Thread 33447053

I just met a man who is 28 and wonderful in every way except there's one major red flag I think.

He doesn't have a single picture of himself for 5 years and since he graduated 10 years ago he has literally three pictures of himself. It's so strange I thought he might have served time in prison but he showed me his tax returns showing he has been working since that time. It's just weird that he doesn't take a selfie once in a while when he's doing something interesting. When I was sick with the flu for a week I still managed to take a few selfies. Keep in mind, it's not just selfies. Nobody else has pictures of him either.

Am I overthinking this?

>>33447053 (OP)
he is insecure about how he looks nona. Can you really not figure this out? or is something else going on?

Not a red flag. The guy I was into didn't take any pics of himself because he hated himself and hated looking at his face even though I thought he was a charm. The more we got along and bought stuff for each other, did we start taking more pics.

Idk seems like a normal guy thing, if they don't have anyone to share memories with why take vain pics of themselves just to know they'll feel like crap afterwards.

Positive side, you'll be the only one with recent pics of him and keep them to yourself hehe. I stalked my guy who took zero pics of himself, only once in a blue moon mirror pics. Other than that, I stalked him down....all the clubs, bars, friends house, uni clubs...all their social media platforms it became my ritual to stalk him everyday. Ended up with 890 pics of him (screenshots) and a fouple vids on a good day. And I became the red flag, cause I've only sent him like 4 pics of me. Sorry, small autistic outburst hehe.

>>33447070
>nona
Go back to Crystal Cafe or lolcow you troon.

I don't take pictures of myself alone ever. I take pics of myself with my family or friends. Maybe some objects or buildings while I travel. And even then it's rare.
>Nobody else has pictures of him either.
That's more weird ig. But some people are just camera shy due to insecurity or w/e. Why don't you test your theory? Try to get some pics with him or with both of you.

I'm pretty sure I've read this exact post before.
In the event that I'm just misremembering, it just means he's not vain and doesn't need to see himself in the things he wants to take pictures of.

>>33447053 (OP)
This is why women are from venus and men are from mars. Why the fuck would I take random pics of myself?

>>33447285
I read that book. Love it.

>>33447053 (OP)
Men don't have pictures of themselves. They don't take selfiies, they don't take pictures of each other, and if there is a group event probably those pictures are really bad in any meaning.
Most men get photographed only for yearbooks, IDs, or his wedding.

>>33447053 (OP)
Some perfectly normal people just don't like photos of themselves. Some perfectly formal people don't take photos of anything.

>>33447070
>he is insecure
There's the redflag
Skip that guy

>>33447563
its in the top 10 of books read by couples before divorcing

>>33447639
>t. Insecure guy

1. Most guys don't just randomly take pictures of themselves unless they're really vain and attention seeking

2. He's probably just insecure about how he looks. That doesn't mean he's insane or fucked up, but he might be a bit introverted or something. Take that how you will.

>>33447053 (OP)
You're being an actual retard. My best friend had to deal with the same thing when a girl he started dating freaked out that he didn't have an Instagram and worried that meant he might be faking his identity. You don't do anything with those pictures.
>>33447109
I used to take a ton of pictures of myself but I was a full on self obsessed maniac.
These days I'm only in the odd family photo of me with my wife and kids. My photos are basically all just me behind the camera capturing things I think my kids will like to reminisce or see they once did.
>>33447617
Yeah that's about it. Late teens early 20s we took some drunk socialising shots for Facebook, but ... Why?
Holiday shots are legit though.
>>33447639
Anyone who thinks like that should skip, do the guy a favour.

>>33447932
>1. Most guys don't just randomly take pictures of themselves unless they're really vain and attention seeking
I take selfies of myself almost daily I'm not proud of it I don't post it anywhere I just have it on my phone so I can see my progress in terms of weight loss, so I can see if my hair is okay, so I can see if anything about my face changed, to see if my outfit is good, and so that I have a memory and track record of how I look "back then" for when I'm in better days in the future.

