Thread 33413674

I finally got a gf after 27 years of inceldom. But after a year I've noticed that it's just a massive hassle and I honestly can't be bothered with it.
I wanna be left alone.

But when I'm alone there seems to be no point in doing anything. Like why should I go to work, on holidays, do any hobbies etc.? There's no point if you're alone. There's no goal to work towards to.

Like when I'm in a relationship I feel motivated to do stuff, earn money to drive nice cars, afford holidays, etc.
But when I'm alone all of this doesn't matter and I just rot eating tasteless slop doing nothing.

Both worlds are kinda shit.

I dont get it. What do?

Have 12 children, die.

>>33413674 (OP)
I feel the same
No point in doing anything as none of it matters unless I get a girl and family
And as things look like now, I will never get that

>>33413674 (OP)
She simply wasn't the right girl for you. Don't give up. Keep working on yourself and putting yourself out there. She's out there somewhere.

>>33414211
Stop saying such terrible things about yourself. Work on your self esteem and confidence. Begin with baby steps, literally just go on Google Gemini and type in how do I fix my self esteem if you don't know wtf that means.

>>33414248
I had some self esteem, but it got blown away by this girl that ghosted me
It might come back next summer

>>33414284
Why do you think you need validation from a girl to feel good about yourself? What feeling does that give you, which you currently lack and desire so much?

Also, only a tiny proportion of people are gonna be compatible with you for something serious / long term / marriage and children. Someone who ghosts is a shit communicator and would be awful in the long-run. And if they're not a shit communicator, they're just not that into you - nothing you can do about that whatsoever. It hurts but yeah, onto the next anon. You'll be alright in the end if you keep a positive mindset and have the confidence to take risks (such as dating this girl - so well done). Baby steps brother

>>33413674 (OP)
You need to work on some issues, anon. If you're miserable in and out of a relationship, then your loneliness is coming from the inside.

>>33414364
Sounds like therapy buzzword nonsense.

>>33414315
Wholesome 4chan poster is a rare pull. This guy is happy

>>33414248
I'm still with her but I hate it. And I know there's no one else, so breaking up would be a final decision forever sending me on the lonely road.
That's why I'm still hesitant.

>>33413674 (OP)
>after a year I've noticed that it's just a massive hassle
the trick is to dump her and get a new gf when this happens. works for me, going through 2 gfs/year nowadays

>>33414315
How else are you supposed to feel good about yourself?
Getting ignored, ghosted etc. by women just tells you that you are an unloveable, ugly dysgenic subhuman. How is that supposed to make you feel good?

>inb4 "just lie to urself bro and smash all the mirrors in ur house bro and become delusional bro"
That's just going to make someone waste all their life. Of which they only have one btw.

>>33414586
Therapy works, anon. I've been to therapy, and I'm happy in my life. The solutions are there when you're ready to take them. Failing that, you may just have clinical depression. There's also treatment for that. Go and get it checked out before you ruin your life.

>>33414830
Therapy is for women and basedmen

>>33414626
I'm not good looking enough for that

>>33413674 (OP)
>I wanted an outcome without the responsibility of process
>I somehow got the outcome without responsibility
>I realised the outcome requires responsibility to maintain it
>I can't be assed, it's a hassle, I'd rather be alone with no responsibilities
>But when I am alone, I have no responsibilities and therefore no motivation, so I do nothing
>I don't know how to want to do things without requiring someone else to motivate me.

Just pick one life, can't have both. I recommend sticking with the relationship. You will eventually internalise self responsibility the longer it becomes normal to you.

>>33413674 (OP)
Why a hassel?

>>33413674 (OP)
I think like this but I do not have a gf

>>33418305
Nah, his gf deserves better that this prick

>>33413674 (OP)
Same. I was a loner autist for 26 years of my life. I got a girlfriend somehow. Within a year I realized I wasn't made for human life so I went back to my loner autist life, this time more comfortable and relaxed than before and just waiting to die.

>>33414866
Okay, anon. Never fix your issues. Just bitch about them on the internet. Thousands of vets go to therapy to work on shit that happened in and out of service and it seems to make their lives better, but I guess those guys are just a bunch of fucking pussies. At the end of the day, I'm not the one crying about how being alive is so hard and I can't figure it out while also rejecting the only sensible advice.