>visit my gf in the late hours, i'll stay for a few days
>refridgerator empty
>mountain of dishes to be made
>next day
>go grocery shopping (with my own money of course)
>make homemade lasagna
>do the dishes
>next day
>anon, can you cook again
>yeah, sure
>make homemade filled tortillas
>later watch a movie
>in bed she wants to cuddle and for me to grab her ass
>hell yeah
>touch her a bit, suck on her tiddie for a while
>so is something going to happen or...?
>i can tell she isn't in the mood
>"ok, i'll go back to studying"
>ok
>we stay a bit longer in bed, where she keeps telling me to grab her ass
>yeah, whatever
>look at the kitchen
>dishes have to be done
>trash has to be thrown out
>i already know this shit will have to be done by me, because it always fucking has to when i come over
at what point do i say fuck it
i think my problem is i am a "yes man"
>could you...?
>yes
>can you...?
>yeah, sure
and now she is used to me being pretty much her maid, going grocery shopping, cooking her food, doing the dishes, throwing the trash out, massaging her feet
it feels like a job sometimes and we don't even live together, i just come to visit
and for that i get a "thanks" and maybe pussy once a week
is this normal?

Been there, done that OP.

The best advice I can give you is to prioritise what makes you happiest. If doing acts of service makes you happy and she treats you the way you want to be treated, then keep doing it. But if you’re unhappy, stop.

It’s not your responsibility to be her parent just because she’s infantilised herself. You don’t live with her; you don’t owe her anything.

Are you dating a toddler? Because clearly she doesn’t respect you, acting like a child that has to be taken care of. Think how would you react if a friend asked you for advice. Helplessness is not a desirable trait in anyone.

My gf is always down for sex but her pussy gets too lose and i get pissed and jerk off to 18 year olds

>>33418537
>>33418538
She does not do those things because she stresses out and studies a lot for university. But at some point, I stopped accepting that as an argument. When I arrived yesterday and saw the pile of dishes, I just thought to myself
>Oh wow, I think she really expects me to take care of that huh
And I had to. Or today, the trash bag is full and flies already come. I said
>Yeah, there's food in there, it needs to be thrown out
and she agreed, but doesn't do anything. And I just KNOW if I don't do it, or thr dishes, it will just stay there.
Also, she knows she is demanding (at times), because she told me herself yesterday. Something like
>I know I'm too needy sometimes
And I thought okay, she acknowledges it at least, but I still have to do all the chores. Also, and I don't know if I am kust too nitpicky now, but also with very small stuff.
>Anon, can you get me a drink? (the fridge is 5 meters away)
>Anon, can you turn off the lights? (the switch is 3 meters away)
>Anon, can you check if the door is locked? (it's 5 meters away)
You get it. Maybe I am too sensitive about it at this point, but I genuinely feel like
>Can you...?
Is some sleeper agent activation code
I genuinely do not remember the last time I directly or indirectly asked her to do shit for me. Imagine if the roles were reversed too and she did all this for me, the outrage on the internet this story would bring.

>>33418539
Damn, that's rough.
I'm not going to make a review of my gf or or anything, but when it comes to -that-, I can't complain.

>>33418540
>studies a lot for university.
“Studies” for her gender studies or english lit degree lmfao. Foids are fucking worthless, the one thing they have and they keep it in lock and key.

>>33418542
She is in finances, not some meme degree.

Go back go /adv/ or /r9k/ subhuman hedonistic ape

>>33418536 (OP)
> refridgerator empty
>mountain of dishes to be made
>do the dishes
>next day
>anon, can you cook again
women in the year 2k25 be like

seriously
if this is her now justi magine what it will be like once you have children
cooking is not rocket science most people just dont bother or have "learned helplessnes" or whatever

>>33418540

The little requests like getting water or checking the door is nothing major, as it’s meant to be the chivalrous thing to do. Generally these will be the things she will talk about with her friends regarding the quality of the relationship. The real question is are you happy enough to do them for her? If not, she will never make you happy and you are best to end things now than later.

Focus on your studies or work instead.

>>33418545
It's so fucking over

What is stopping you from saying "hey I don't like doing all the chores, you need to do at least half the housework AND I want to have more sex"

Now I know you're gonna make excuses for her and say you know you'll get in a fight if you say that so you won't get what you want anyway, but as you leave your youth you learn this type of thing is the only way forward and there's nothing wrong with it, you're having to do her chores AND barely fuck out of it, so you're not getting a good deal anyway. Also she doesn't know you're unsatisfied unless you say something

The studying thing doesn't matter, has nothing to do with you, she made the decision to go to school, if she'd like to trade you doing chores for giving more sex so she can study more, then she can make that decision.

>>33418549
> What is stopping you from saying "hey I don't like doing all the chores, you need to do at least half the housework AND I want to have more sex"
he should do this desu
only if she doesnt do it or gets uppity then it truly is over
sometimes people dont realize what they are until they are told

>>33418543
>she’s in jew adult daycare
So, meme degree

>>33418549
He’s afraid of losing the only access to steady starfish pussy he gets. She’ll find a new simp to be a maid for her in a week. This is how holes chain us.

