How do I stop being a fucking loser?

>>33405311 (OP)
Let yourself have what you want. You want to socialize? Ok, let yourself have it. You want to work? Ok, let yourself apply to jobs. Not because you need to but because you want to. You want to stop feeling like shit? Focus less on shame and focus on desire.

Fill in the blank for what you want. I don’t know you nor can I read your mind. Also you’re allowed to spend more than 30 seconds on a post.

Two options:
1. Try winning.
2. Realise that success depends on a perfect harmony between subject and environment, and therefore no one can be justly called a loser.
If your goal is to stop feeling bad though it probably won't happen unless you get all the things you want (aka succeed bigly with method 1).

>>33405331
If success is thought of as a total elimination of guilt and shame then op will seldom feel successful for too long. Guilt and shame (“im a loser”) shouldn’t be overpowering aspects of identity… but it’s hard to manage them. Typically empathy from others help. But they don’t magically go away forever, even with material successes. It has to be lived with and managed.

>>33405355
Honestly it would be really hard to solve a shame/guilt complex through success alone. If that's the goal, then it's certainly not guaranteed by success. My sister is the top wage slave in her entire company and everyone's constantly singing her praises but she still feels worthless.
Still, success can be a large part of the solution. If I became a successful CEO overnight or some shit, I would definitely be freed of all of my negative self-views.

>>33405311 (OP)
Don't be fat, smelly, ugly, dumb, antisocial, or poor.

>>33405311 (OP)

Exert yourself in some way, preferably towards sustained action i.e. discipline
Ex. Doing as many pushups as you can in one sitting or cooking your own meals

>>33405311 (OP)
>How do I stop being a fucking loser?
Set smaller goals and then you'll be a winner.