>>33447053 (OP)
not taking selfies is normal. him not having any pictures of him that someone else took in FIVE years means this guy doesn't have any social life, which isn't the most terrible thing but Its also indicative of the fact that well, he has no social life. So probably he has a lot of fears. Don't talk about social skills - everyone has social skills. Its fear that stops us. So he's afraid of the outside like me and many others, but he doesn't choose to get over it. Does this make him a bad person? no, does it make him incompatible with you? also no. If he's perfect in every other way - then take that boy, give him love and care and attention, prop him up to the world, make him feel secure, and tell him to use this energy that you've now given him to go out and interact with people and not be afraid. He'll be dependent on you to begin with, but you want to circumvent a situation where he's solely dependent on you for too long. Give him love, send him into the world, watch him get over his fears and grow. I believe this is what partners are supposed to do for each other. Particularly women because they are usually the more confident between two people in a relationship in terms of talking to people and being outside.

good luck OP

>>33447053 (OP)
>This MAN doesn't do things like WOMEN do! It that BAD?!?!?!
lol
I have 4 brothers.
If it wasn't for my mother none of us nor our father would have any pictures because *men DGAF about that shit*.

>>33448041
>then take that boy, give him love and care and attention, prop him up to the world, make him feel secure,
That plus bringing him to anything. It's easy to fall off the face of the earth. Once no one's looking for you, there are no invites to take people up on.
It doesn't take much to turn someone like that into a functioning socializer again.

>>33448058
exactly. please do this OP.
I lost my gf a year ago because she cheated on me after 5 years together and 4 years living together, so I ended it. It was so sad. Ever since then I've gone out and did things, but my fear never went away, I'm constantly fearful and constantly in danger of regression and reverting to my default state of being indoors playing games and not going to event. I'm relapsing right now actually which is why I'm on this stupid ass fucking website, but atleast while I'm here I'm gonna do something useful and preach good things to the choir and tell you - GIVE THAT BOY LOVE GIRL!!! he'll be the best fucking boy for you

>>33447053 (OP)
Do you know this person irl? If so, that shouldn't really be a problem. Had a situationship with a guy that didn't like taking a pics of himself but that shouldn't be something bad. Maybe the guy is insecure of himself, doesn't like how he looks like or just doesn't like taking pics of himself

>>33447053 (OP)
there is not a single picture of me since i was a child outside of snapshots for passports and licences outside of the mandatory holiday pictures with family. its not really that weird for a guy

>>33447639
>If you give me six lines written about the most honest of men, I will find something in them to break up over

You should mod r/TwoXChromosomes

>>33447053 (OP)
I don't have any pics of myself because I'm insecure af and even ask friends to not take pics of me. The only pics of me that exist have been taken by women in my family, and obviously I don't have those. You're overthinking it like crazy.

>>33447053 (OP)
Why would a guy take pictures of himself? That’s what women do. Maybe someone who is gay might take pictures of themselves.

>>33447053 (OP)
I also have no pictures of myself for over 3 years. I also have been depressed for those years

>>33447053 (OP)
nice try CIA

>>33447053 (OP)
I don't take photos of myself when I go places or do something, I take photos of the place or the activity. I already know what I look like, I have a mirror.
>when i was sick i still took selfies
Why? Why do women take selfies all the time even if they aren't doing anything interesting?
>>33447070
Stupid assumption

Guys just aren't as narcissistic as girls are. They don't feel the need to take pictures of themselves as much as women do.
This almost feels like a bait thread.

>>33447107
>g-g-g-go buh-buh-buh-back
Kill yourself you weak chinned slime ball

He is balding or he gained weight.

>>33447053 (OP)
Yes, you're overthinking this way too much. I'm in my late 20's and I HATE taking selfies. I have fb, insta, tik tok and I use the same pic for on each one. Girls ask for pics and I send them the same few pics. It's pretty common. Some people (especially men) just don't like taking selfies.

>>33447053 (OP)
Just ask him to get on zoom for facetime

Taking pics of yourself is pretty gay for a dude. Either that or they're a narcissist/gay for themselves.

>>33447053 (OP)
Stop being fem brained. What dose it matter how many pictures he has of himself? It doesn't.
Are you simple? Can you give me even one possible reason this would be anything more than a fun fact?

I never took pictures of myself even in my early 20s when I was frequently told I was hot and had lots of dates/girlfriends. What the fuck who cares he doesn’t have pictures

>>33447053 (OP)
I don't take selfies, and I don't use normie social media. I simply just live in the moment.
I only come to this site when the weather is bad.

>>33447053 (OP)
>he showed me his tax returns showing he has been working since that time.
The red flag here is your paranoid ass

>>33450834
Go back troon trog. And kys.