>>33418536 (OP)
to be fair, i do think that it's natural for men to be "yes man" for their wives.
wives used to ask men to do jobs they couldn't do themselves. harder, heavier, higher risk jobs.
but feminist propaganda has taught women that the extremely retarded voice with no object permanence in their mind is telling the truth.
the voice says "your man hasn't done any work in front of you; therefore, he has not worked at all. therefore, you should not work for him".

>>33418536 (OP)
>>go grocery shopping (with my own money of course)
>>make homemade lasagna
>>do the dishes
Absolutely bitchmade

I was in something similar a couple years back

Unfortunately there is a 90% chance that things won't change, I don't mean to be a downer but you can't change people they only change if they want it

It sounds like you have your shit together but she doesn't. And she doesn't treat you very well (if this is real and not some larp)
For your own happiness you should look to end things, you can do way better

>>33418552
I get it but he needs to just stop, its the only way to break the cycle. You don't need to break up, at least not on your own accord, but if you're gonna avoid conflict and do shit you don't want just for some puss then at least start every day by looking in the mirror and saying to yourself out loud "I am a bitch, instead of being a man and taking what I want out of life, I clean up messes and let myself get treated unfairly for mid pussy once a week, and I believe this is good enough for me"

OP I know its hard to imagine but there are men who won't give a girl the time of day unless he really really likes her AND the way she treats him (which in case you're unaware, is the main indicator as to whether she really likes you or not. Girls will clean chads dishes without thinking about it, and never imagine HIM cleaning their messes, and the also love having sex with him)

>>33418536 (OP)
What kind of girl wants her ass grabbed repeatedly but isn't in the mood for sex?

>>33418543
>in finances, not some meme degree.
LMFAO. That's an easy as fuck meme degree. Okay it can earn money but I guarantee she isn't spending much time studying for it.

>>33418536 (OP)
Dated a couple girls like this. I just end things and move on. I tried hinting and telling them I can’t keep babysitting them but they usually don’t change.
When I dump them is when they’re like “omg I didn’t know you were unhappy, I can change, blah blah blah.” Don’t fall for it

>>33418557
He's probably not taking initiative. Should grab her pussy.

>>33418557
she did though
anon kept thinking about dishes instead of college asshole

How is this fitness related you raging homo?

>>33418536 (OP)
OP have you tried plunging your tongue deep into your girlfriend's asshole, rather than doing her chores all the time?

>>33418563
lol
so now instead of humiliating himself by being the woman of the house he is even supposed to literally eat her shit?

lmao

>>33418536 (OP)
>filled tortillas
we know them as burritos on earth

Friendly reminder to report all relationship or mental health threads.

>>33418564

>>33418536 (OP)
Good news is that you can change this, bad news is that it's up to you to do so.
This is basic assertiveness. Explain the objective situation (I've done the dishes X times, there's trash here, here and here), how you feel about it (frustrated, disrespected, doubtful about where the relationship's going), what you'd like to happen (for her to step up) and what positives there'd be if she did (she can worry less about what you think, you'd both have a better time together, you'd feel that the relationship has legs). Take away the ambiguity and make sure you both know what you expect. No need to make ultimatums yet; that's for weeks down the line when you see whether she takes that seriously or not.
The question is why you haven't done it yet. Is it because you didn't know the method? Because you reckon that'll kill the relationship? Or because actually talking about the cleaning or about sex seems more painful than staying in a mediocre, increasingly resentful relationship?
I've had relationships where I mostly didn't do this and two where I kind of did. One ended and that was definitely for the best, and the other turned into a marriage that I'm very happy being in- that relationship originally had exactly the same problem as yours does. Highly recommend you give it a go anon, and all the best to you.

>>33418564
I assume that OP would wipe his GF's bottom for her prior to burying his tongue in her asshole

>>33418536 (OP)
I've been in a somewhat similar boat to you OP. At some point you just have to respect yourself and put your foot down. If she actually cares about the relationship she will do the work to change. if not, then it never really was a relationship to being with.

I was always the one trying to appease her, trying to be the more mature person, But it's not your job to keep her happy. If you're worried she'll get mad, let her be mad. I guarantee you she'll start respecting you more if you don't cave in and try to make her feel better. If you genuinely think you haven't done anything that deserves the reaction, don't apologize.

>>33418536 (OP)
Next time take the money from her purse, she won't tell you nothing since it's for her too and you're also being manly getting things done

This is a lesson most guys have to learn. Women are fucking insufferable and will try to delegate everything on you that they can. Now that you know what its like you can go into your next relationship with your eyes open and keep your pimp hand strong. Never supplicate or take orders

>>33418536 (OP)
Have you ever heard of the concept, "stop giving them what they want until they give you what you want?" You should try that.

>>33418536 (OP)
>>touch her a bit, suck on her tiddie for a while
>>so is something going to happen or...?
you lack rizz if you're unable to make your own gf aroused, especially when she's outright telling you to grab her ass

>>33418557
>>33418561
exactly

some guys will have wet open pussy right in front of them and still be like "UHM? HOW DO I INITIATE SEX?! DO I APPROACH THE PUSSY?"

>>33418536 (OP)
>OP is a doormat
I won't read this.