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Anonymous No.33450461 >>33450487 >>33450546 >>33450590 >>33450860 >>33451342 >>33451391 >>33451417 >>33451431 >>33451470 >>33451507 >>33451579 >>33451609 >>33451618 >>33451666
Is having sex with lots of hot women good for you? Can you "get it out of your system"? Guys always told me you were supposed to do that in your 20s. Now I'm 34, I've only had 3 sexual partners including the one I'm with now and I feel like I'm missing out. I'm worried that if I were to leave my girlfriend and fuck around, that it would ultimately be an empty experience I would regret. But at the same time I feel compelled to.
Anonymous No.33450466 >>33450541 >>33451620
If you feel this way you don’t actually love your girlfriend
Anonymous No.33450487 >>33450541
>>33450461 (OP)
Largely no. Anything deeply pleasurable should be controlled or you can slip into abuse, addiction, etc.

I'd rather have consistent sex with someone I actually care about than a random body every weekend, but ymmv.
Anonymous No.33450515 >>33450541
Really debating whether or not it's even worth giving a serious reply to this dumb shit.
Anonymous No.33450541 >>33450551
>>33450515
You sound like a faggot so don't bother.
>>33450487
Thank you, I will reflect on this
>>33450466
kk
Anonymous No.33450546 >>33450554
>>33450461 (OP)
>Can you "get it out of your system"?
No, the sex drive goes on forever. It's not like you fuck a girl and you're good, you just get horny again.
Anonymous No.33450551
>>33450541
You've only had three sexual partners. If anything you're a bigger faggot than me.
Anonymous No.33450554 >>33450571
>>33450546
I believe you but let me ask you this, why is it that people (mostly normies) perpetuate this lie then?
Anonymous No.33450571 >>33450577
>>33450554
Normies aren't known for perpetuating anything resembling truth or intelligence.
Anonymous No.33450577
>>33450571
Fair enough, thanks
Anonymous No.33450590 >>33450595
>>33450461 (OP)
>Is having sex with lots of hot women good for you?
Not particularly.
>Can you "get it out of your system"?
No.

But the important thing to note is that someone like you at the age of 34 is utterly unattractive to hot women anyway; so, even if you left your girlfriend, it wouldn't make any difference. That ship sailed a long time ago.
Anonymous No.33450595 >>33450670 >>33450686 >>33450697 >>33451417 >>33451614
>>33450590
My girlfriend is 21 and very hot but, whatever you say lol
Anonymous No.33450670 >>33450828
>>33450595
>My girlfriend is 21 and very hot
NTA, but if this is true, what are you whining about? You're having sex with a hot woman.
Anonymous No.33450673
You know OP I'm still trying to see for myself lol. I don't mind waiting for someone meaningful and hot to come along, just takes trial and error, talking to people, etc. Dating can be boring and right now it is so for me because it's all online. Awesome webm btw
Anonymous No.33450686 >>33450702 >>33450831
>>33450595
>My girlfriend is 21
It's kind of pathetic that you're not capable of forming an emotional connection with someone your own age. You must be remarkably immature. In which case, you may as well break up with her and fuck around; as soon as she grows up she'll dump you anyway.
Anonymous No.33450697 >>33450831
>>33450595
>My girlfriend is 21
>Now I’m 34

YIIIIIKES
Anonymous No.33450702 >>33450727 >>33451323
>>33450686
are 21-year-olds braindead little kids or something? she's 21, mate.
Anonymous No.33450727
>>33450702
>are 21-year-olds braindead little kids or something?

Yes
Anonymous No.33450828
>>33450670
Well if you read the OP you would have your answer, you never had people tell you to "get it out of your system" growing up as a dude? I heard it at least a dozen times
Anonymous No.33450831 >>33450838
>>33450686
>>33450697
Lil bro why do you keep trying, I'm not gonna fall for it lmao
Anonymous No.33450838 >>33450875
>>33450831
>34 years old
>Lil bro
>lmao
>I’m not going to fall for it

