Thread 33419515

Is it just me, or is it impossible to find people to be close to? It seems almost everyone has a support system of family or close friends from childhood around them, and if you don't, you're just alone.

I have friends, but they're uninterested in anything serious and pass their time with video games or other meaningless distractions. A woman I knew for over a year fell in love with me, and we talked about moving in together and marriage. She said she'd never leave, but she did to focus more on school and to be with her family. I don't have one besides my grandfather who is miserable and doesn't go outside.

I'm good-looking and sociable, so I'm assuming this is just how things are now, but I refuse to believe it's supposed to be this way. It's a sad life, and no amount of money or hobbies (I have many) will fix sleeping alone every night and knowing no one cares about you. I don't want people to talk shop with or drink. I want family and love.

>>33419515 (OP)
>my grandfather who is miserable and doesn't go outside.
damn he's just like me fr.
anyway yeah you basically got it. if you have a lot of presence in public places you will make connections though, like working a job alongside middle class people or being a regular at a specific venue or park or whatever.
i learnt this the hard way because i go on a daily walk to the same park for mental health purposes and now all the unemployed hobos there know me, and they know i go there during what's normally work hours so they won't stop talking to me and trying to get me to join their hobo group.
keep in mind also that a lot of people's friendships are relatively shallow, limited and low maintenance. some of the guys i know make a lot of acquaintances, milk them a couple of times and then only offer the most superficial communication in case they can find further use for these people in the future.
in your case, you may also be looking for some kind of specific community. take a look at this:
>I have friends, but they're uninterested in anything serious and pass their time with video games or other meaningless distractions.
few people actually set requirements like this. i have one friend that shares 90% of his views and interests with me, and we STILL don't align as far as this condition goes. even though we are good, close friends. it would not be possible for me to socialise with him if my condition was that we only do what i consider meaningful and valuable.
>no amount of money or hobbies (I have many) will fix sleeping alone every night
emmm, no, that's wrong actually. money alone will fix all of this. hobbies can also work, although with greater difficulty. but if you are loaded, this can be addressed quickly and easily.