How do I actually form meaningful connections with other people?

Lately I've been observing more and more patterns of being in friend groups where I'm just a number rather than anyone worth giving a damn about. I constantly see them making plans, doing shit together and having more private conversations outside of the usual mediums for group chat, without me being included unless I force myself in. I've confronted them about this once and all they can manage is a half hearted excuse of "thinking I wasn't interested" or a half hearted apology only for the same shit to happen again.

It's not the first time either. I'm sick of being excluded like I don't belong. The worst part is that it doesn't even feel like it's malicious intent from them, just pure apathy and a lack of empathy and friendliness from them, and that perhaps is the most infuriating part.

>>33450866 (OP)
reach out

>>33450866 (OP)
How dare they think you’re not interested when you put in no work into friendship. They are totally apathetic to the fact that you just want you just want to be included in everything, while doing nothing

>>33450908
>put in no work into friendship
What do you define as putting in work into a friendship then?

Is reaching out not enough? Is pulling my fair share of the weight not enough? Is being actively present and genuine loyalty not enough? I really do not understand what it is that people are expecting these days.

>"I've confronted them about this"

This is the reason. If you're the kind of person who feels entitled to the genuine interest of others just by existing, it's because you're a woman (or an FTM trannie) and no one really wants to be your friend, maybe some dudes wants to fuck you. Women aren't real friends with each other, that's a (((netflix))) dellusion.

>>33450866 (OP)
make plans and start chats, simple as

>>33450866 (OP)
They probably don’t want to hang out with you but they are too nice to say it to your face.

> Is reaching out not enough? Is pulling my fair share of the weight not enough? Is being actively present and genuine loyalty not enough?
Neither of those count as being a friend. As for your share of the weight, how exactly do you contribute? If you are not making everyone else feel better and happier, then you will not be invited.

>>33450866 (OP)
Ever since the covid hoax I stopped interacting with the goyim cattle. I just look through them and pretend they don't exist. I don't even greet them or acknowledge their presence. I'm not staring either, I'm just looking straight through them as if they weren't there.
My life has significantly improved. I have zero social anxiety now, not that I had much before but now I have zero.

>>33450866 (OP)
humans are social animals, as part of this we search for people to talk to and hang out with. sometimes Its by necessity. sometimes Its not even for fun, Its just for security and feeling safe and having another human to satisfy your social need.

what you want is someone that you satisfy their social need ok, but they also satisfy yours in return, this is called care. if the other people are just yapping and making plans and kind of vibing and existing and you're just there - then they are unknowingly just using you.

what YOU can do about it anon is you can CHOOSE to hang out with people who actually care about satisfying your social need too. that's a reciprocal relationship, and Its normal and how it should be.

that's the simple answer, you're welcome

>>33450866 (OP)
Do things together, long term. Every single friendship without that is shallow.

>>33450887
i think the problem that OP and a lot of other people have is that they are always the one reaching out.