What are the pros and cons of marriage for men?

>>33407595 (OP)
There are no pros for men, just stay single for the rest of your life. All women are obviously gold diggers.

Pros
>tax and insurance benefits
>inheritance is much easier for your children
>being able to call someone "my old lady" or "the missus"
>a big wedding party you talk about for the rest of your life
>a union blessed by god
Cons
>divorce risk
>anecdotally, less sex

>>33407595 (OP)
As a married man, here are the pros
>Sex, if she's in the mood
>She cooks and cleans stuff around the house better than me, if she's in the mood
>She can be very gentle and caring, if she's in the mood
>You can share inside jokes, share experience together, have some real fun, if she's in the mood
>Eventually you can continue your bloodline and have kids, if she wants to do so

Having a long term girlfriend/wife is basically having a friend with benefits that lives you and has bipolar disorder.
If she's in the mood to "entertain le hubby" it feels great to have her around.
Problem is 70-90% of the time she's always complaining, very emotional, sad, mad, unsatisfied, etc, and there's NOTHING you can do but withstand it for however long she feels that way.

There are too many cons to list and it's risky to marry. Money will be spent on stupid shit she wants or you're a bad husband, divorce can take half of your shit away, having to handle her family and friends, etc.

I'd say only get married if you truly believe she's a cool chick, otherwise just stay as more casual bf/gf or friends with benefits.

>>33407812
>There are too many cons to list

Please do so

>>33407595 (OP)
Don't know so much about pros and cons, but I gotta say that it's really fun to get married. Had a great wedding / party, feels really special to know that somebody loves you so much that they want to spend the rest of their life with you. We both make enough money, so one is not required to provide for the other. We share the household chores equally.
We're both reasonable adult (got married a little bit later in life), so if we ever get into a fight, it's usually resolved quickly and very maturely.
She helps and supports me with my ambitions in life and vise versa.
Going for a kid now and knowing that they'll grow up in a stable, loving house hold fills me with joy as well.

I'm sure there will be cons later, but for now I'm still really enjoying it.

>>33407812
Why did you marry her if you don't love her?

>>33407595 (OP)
Too many pros to list and too many cons to list. Marriage is a big role, bigger than your own life. Because it's two lives taken together, living together, and all of the joys and sorrows that come with life multiplied by two.

That means you will know higher joys than you would alone. But you will also know deeper sorrows than you would alone.

What makes a good marriage a good marriage is one where both the man and the woman consciously and voluntarily choose to remain together for better or worse with the goal of building something together, namely a family.

If you expect marriage to be a happily ever after and life cuts to the end credits and it's a paradise thereafter, then don't get married. Because that's not what marriage is about.

Marriage is a struggle. But it's a good struggle, one to be proud of and one that has a lot of pay offs provided both you and the woman are emotionally mature enough to pull it off.

If you aren't emotionally solid, or the woman you marry is still emotionally all over the place, then don't marry if you wanna avoid the 51% divorce rate.

>>33407776
>Cons
>Anecdotally, less sex

Wait till you knock her up. Pregnant women are absolute sex hounds due to hormones spiking like crazy

>>33407595 (OP)
It's kind of as redundant as saying "What are the pros and cons of bearing a man's children for women?" It's a large investment into the other person, built on trust.
That's what real love is, trust. If you don't trust someone enough to not abandon you or fuck you over if you get married or have their kids, don't marry them or get pregnant. It's just as simple as that.
The pros are numerous and the cons are plenty; you're never going to get an actual list because it's all depending on the person. If it's a woman you've known for years, seen every inch of her, know her like the back of your hand, and you trust her? And think she is (and you are) emotionally mature enough to marry? Then yeah, marry. Risks of things going wrong are still there, but chances of things going right are also there.

This guy (>>33407812) got married too early into the relationship before he could feel them out. It's better to fix these things before marriage so you can see if it's fixable or better to just move on. And if you anon, who posted that are reading this, don't divorce your wife, just go to couples therapy or something. Your needs matter too, but if you're just doing nothing to try to fix this issue together, and just complaining on some 4chan with some faggy retards about it; then you get exactly what you put in.

>>33407889
What kind of crazy are we talking about?

>>33408048
The funny kind. Not the schizo BPDemon kind. The kind of crazy where pregnant wife starts crying and sulking over a piece of bread because she wanted bread but the stores are closed so there is no bread. Or crying because she saw an advertisement on TV about a puppy.

>>33408055
>crying woman

>>33407595 (OP)
>What are the pros and cons of marriage for men?
If there's love and all the right stuff it can be wonderful, if there is no love and then there's mental illness and toxic personalities then it can be hell.

>>33408055
I meant the sex. How does it change?

>>33408268
Woman gets hornier, a lot hornier. Sometimes hornier than any male sex drive. Cuz not only hormone spikes, physical changes too. Vagina gets engorged and sensitive as the placenta expands inside. Means the woman's pussy gets highly sensitive due to pressure of tissue constantly stimulating the nerves inside her vagina. So she will be horny all the time non stop and intensely horny at that.

Sex changes in so far as frequency of sex skyrockets. Sometimes intensity depends on what sex routine you got with the wife. But don't be surprised if the woman goes feral and claws at your back during sex

>>33407812
>entertain le hubby
If I ever marry a woman who thinks this way unironically, may I request that one of you lads shoot me and frame her?

>>33408024
Not that guy, but I never understood the concept of couples therapy. If I have a problem with my girlfriend, I talk to her about it, and if that doesn't fix it I just break up with her. If it gets to the point of going to couples therapy I'd rather just cut my losses and move on and try not to repeat my mistake in the future.

>>33408814
Couples therapy isn't the same thing as therapy-therapy. It's not a miserable experience where you have to lay on some couch and have some Freud looking mother fucker peck your brains about your childhood or whatever. It's not a place where you go to be told you failed as a couple and need help or else.

It's actually a light-hearted approach where you discuss what's right about the relationship, where the strengths are, and how to use them to continue success. Typically it's a focus on love language and emotional language styles. You basically learn the cheat codes for each other's needs and desires and afterwards you end up horny as fuck for each other and screw like rabbits after the session because it brings you real close with each other intimately