Girl I have a crush on at work keeps doing this thing where she goes to the bathroom, walks by my room, then immediately goes to the bathroom again to walk by my room.
She's done this many times. And she glances at me everytime. 2 days ago when she had just come back to the bathroom I finally introduced myself and after that she went to the bathroom again, only to stare at me when she came back.
It doesn't help my older coworker told her i liked her.
He told me I should tell her I like her myself and ask her out for dinner. But I feel it's too soon. But I think she's doing this because never get a chance to talk.
Best course of action?

>>33412468 (OP)
your coworker is right
and your chances diminish over time

PSA: you don't "look for signs" or even worse, befriend a woman you want to fuck. you ask her out/ for her number. she has to understand you're interested in her. women like bold and go-getter

>>33412468 (OP)
>too soon
you just KNOW this anon is going to wait on the sidelines and do nothing until it's way too late

>>33412468 (OP)
Stop being a bitch and ask her out.
>Guyz, she's giving me obvious signs of interest, and I like her back. What do?
Come the fuck on. But I will say: skip the dinner stuff. It's tired, cliche and you can't really get to know someone and have a real discussion if you're shoving food down your throat.

Stick to something lighter like coffee. It costs less and the main focus will be....talking and relating. Then take her on dates of shit YOU already want to do. For example: I like photography so I'd bring a girl with me while I take pictures. I have multiple cameras so I'd give her one too. Make it a competition. Or I like go karts, so I'd take her there.

Don't do shit just because you think she'll like it. Do shit YOU want to do because 1 it shows who you are. 2 if it doesn't work out, at least you had fun doing shit you already wanted to do anyway. 3. you're not putting up a facade that you have to keep up because you showed the real you. Bonus reason: if a woman really likes you, it won't really matter where you go because she just enjoys the time with you. This isn't an excuse to do something extremely weird and niche, but the general principle is there. The point is not to do the boring cliche dating stuff just because you think that's what she wants. Add your personality to it.

Don't text too much and when you text, don't have a fuckton of idle conversation. Texting needs to be tied to an action or outcome. Like setting up a date or meeting. Save the talk shit for in person.

>>33413402
im bad at talking.
I actually did ask out another girl at work for dinner before. But I had more rapport with her.
But there was no follow up date. I really fumbled the talking part. I'm a boring person.

My ex was perfect for me cause she was also boring person.

>>33413505
>im bad at talking.
Work on that then. Simple. You're like the guy driving in a car who sees an avoidable crash about to happen and decides to honk his horn instead of hitting the fucking brakes and preventing the crash.
>I actually did ask out another girl at work for dinner before. But I had more rapport with her.
Okay? Make rapport with this one.

>But there was no follow up date. I really fumbled the talking part. I'm a boring person.
>Ah shit, I had a learning experience and did fuck all to improve. I guess it is what it is guys

>My ex was perfect for me cause she was also boring person.
>Some completely irrelevant bitch was perfect

Dude. Do you even want a girlfriend? Why the fuck are you concerned with asking this new girl out if you've resigned yourself to doing fuck all to actually be someone somebody would actually want to date? It's not even anything crazy. You have NO hobbies? You do NOTHING that's potentially fun? And looking at this from another perspective: YOU find those facts to be engaging and entertaining yourself? No offense, but what the fuck is going on with you? What do you even want? What is the point in your view?

>>33412572
>>33413402
Unfathomably based advice? On my /adv/? What is going on?

Spot on, I hope dis nigga and other Anons listen. Took me too long to figure it out.

>>33413532
You sound like my older coworker. You're right. He told me to stop being shy.
When he told her I liked her 2 weeks ago, he said she started laughing.
Then another day he was pointing at her while saying my name, and she started laughing again, that was the same day I first talked to her.
My older coworker also said shes shy too.
ok, ill approach her today, wish me luck

>>33413555
the trips of truth! You got this. One thing I'll add is this: if you're bad at talking, think about things to say in advance. Practice speaking while looking at yourself in the mirror. And you also gotta realize: girls are just as nervous as you when they like you back. They don't want to fuck up either. But they're forgiving over small mishaps just like you are. You have to be serious and straightforward, but at the same time don't take it *too* seriously. You're clearly social enough not to fuck it up by saying some off the wall shit, so don't even over think it.