>>33452450
>no u
>everyone I don't like is a tranny
You are a walking stereotype

>>33447053 (OP)
men don't take selfies all the time. thats a woman thing. a narcissistic woman thing.

women crave attention, and know they can get it through selfies. men crave attention too, but know no one gives a shit, so they don't waste their time taking selfies.

>>33447053 (OP)
Men don't routinely have any interest in taking pictures of themselves. I know this is hard for women to understand, but we're not typically the subjects of our own interest.

>>33447053 (OP)
Many guys don't take pictures of themselves and don't have other people in their lives interested in taking their pictures.
It's why taking actually good recent pictures needs to be told to guys making dating profiles.

Ask yourself this: Why do you take or have pictures of yourself? What's the purpose? Guys kinda need a purpose to do something that isn't fun.

>>33453168
Women will complain about men's dating profiles all having a picture of them holding a fish. That's probably the only time most men get a picture of themselves taken.

>>33447053 (OP)
I haven't taken a single picture of myself in over 10 years

>>33453204
and only because we are actually taking a picture of the fish. The only reason we're in the picture is to provide reference to show how large it is and prove that we caught it.

>>33452747
kys

>>33447053 (OP)
>she made a nigga show her his tax returns
yeah i think you're overthinking it

I understand you are scared, and you should be, but I also don't have pictures of myself. No friends or anything. Doesn't mean he's a rapist,murder etc

>>33448000
>Late teens early 20s we took some drunk socialising shots for Facebook
what if you don't have even these

>>33447053 (OP)
Why's that a red flag? I don't get it
I'm 28 too and I have never taken a "selfie" in all of my life and I don't see why I would. What would I be doing that for? For who? For what purpose?
If i'm doing something interesting, then i'm not thinking about myself or my image, i'm engaged in what is interesting

>>33447639
This is an ugly woman that doesn't want other women having men so she feels better about herself. Sad

>>33448000
>My best friend had to deal with the same thing when a girl he started dating freaked out that he didn't have an Instagram and worried that meant he might be faking his identity
Do women really?
I can't imagine meeting anyone this retarded

>>33453163
That's the wrong meme variation
This is the one you meant to post

>>33453284
I can feel the seething from here.

>>33447053 (OP)
>major red flag
>He doesn't have a single picture of himself for 5 years
this is bait, right?
what if I told you that I consider it a red flag when people take a lot of pics of themselves? here's the reason: it's proof of your narcissism.

I've started taking more pics of even the most minor and seemingly insignificant events in my life because I realized that before I had my (now ex) gf in my life, there were like 3 photos of me that existed between graduating high school and 21 years old. Now that she's gone, I have to take things in my own hands. It's just weird thinking that your children will have no photos of you from some of the most formative times in your life

>>33454332
This is a thing. I don't do it, but i've seen it. This is the male equivalent, but it's not as universal as the female version I think

>>33447053 (OP)
This is normal.
Like, painfully typical of guys.
We want to see pictures of places we've been, food we've eaten, or things we got. Not of ourselves.

>>33454332
real. you see it on streamer desk reviews a LOT.

>>33454402
I never thought of it that way. My grand uncle died and I was looking at photos of him. I wanted to keep some to remember him by. I got a photo of him and a couple of other fellas showing a display of foxes they shot. And some other photos that I won't elaborate on but mean a lot to me, which are the family's pride but maybe controversial. Can't believe my aunt tried to burn them. Fucking bitch. But it made me realise how important to me having photos of my elders are. They won't always be around. So anyways, after we buried him, my father gave me photos of himself when he was my age which were similar to the foxes, except it was wildfowling. Displaying ducks and geese. It made me happy that he would give me them. But I never considered that someone would want pictures of me. It just never crossed my mind. I'm autistic

>>33454498
And I actually have very few pictures of my self. There's only about a handful of them of when I was a child because I was camera shy. There's one of me when I was 17 scowling at my little brother dodging work all day and didn't realise my father was taking a picture (lol) and one of me when I was 12 and caught a big trout which was my first one. And another one of me when I was 11 which is actually a good one. That's it
The thing is, I still don't like having pictures of me. It creeps me out for some reason. It didn't back then when the internet wasn't a big thing, but now it does

>>33447053 (OP)
This is me. I dont have social media and havent taken a selfie in years now. Im just a loner though who just wagecucks and goes back home.