You are so unbothered by it you had to tell us
Anonymous No.33450860 >>33450875
>>33450461 (OP)
You aren't missing out. You just need one good partner to do it with all the time. Every man pretty much has the same penis and every woman basically has the same vagina. Doing it with lots of different people isn't cool and it's selfish I feel cause you hurt people along the way. Your sexual energy is very sacred whether you see it that way or not so the more of it you give away or create the worser you look.
Anonymous No.33450875 >>33451092
>>33450838
Yep I'm really losing it here, please stop! Rawr!
>>33450860
Yeah I just feel like my perception is fucked because my dad and friends dads all told my friends and I constantly to "get it out of your system", I remember one of my friends dads saying "White, Asian, Black, Latino... do them all, get it out of your system early so you can focus on life". I really don't understand where this idea comes from but it seems like almost everyone here is against it
Anonymous No.33451092 >>33451108
>>33450875
>my dad and friends dads all told my friends
you're 34 and you haven't realized that Dad and friends dads are frequently full of shit or have ideas that are counterproductive to thriving?
Anonymous No.33451108 >>33451123
>>33451092
(You)
Anonymous No.33451123
>>33451108
No I'm being serious. It didn't occur to you at, say, 21 not to listen to your parents advice about dating ever?
Anonymous No.33451323
>>33450702
>are 21-year-olds braindead little kids or something?
Brain-dead, no. But they are very much still children. When she's an adult (at 26 or so) she'll find him insufferably childish.
Anonymous No.33451342
>>33450461 (OP)
>Can you "get it out of your system"?
Absolutely not, no. Not ever. What sometimes happens is that people grow up.

Your problem, here, is that you don't regard women as people; you regard them as objects. You think of them eitherbas life support systems for vaginas, or as indications of status: that if an attractive woman lets you put your penis inside her, this means you must be cool. This kind of attitude is never desirable, but it is somewhat forgivable when you're young and stupid and your brain has been poisoned by porn. That's kind of how I used to feel about women when I was about 14.

Now, sometimes people do grow out of it. It has absolutely nothing to do with how many women you fuck, though. It is simply a consequence of becoming an adult, and discovering that women are actually people and that it is possible to connect with women emotionally as well as physically, and have a relationship with them instead of merely penetrating them.

Now, in your case, you're obviously never going to grow up. If you still feel like this at the age of 34, then this is all you will ever feel. So the best thing for you to do definitely to break up with you girlfriend and fuck around, because sex is the only thing you will ever be capable of getting from women, and you may as well enjoy it while you can. Ten years from now when you're older, fatter, balder, and more impotent, the only young women who will be interested in you will be those with BPD and galloping daddy issues; and you'll try to tell yourself it doesn't matter, but it will. So by all means enjoy the few years you have left.

But don't expect anything to change, because you won't change. You'll tell yourself that it doesn't matter, and that other people are weak and blue-pilled for wanting anything other than sex, and you'll probably convince yourself that's true. But you'll never be happy. Having as much sex as you can will take your mind off it for a few years, so go for it.

t. man who grew up
Anonymous No.33451391
>>33450461 (OP)
What makes you think you'd be able to do this now when you couldn't in your twenties?
Anonymous No.33451417
>>33450461 (OP)
>get it out of your system
You are a child who views women as toys. After a while you get bored with one toy and want to play with something else. That's to be expected in a child. But playing with more toys won't make you into a grown-up.

>>33450595
>My girlfriend is 21
Dating someone who is barely more than a child. Why am I not surprised?
Anonymous No.33451431
>>33450461 (OP)
Unironically what I overheard 17 year old girl talking. Basically it was like
>hurr, I want to enjoy life and therefore I want to fuck a lot of men while I'm young, I could die tomorrow
Then I guess men around 35-40 start thinking like that too. That's why those young girls end up with older guys because they both want the same. Hedonistic fun, which old women don't want, and young guys are too emotional and needy. I just made all that up. But all of it is short lived, so whatever you want you have to experience yourself
Anonymous No.33451470
>>33450461 (OP)
>Is having sex with lots of hot women good for you?
No

>Can you "get it out of your system"?
Yes, but not through whoring yourself like a dog.