Just work on speaking like I said. If you find yourself in a situation where you don't know what to say, just fucking stop. Pause. Hell, you can even say you're not sure and ask for a second. Better than blurting out some bullshit.

Do that and you've got it. Also you mentioned being boring. Okay: ask her what she's into. It shouldn't be about trying to impress her or prove yourself. She's gotta prove herself to you too. Maybe she's into some shit you might find interesting and you build from there? You never know until you ask. But start off with coffee and come up with good questions in advance to learn about her and build out your next steps and dates and find out if you actually like who she is.

>>33413576
I was kind of dorky when I first introduced myself to her, I reached out to shake her hand, her hands were full but she still shook it, she said "pleased to meet you" and I just said "ok, thats all bye" cause I was overwhelmed. I thought it went terribly until I saw her walk by again and stare again.
The older woman thats a mutual friend of ours said it went well, she witnessed it, so maybe I wasnt as visibly nervous as I felt.

literally this all started because I noticed she would look at me whenever she passed by and I already liked her for months. And then my coworker immediately told her I liked her. I was unsure of her interest so I asked my coworker if she's just naturally curious and looks around.

he said the worst she could say was "no".

>>33413576
youve give me great advice. i will do the best I can

>>33413600
>The older woman that's a mutual friend of ours said it went well, she witnessed it, so maybe I wasn't as visibly nervous as I felt.

You gotta get out of your head and into the moment. You're overthinking. If anything it was a minor fumble. Stop focusing on whats in your head and focus instead on what's in front of you. Just let it flow naturally.

>literally this all started because I noticed she would look at me whenever she passed by and I already liked her for months. And then my coworker immediately told her I liked her. I was unsure of her interest so I asked my coworker if she's just naturally curious and looks around.

Sounds like you should've introduced yourself months ago. But hey, at least you're taking action now.

>he said the worst she could say was "no".
exactly. And then it's just a learning experience you grow from. Literally no downside whatsoever.

>youve give me great advice. i will do the best I can
No problem. Just do it. It's clear that she's interested and patient. So if you need to, just fucking stop. Take a deep breath. Maybe say you need a moment to think. Then execute. What you're doing isn't really hard at all. You're just overthinking it. But it sounds like you have it now. I already know your date will be great!

All my life i was in the same boat as this Anon. Always too scared to ask. Instead evaded the whole thing, thinking i just needed to improve myself, and then the girls would come or send me strong signals. That ofc never happened. On the plus side, i gained a fuckton of muscle and have a high earning job and can now work on that basis, so its something lol
Getting dates now but finding a right girl still takes time.

But then i always wondered why men with clearly lower status then me, smaller guys, skinny guys, did get gfs and i didn’t

I conned myself that for some reason girls didn’t like me, even though i never approached
While the answer is so glaringly obvious

Although ok there was the perceived risk of what would happen if you got rejected and then it gets known in the friend circle etc - but then again who gives a fuck

Ok thx for reading

>>33413671
Yeah, it's basically this. Women like different types of men and can be very pragmatic. But they're passive. It's rare to have a girl come up and overtly ask. Usually they'll find a method of putting themselves in your way, hoping you'll then ask them, but that's usually the most that happens. I'm glad you get it now though, anon.

>>33413679
reason Im low confidence, my head is literally shaved bald, im also older than her by atleast 5 years

but maybe my height helps

anyway, I think I'll report back to adv seeing how it goes, if I fail, I fail, if I succeed, I succeed

I recently almost died and for some reason it has tamed my shyness

>>33413733
>reason Im low confidence, my head is literally shaved bald, im also older than her by atleast 5 years
Bro. Bald men get women all the time. Also most women prefer older men. You literally have an advantage but your mind has turned them into liabilities for no good reason at all lol.
>anyway, I think I'll report back to adv seeing how it goes, if I fail, I fail, if I succeed, I succeed
I'm interested to see how it goes.
>I recently almost died and for some reason it has tamed my shyness
You've learned that life is for living...not letting things pass you by. good job

>>33412468 (OP)
Next time she walks past, keep your door open
When she walks past, stand ready to walk out like you were going somewhere, and "bump into her"

>>33412468 (OP)
She has diarrhea.

>>33414200
everyday?

Don't date coworkers ever.