Thread 33419329

Can you give me a suggestion on how I can revive my sex life in marriage?
First of all, the wife 36 still looks great and after the children, she didn't get fat, looks younger for her age.
But I just got bored with everything. She is not a person who often initiates sex, I am tired of always initiating and she is not creative in sex at all.
I'm missing some excitement, this sounds stupid, but sex with her is just boring.
any Advice???

>>33419329 (OP)
>any Advice???
Yes, but first, I don't get this:

>I am tired of always initiating and she is not creative in sex at all.
You are the one who wants sex but you are also tired of initiating? Idgi.
When the wife doesn't initiate, you wonder what's wrong with her sex drive. You don't become upset because you want sex? What is wrong with initiating when you want it?

>>33419329 (OP)
1 Detox from porn. 2 blindfold and than let her ride.

>>33419358
When I initiate sex, I don't always get it.
Sometimes she's just tired and doesn't feel like it. She also doesn't like sex when she's on her period.
When we have sex, she often orgasms before I do and doesn't have the energy to continue.

>>33419399
>When we have sex, she often orgasms before I do and doesn't have the energy to continue
So you need more foreplay than she does. Make that happen.

>>33419399
>When I initiate sex, I don't always get it.
I see
>When we have sex, she often orgasms before I do and doesn't have the energy to continue.
This is confusing. You make her orgasm and she still "doesn't like sex"? Who doesn't like orgasming.
Is she faking orgasms or do you feel the convulsions? Have you tried getting yours before her? Change positions? Does she orgasm from penetration alone in every position? That sounds unbelievable.

Not wanting to have sex on your period is normal. A lot of women don't enjoy it.

>>33419446
>So you need more foreplay than she does. Make that happen
no... I need any more excitement.

>>33419454
She doesn't fake an orgasm. The easiest way for her is to have an orgasm is with clitoral stimulation while I'm inside her.
Simply put, when she experiences an orgasm, she has no desire for sex anymore.

>Not wanting to have sex on your period is normal. A lot of women don't enjoy it.
I agree. But other women find ways to satisfy men, for example BJ.

>>33419454
>>33419488
Oh and let me add. If we have a BJ for a longer time, she sometimes scratches my penis with her teeth, unintentionally

>>33419488
>She doesn't fake an orgasm. The easiest way for her is to have an orgasm is with clitoral stimulation while I'm inside her.
Simply put, when she experiences an orgasm, she has no desire for sex anymore.
My point was, don't give her an orgasm.
You are giving her penetration and clit stimulation, you're having a race for who orgasms first and she wins.
Judging by what you've written, she sounds entitled, so if you want more excitement out of her, make her work for it. Don't give her clit stimulation every time, do penetration and get yours first some times. Give hers another. Make her want it. She sounds entitled and you seem to give her what she wants, and you ask us about how to get her to give you bare minimum. Is she cheating?

>>33419511
Normal for the jaw to tire anon, she is not a pro I assume

>>33419543
> Is she cheating?
No... I'm sure of that.
> She sounds entitled
It's not that either. It's just not that sex important to her. She was raised very traditionally.
Since sex is not that important to her, it doesn't matter to tray hard about sex

>>33419548
>she is not a pro I assume
far from it....

>>33419608
>Since sex is not that important to her, it doesn't matter to tray hard about sex
But we are sexual creatures anon
Is she masturbating? She could be doing it secretly and she might not be attracted to you. If she stops for a few weeks, her sex drive and attraction to you will rocket.

>>33419329 (OP)
>>33419543
>>33419629

I need to add some context. She experienced a tragedy at the age of 17. father who died suddenly. This left a mark on her that she devoted herself completely to school and later to her studies. She didn't go out to parties, she didn't have boyfriends. I'm the only guy she's slept with!

>>33419648
This is cope on your part. She sounds like a good girl who loved and honors her father. She chose you, which I would be happy about if I were you.

Maybe she is destitute or depressed. Not partying isn't a negative, it's a positive. It comes with no side effects. How old is she now? How long ago was the death? Is she still mourning?
Depression can lower sex drive. It causes you to sad constantly, which makes it difficult to enjoy pleasure.

Sex in forbidden places: public bathrooms, beaches, dressing cabins, abandoned places, cinemas.
Fuck her but don't cum, fuck her hard sometimes, skip foreplay other times, make love sometimes

>>33419329 (OP)
she's 36, not 18. Same with you, if you're not even older.

what is this meme that middle-aged marriage is gonna be the sexiest sex years of your sex life. You got kids in the house you perverts.
>>33420069
>skip foreplay other times
bro's idea of foreplay is probably just poking her ass with his boner in the middle of the night

>>33419629
>If she stops for a few weeks, her sex drive and attraction to you will rocket.
Oh dear, no. Quite the opposite. The more orgasms a woman has, the more her sex drive increases. If she stops having orgasms it can disappear almost completely. Women don't work the same way as men.

>>33420242
Based. TIL. Thank you. Makes sense. Women don't have constant testosterone production and semen that physically needs to be ejaculated, like men. That's why we have a biological need to cum and wet dreams in worst case scenario. Women don't have a biological need to cum, they menstruate their eggs.