>>33447053 (OP)
even the man in this story is a troon

>>33447053 (OP)
men are not women. Selfies exist...for women. Men take pictures of the thing. Women take pictures of themselves holding the thing. Men take pictures of their art. Women take pictures of themselves standing next to their art. I do not intend to call women this or shade them in the negative by giving this example, but you're basically calling "not being a self absorbed narcissist who plasters his picture everywhere" a red flag.
>Am I overthinking this?
Massively so. He literally showed you tax returns. Don't let overthinking and fantasy ruin a good thing, anon.

>omg this guy that I really like doesnt take selfies like a self obsessed vain egotistical woman zomgggg
Youre one dumb, DUMB fucking bitch

>>33455098
>>33447053 (OP)
Said in a less combative way, though this is true:

Why are you measuring a *man* by what *women* do?

>>33452439
Is this what people think when they see on someone's CV they haven't been working for a while? Guess that explains why I couldn't get a job with gaps in my CV

>>33455130
No, for a CV it's more about a reliability thing. You need a job to survive, so unless you have a really good reason for not working like school, or you went abroad for x amount of time, etc, people think it's weird. Wtf were you doing for 3 years that you couldn't put on your resume? It's just not a good look because there are a LOT of bad things which could fill that space. If you have gaps, it's best to just make shit up at some low tier position and provide good references so it's just not questioned.

>>33447053 (OP)
>I just met a man who is 28 and wonderful in every way except there's one major red flag I think.
>He doesn't have a single picture of himself
>It's so strange I thought he might have served time in prison
>It's just weird that he doesn't take a selfie once in a while when he's doing something interesting.
>Am I overthinking this?
This is so fucking stupid. Why does he need pictures of himself? Why do you need him to have pictures of himself?
>"Hey, Instagram! I just saw a squirrel! Here's a picture of me in front of the tree it ran up. I wanted to make sure you all know I saw the squirrel and I'm not actually in jail."
Is that what you want? Would that make you feel better?

>>33447053 (OP)
>He doesn't have a single picture of himself for 5 years and since he graduated 10 years ago he has literally three pictures of himself.
he's literally me

>>33447053 (OP)
Men only take pictures of themselves for women's validation, nothing more.

>>33447053 (OP)
I've never taken a selfie in years, I don't have pictures taken because I believe the FBI will steal it even if my computer is offline. They do live in my walls. I hate them.

Good bait, look at all these replies.

Guys look at me, I'm a female and I'm obsessive about being seen as myself and farming social status with my presence. I am biologically incapable of understand any perspective outside my own.

>>33447053 (OP)
>Am I overthinking this?
You're a female complaining about some contrived ick, of course you are overthinking this. And I hope it take you away from him, he deserves better, who the hell do you think you are

>>33448041
>him not having any pictures of him that someone else took in FIVE years means this guy doesn't have any social life, which isn't the most terrible thing but Its also indicative of the fact that well, he has no social life.
I don't see how that follows. Men in social settings as a rule don't make a habit of taking pictures of themselves or their friends regularly. Just as they also don't typically take pictures of themselves singularly unless something really funny or stupid happened.

>>33447070
heh keep uploading those angle fraud filtered pictures you absolute MAN

>>33447053 (OP)
Social media addiction follows a power law just like alcoholism.
OP and her (his?) man will never get along due to differing spots on the addiction.
It would be like pairing up a woman who drinks a fifth of grain alcohol every morning for breakfast with a guy who has a beer or two while watching the game; they're on such wildly differing parts of the addiction they'll never get along.

>>33447053 (OP)
Posting selfies is the female atheist version of prayers. I will perform this ritual effort and submit my wishes and dreams to the great god in the sky, that being the 5G cell tower and the cloud computing data center. Then time will tell if my prayers are answered. Usually not, but they just keep on praying / posting selfies.
Guys who are not into female atheist prayer rituals will not post selfies they'll go fishing or go to church and do real prayers there or play video games or lift or whatever else.
Complaining about guys not posting selfies is like asking why the folks who aren't Catholic don't regularly pray the rosary and being all confused why, like how could those two be related hmmmmm.

Guys dont really do this automatically loke other bs such as photographing their food every time. I only do it because im an artist and sometime see nice lighting

>>33447053 (OP)
most guys don't take pics of themselves, I have friends and they rarely take photos of me, and I think subconsciously they don't think to because I don't take pictures a lot

LOL selfies are for dumb narcissists. Who the fuck takes pointless photos of themselves.