How do you handle one-sided friendships and relationships where you invests significantly more effort, time, and emotional energy into the relationship, who only ever talk about themselves, as if they're talking to themselves, and want you to care about it but don't involve you in the conversation and don't care about you, you know everything about them while they know nothing about you because they don't care?

It's as if you get punished for being a loyal friend.

three options simplified:
1) dont over think it.
2) try giving them space, at least for your own sanity.
3) dont waste time on people who make you feel like shit.

>>33407732 (OP)
Depends on if it's temporary or something that has always happened. If it's always been the case, then you deal with it by talking to them about it. Just do that in both cases.

>>33407732 (OP)
You have to understand that the situation is 100% your fault, and only you can fix it. Yes, you are giving too much: and giving too much was YOUR decision. You have to choose to give less, and understand that the amount you have given so far will never be paid back. By complaining about this you are offering someone else a gift and then complaining about the fact that they accept it; that's not reasonable. If you don't want them to accept your gift, don't offer it.

>>33407732 (OP)
Why would you be friends with someone like that?

>>33407732 (OP)
You should talk to them like this (>>33407761) anon said, but if that doesn't work, return the favor to them; act just as selfishly towards them. Don't ask them anymore questions, don't engage in them anymore, and interrupt them to talk about yourself; essentially, do exactly as they do, nothing more, nothing less.
They'll either get the hint and go "Damn actually this kind of sucks, maybe I shouldn't be a selfish dick anymore" or they'll leave you for someone who will tolerate their selfish behavior
It's kind of a win in both instances, as would you really want to be friends with someone who would rather find someone else to be shitty to than put some bare minimum effort into the friendship?

>>33407732 (OP)
I do have a philosophical question related to this.
I was recently told "I don't owe you anything" This is a true statement, but it also seems very shitty. Do I just not say thank you to people anymore now? Is someone's kindness and care worth nothing?
It just seems narcissistic and shitty.

>>33407732 (OP)
Put in less effort and if they don't increase effort then just keep decreasing effort until you're basically ghosting them.

1. End the friendship / relationship if possible
2. Reduce your presence in those relationships

I know alot about this op.
Hope these stories help.

A) Family boomer females are 100% self serving they only did or will engage with even their own children / grandchildren when they think they'll get personal gain.
I cut all of them off bar my mother who I keep at arms length for obvious reasons.
Some of male relatives aren't nice but at least they understand people aren't walking atms/ favor machines.

B) I had a group of college friends who just wouldn't grow up. Drunk to vomiting EVERY weekend and that's all they would do. Had the citys noise officials called on them 5x in a month.
Just gradulally got more and more distant from them and then when they got kicked out of their 2nd rental stopped replying to their messages.
"sorry guys real busy with work / study"
"got to help my dad with some roof tiles".

Don't put up with the toxity op, its never worth
it and they'll discard you the second you are
considered inconvenient.
If your parents are terrible- no resthome visits.

>>33407732 (OP)
Looks like a case of narcissism.

>>33408038
This is what my ex told me when she was breaking up with me but she begged me to stay with her when I was having second thoughts

>>33407732 (OP)
I took this picture, by the way. Without her consent, too.