone else a small amount of money?

Matthew 25:35–40 (NIV)

> 35 For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in,
36 I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me.’
37 Then the righteous will answer him, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you something to drink?
38 When did we see you a stranger and invite you in, or needing clothes and clothe you?
39 When did we see you sick or in prison and go to visit you?’
40 The King will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.’

It isn't really my place to judge, it is God's.
For all I know that person could be an angel sent to test me. And that guy may have actually needed the $22. He may also just use it for drugs. You never really know.
In a way I am like that guy from God's perspective. A hopeless fuckup. I wouldnt want God to treat me shabbily because I am an imperfect person so I don't treat other other people that way.

>>33368434 (OP)
You have no survival instincts. If it wasn't for your boyfriend, you would get raped and/or killed.

>>33368434 (OP)
Nobody got hurt and it is just barely possible that your kindness made him feel a little better.

>>33371125
>I wouldnt want God to treat me that way
Well there is a difference in that that guy could stab you but you can't do anything to harm God. So it's not really an equivalent situation

>>33368434 (OP)
>am I just supposed to ignore someone who might need help?
It depends on the situation. I guess your BF felt dishonesty coming from the homeless man because it's kinda weird he would call him "crazy" when all he asked was $22.

>>33368434 (OP)
>how he needed $22 for cab fare to visit his mom in the hospital.
This is a common line addicts use on people they believe to be extremely naive suckers. I fell for it once when I was young and exactly that naive, only it was a bus ticket to see his sick mom in the city. The specific amount is to make it more believable. Like he doesn't just need a $20 bill, he needs $22 because real things rarely cost exactly a single bill denomination. It also adds the bonus of getting more money if you don't have ones and he can't make change. I gave this addict his "bus money" and he immediately switched up how much the bus ticket cost in a bid to get more. These people are shameless and their secret is that they don't see you as a real person who matters, you're just the next stop on their journey for a fix.
If you actually give a fuck about addicts donate to a charity that tries to get them off the junk. Any money you give them goes straight into a drug dealer's pocket pretty much immediately, and you're just funding their slow motion suicide. The best thing you could do for them is hand out fent and let them OD themselves into a morgue.

>>33371539
I also get "It's my birthday" alot

A bullet to thier head would help them more than $20.

>>33368434 (OP)
Your BF got mad at you because he was bewildered by your lack of awareness. You put yourself and him in possible danger for no reason other than to try to be ‘nice’.

And before you think or say:
>”But nothing bad happened, so it was fine, why is he mad?”

That’s not the point. Point is, it could have been. Point is, it still could be. You may think that it’s safe because nothing happened, but chances are that’s wrong. Because now that junkie drug addict will remember you are easy. Easy to approach, easy to talk to, easy to ask for favours, and easy to lie to and manipulate.

What you did was just walk up to someone with possible psychopathic tendencies and say to them “HELLO. I AM NICE PERSON. I WILL LISTEN TO ALL YOUR WORDS AND BELIEVE WHAT YOU SAY. HERE IS MY WEAK POINTS, PLEASE EXPLOIT ME.”

You didnt verbally say this. But your actions did. And that is why your BF is mad.

Try and pretend to be your BF.
Pretend you are married to yourself. You have kids now. Pretend you are husband to (you).

Now pretend that the wife (you) has the kids with her. Small, weak, vulnerable kids. Walking down the street or going to the store. A druggie approaches you. Hubby is at work. But (you), the wife, decide to talk to the druggie. In front of your fucking kids. Now the druggie is within spitting distance of your kids.

And all because wifey (you) didnt wanna be meeeaaann :((

Whats the lesson? Lesson is your niceness gets people you care about into problems.