>Guys always told me you were supposed to do that in your 20s.
Those guys are middling midwits. Neither smart or stupid. So as always in midwit fashion, they are half-right. They are right, you should only act like an immature retard in your youth, it is unbecoming of a man in his wiser years. They are wrong, it shouldn't be done at all ideally. Right and wrong.

>Now I'm 34, I've only had 3 sexual partners including the one I'm with now and I feel like I'm missing out.
You are missing out, but not on women or pussy. Something a bit bigger than that. Something missing inside of (you), not missing from other people. Find out what that is. Big hint: it's not sex or vaginas. You can verify this by noticing that vaginas are just vaginas. The one your GF has is more or less the same as a slut has. It's a warm gooey flesh pocket that pisses, bleeds, and salivates with vaginal mucus just like any other vagina. There's 4 billion of them doing that. You are not missing out on anything because you already have access to one.

>I'm worried that if I were to leave my girlfriend and fuck around, that it would ultimately be an empty experience I would regret.
That's called your gut instinct. If you are wise, you'll listen to it. Because it's telling the truth.

>But at the same time I feel compelled to.
Yes. Because your life is lacking in something. And your brain is trying to band-aid it by seeking the lowest and easiest dopamine hit it can think of: sex.

You already know it won't satiate you. You jerk off, you feel empty. You fuck GF, you feel empty. Fuck a whore, feel empty.

You been depending on women, love and sex too much to the point you have forgot life is about way way more than just that. And the reason I think this is true is because your first kneejerk solution to the women dilemma is to seek women. Again.
Anonymous No.33451496
I fucked a metric ton of slutty girls in high school, college and my 20s.
It was degenerate and harmful to my spirit, and I'm aware that it was the wrong decision.
That said, it felt pretty good. Not a lot in life compared to some of those experiences, especially some of the best ones.
Anonymous No.33451507
>>33450461 (OP)
All of the holes are the same. That's it. That's the realization you're meant to sleep around to discover.
They're all the same and you had a good thing going and you shouldn't have wasted it is the only thing you're gonna learn if you leave your current girl to go be single in this dating market.
Just have better sex with your current girl.
Anonymous No.33451579
>>33450461 (OP)
It's more the right multiple women. I'm married 36 and its getting worse every year. It's gotten to a point where desire/arousal is separate from sexual release. Like I'm talking desire in your core that can't be fulfilled unless it's the right woman. Sometimes the right eye contact will fulfill that desire. I will just say the odds of nailing down your ideal type, them being single, liking you back, etc is so bad that this luxury only presents itself in very quick and fleeting situations.
Anonymous No.33451609
>>33450461 (OP)
Sex is like food.
When you eat Fouquet's for the first time, it's an exceptional experience.
But when you eat it everyday, it just becomes normal. It doesn't make you happy anymore. But you definitely feel better than if you never experienced good food in the first place.
Anonymous No.33451614
>>33450595
How did you get her? Would love some tips.
Anonymous No.33451618
>>33450461 (OP)
I got a secret for you.

There is no "out of your system" the thirst never goes away. Once you've had a lot and your brain cant use the "i didnt fuck enough women excuse" it just switches to another.
Its a breeding instinct, not a desire for life experience. There is no real reason you ever should expect it to diminish at all. Make a choice. Want a relationship? You gotta deal with the fact youre gonns feel this way.

Wanna be single.and bang whores? You gotta accept the fact youre still just gonna feel this way anyway except now on occasion if an opportunity arises you can take it. But if youre like most of us, youre still just gonna mostly be alone and sexually frustrated with transient opportunities. Reality of life. No one said anyone could have their cake and eat it too.
Anonymous No.33451620
>>33450466
What's your longest relationship?
Anonymous No.33451666
>>33450461 (OP)
Don't leave your girlfriend.

Sex is just like a drug. No, you will never "get it out of your system." You will want to do it your entire life. Just like how you want to indulge your other vices for the dopamine hit. Learn to control yourself. Life isn't all about satisfying your hedonistic desires and it doesn't lead to happiness. Look at the lives of those who are ruled by their impulses. It never leads anywhere good. And I learned that lesson myself.

Now, you make the choice to dedicate yourself and stay faithful to your gf for the rest of your life, provided she is a good woman. Marry her and breed with her. I wish that's what I'd done.