Figuring out an unemotional relationship - /adv/ (#33384108) [Archived: 132 hours ago]

Anonymous
7/19/2025, 4:09:32 AM No.33384108
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I'm in my late 20s, having my first real (long distance) relationship with a woman. I met her once for 12 day long trip, and we've been together for 3 months.

I found out the hard way that I can't really feel "love", or for that matter, any other normal emotions. Alexithymia, they call it.

I also have ADHD and CFS, maybe depression too, which make my life really annoying and difficult most of the time.

The girl wants to move to me across borders and marry me next year, if possible. My emotions won't give me a clear picture whether or not that's something I would want or not.

How can I navigate a serious relationship, without a clear emotional picture about how I feel? How would you logically break it down?
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Anonymous
7/19/2025, 4:10:11 AM No.33384114
Communicate your feelings to her instead of retards on 4chan
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Anonymous
7/19/2025, 4:14:39 AM No.33384133
Some logical information which would be necessary to understand the rough situation (it's grossly complex to me):

>Same age
>People tell me I'm ~6.5/10 looks
>She's around a 5 usually, or a 6 on a good day.
>I'm 6'2"
>I've been out of work for a long time
>she has been stabley employed for a long time
>She's cool with supporting me if I get really sick, really just enjoys my company and how being around me makes her feel
>she's on the spectrum (quite mildly)
>she's highly emotional and sensitive
>neurotic too, often highly anxious
>we are very compatible in the bed, she likes it exactly how I like to give it
>if I leave her, she will probably never really find another, as she has had major issues connecting with people or feeling comfortable with them
>I was single for 10 years before meeting her, I have no idea if I would find another or not

:S I have no idea what to do
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Anonymous
7/19/2025, 4:16:00 AM No.33384142
>>33384108 (OP)
scam
no woman in her right mind would try to secure a cross-border damaged goods like you without one hell of a reason
99% of those reasons being """she"""'s trying to scam you. (they're probably not the she you went on that short trip with)

stop talking to her, talk to your family/friends about the experience, and if you want a real relationship seek online interactions that are tailored to your situation (autistic folks)
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Anonymous
7/19/2025, 4:20:03 AM No.33384158
>>33384142
>>33384133
>she's autistic too
>you've fucking FUCKED
ok no I've no idea what this trip was but anon my god cling to that.
you're not going to get better, cross the border and jump through the hoops or you'll regret it
Anonymous
7/19/2025, 4:25:53 AM No.33384182
>>33384133
Were you officially diagnosed with Alexithymia? If not, I wouldn't be surprised if this lack of "love" is just caused by a lack of physical proximity. Regardless of your answer, I would just go with it. What's the worst that could happen? You're pretty much already at rock bottom, so it's not like a divorce would be that big of a shock to your life.
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Anonymous
7/19/2025, 5:13:43 AM No.33384440
>>33384108 (OP)
>LDR
There is no such thing. You established the pretence on the Internet and that's where it will end.
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Anonymous
7/19/2025, 5:14:34 AM No.33384445
>>33384182
its not a diagnosis, just a trait people have. I don't really feel any clear emotion on an average day. My experience of life is quite dull.

Even when I kissed her passionately, I did not really feel any emotion kther than a vague excitement
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Anonymous
7/19/2025, 5:24:23 AM No.33384517
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>>33384440
sup
5-axle truck driver here
imma fuck your GF once a month and then chitchat about her day from across the country,
along with my other 3 girlfriends
how you like them apples you dumb bitch?
Real a$s niga
7/19/2025, 7:07:54 AM No.33384910
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>>33384114
Fpbp /thread to end all relationshit threads
Anonymous
7/19/2025, 10:31:17 PM No.33387412
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>>33384108 (OP)
Yes
Anonymous
7/19/2025, 11:00:28 PM No.33387512
>>33384445
Are you on any meds?
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Anonymous
7/20/2025, 1:23:42 AM No.33388177
>>33387512
nope