In your own words, what does falling in love feel like to you? How do you know there's a connection, a spark, a vibe?

>>33371489 (OP)
In my own word: I FUCKING HATE IT. My family has been ruined because my mom falled in love with another man, if you asked her before if she would be able to divorce she would say no, that family is forever and so on, yet some people are weak enough to give in on strong feelings and sentiments. This is the path towards ruin. That's why arranged marriages were so much better. Everything must be rationally decided, even if you marry, don't do it just because you fell in love with someone.

>>33371489 (OP)
It feels like "I want to care for this person AND fuck their brains out"

So it's pretty nice, but desu most girls I date seem to only want the latter and any sign of genuine affection is an ick.

This is why bad boys get the girl

Btw I've only been in love once (8yr relationship). I've felt like I "could" love a couple of girls since then but yeah, see above

>>33371489 (OP)
I thought I loved my ex-wife, but it turns out I was just horny and insecure.

>>33371555
>any sign of genuine affection is an ick
why do all girls have THIS TYPE of daddy issues. i feel like theo only ones that dont have BPD

"When I saw the sun shining through your hair, I knew that I wanted a family with you."

>>33371504
Your mom is a loser but that's not the reason why other men shouldn't have wives that actually love them and chose them without being pressured.

>>33371555
>most girls I date seem to only want the latter and any sign of genuine affection is an ick.
Neglected children had more difficulty discriminating emotional expressions
Physically abused children displayed a response bias for angry facial expressions.

You're the one picking them up

>>33371489 (OP)
First, falling in love does not mean that the person is right for you or that she will love you back. You don't choose to love someone, you just do.
>How do you know there's a connection
Again, you can feel there's a buzz in the first dates, or first three months...like you have butterflies in your stomach, you feel like you can do anything with that person, you wanna have sex but to share stuff etc
But to know if there is a connection...and that you both feel the same really, it's mostly by talking and sharing stuff that you can confirm that there is something there.
Love is Trust. And trust is built in time.

I don’t want to sound gay but “intoxicating” like a drug. Soon those hobbies, goals, personal dreams, and aspirations are put to the side because it feels so good being in love and when you fall out you hit flat bottom and have no desire to do those things anyway. I’m weak and I “crash out” when relationships end. 1 1/2 year single and I’m just now getting my groove back. No desire for a relationship for a while.

>>33371504
Your mom didn't fall in love with anyone other than herself. She's just a worthless whore. Sorry.

>>33371489 (OP)
Thanks for the Snow Princess, OP.

>>33371489 (OP)
Euphoric and innocent

>>33371489 (OP)
Love is dead. All that's left is lust. Couples don't merge bodies anymore. They just use each other to get each other off.

I'm over here jorking it.

>>33371555
>most girls I date seem to only want the latter and any sign of genuine affection is an ick

I had my first relationship real late in life recently and I thought I was going crazy experiencing this. She was a zoomer and the whole time I was going all in, being affectionate and supportive but not being walked over or buying her too much shit. I was careful to not be disrespected and tried to experience a mature love, all that redpill shit but moderated. But she was just emotionally constipated and hesitating and pulled away, even outright rejected wanting to fall in love with me or date me. I don't know her reasons. But everything felt reversed, like I was the woman, putting in the emotion, having the what are we talk, and even after knowing her for years and her knowing my stance on relationships well ahead lf time, she still basically ended up pumping and dumping ME. It was devastating and I'm still debating reaching out, but I'm going on the logic that if she wanted to she would.

I think it scared her-- it was too much, and women subconciously fear comittment over confidence issues with themselves. And with the confusing backwards messages they get in this culture, it can't be easy to deal with or understand when they're young. But what are we supposed to fucking do about it? People just are not secure enough to stay together anymore. We can't ALL fuck around like bad men and run at the first lower impulse. This can't go on, but I also don't want to get that attached to someone only to get burned again either. Shit sucks

>>33371555
>any sign of genuine affection is an ick.
Unfortunately i experienced this too.

When we first met, we had an instant connection like we knew each other for a millennium. Obviously things started to take of, we were talking regularly, started seeing each other, yadda yadda ...
Fast forward, a couple weeks after I told her that I love her and we started talking about commitment, she started to grow distant and at some point straight up ignored me.

After 8 years of absolute silence she contacted me again via a mail with what felt like a half hearted apology for her past behaviour.
Later it turned out that during those 8 years of radio silence she married another guy who abused her, she got pregnant, got divorced, ended up a lonely single mom and became fat (like 2-3 times the size she was before). After that she had a couple short term flings too. Needless to say we didn't get back again.

I never understood women and probably never will. They are mentally incapable of making good decisions for themselves. They will chose a drug addict, some thug, a straight up criminal who doesn't give a fucking damn about their well-being over any guy who will genuinely love and provide for them. You can't make this up. There is no word for this type of stupidity really.