Thread 33452154

>Between 19 and 25 I pissed my life around
>Lots of flings that led to nowhere, never bothered to look for good job that was outside of retail, 0 attempt at getting an education or training
>Follow my family to another state and finally start taking my life seriously
>Enroll myself in a trade in community college


>Just turned 29 a month ago
>My graduation for my associates was just three months ago
>After nonstop applying finally land a job near my place
>Trying to figure out what my next step should be


Any late starters that have any advice for me? Ive been toying with the idea of joining the coast guard just so I can boost myself professionally. But I also know that when things dont look optimal or they need some time to develop, I jump ship. So I feel that joining the coast guard is a knee-jerk reaction to something I have never done in my life, and would rather have my path be defined and ordered by higher powers that be.

What should my next step be? Originally I took up welding as a plan-B in case whatever I wanted to pursue didnt do well. I've been toying with the idea of getting into video game development on the side by taking up some programming courses. But ultimately I cant decide what to pick.

Am I too old to finally start my life anons? Should I just give up and just make the best of my trade?

>>33452154 (OP)
No, you aren't too old to start your life. Personally, I'd do the trade thing if I enjoyed it. Here are my personal takes on your other life plans:

>Coast Guard
This is one of the hardest things you'll ever do. If you enjoy it, great, amazing, massive respect for the coast guard, but the training is only slightly easier than the Marines so go in knowing that

>Video game development
This is a hobby. Do it and have fun and (maybe) make some money but know that most people can't make it into a career

>Welding
Why do a different trade if you already know a trade? I don't get it

>>33452154 (OP)
>Ive been toying with the idea of joining the coast guard
you're not 18 so stop with this deluded trying everything strategy. Make a plan that counts because you do not have the luxury of time anymore. Take account of your experience and skills and focus it on something that has a higher chance of you reaching success. Starting from ground zero might be a strategy by enlisting, but that would have been wasted time and potential. So think about it carefully.
>would rather have my path be defined and ordered by higher powers that be.
you just don't have a plan and that's why you're okay with landing whatever you can. Actually figure out what an ideal dream life would be for you and make plans to achieve it within a reasonable time. Not, "LEL whatever I'll just see where it goes" thats female mindset.
>Originally I took up welding as a plan-B
theres good money to be had here if you were serious
>I've been toying with the idea of getting into video game development on the side by taking up some programming
no. This is the mindset of a child. You might do this as a hobby, but it won't feed you right now. 2010 was 15 years ago and if you don't know any programming now, you will not catch up in time before AI vibe coding takes over. You are already late for this so stop.
>Am I too old to finally start my life anons?
no, men have lots of time to do new things. But you are no longer in your 20's- you should have been established now going into your 30's. But if you focus and stop wasting time, lots of progress can be hand in just 1 year's time.
>Trying to figure out what my next step should be
you don't have a dream lifestyle or goal yet. So you cannot define the next steps because of a lack of planning. Take a month to exercise or travel somewhere. Learn about yourself before you start making assumptions and go the wrong way. Figure out what life you want and do everything in your capability to reach that everyday. Until you know what that is, it is a waste.

>>33452154 (OP)
I won't read survey threads about no-one in particular on an advice board.

I'm a late starter and I finished college this May. I'm in my early thirties. I've had a number of low skill jobs before I eventually ended up going to school more or less full time until I graduated. I had an associates degree around your age I think.

I also had a college fund and I don't have any debt which if I didn't have that I think that I'd be raging in some form or another. At this point my future looks bright but I think depending on the decisions someone in my situation makes that could stop being the case quickly. I had an idea of what I wanted when I ended up taking my course of study, and my major ended up being really meaningful to me and I'm excited to work for the rate it typically offers, which is typically not extravagant (mental health)

A manager at a job I worked once exclaimed that if your heart isn't in it it doesn't go well when talking about taking classes

>>33452203
Not that I want to do a different trade, I enjoy welding. Truth is though i dont think it's something I want to continue doing in the long run just because of how bad it can be for my lungs.

Yeah maybe the coast guard I'll give it another year and let it simmer, see how I feel about it later. Thank you anon.

And thanks for the reality check too, game dev should be a side gig/hobby

>>33452209
>you're not 18 so stop with this deluded trying everything strategy

Yeah that's been a constant thought going around in my mind, I just needed someone else to tell me.
You're pretty much right on everything. I havent really sat down, and actually considered the lifestyle I want. All I know is that I want it to be somewhere out in the country away from people. Maybe I'll set up my own workshop after some experience.

Thanks for keeping it real anon

>>33452291
Yeah as >>33452209 pointed out, I really need to have a sitdown and think what kind of life I want for myself. Finally I did something right by learning a trade, but I could always fuck that up by not actually thinking through my decisions.


>if your heart isn't in it it doesn't go well

That's why Im here wondering if the choices Im offering to myself are genuine heart desires or just stuff that pops into my head trying to avoid me of taking responsibility.

Never cared much for programming, so idk why all of a sudden this is something that's becoming an idea i should pursuit.

It's over.

>>33452154 (OP)
Depends on what you want, dumb faggot.
How could anons possibly tell you what's best for you?

Redline anon is right from a logical/realistic pov but life isn't necessarily that rigid. For instance, a 5 minute interaction somewhere can take you down a completely different path that you didn't expect etc. For now you probably can't go wrong with trades and spinning that out into your own business after becoming sufficiently experienced, you can probably make 7 figures yearly by the time you're in your 40s if you play your cards right. AI is coming for digital professions first (coding, art, design, etc.) and is going to be extremely competitive, robotics is still decades away from rekting trades most likely and zoomers don't want to do hard physical labor so way more opportunities for (You), although there is still the challenge with competing with cheap labor that migrant hordes are creating. Eventual business goal because if you look at trends traditional salaried professions are toast, ie lose parity with cost of living every year, which is obviously not something you want to hear if you prefer doing what you're told. Keep an open mind though while you move forward with whatever you decide

You're not too old to make it materially at all but maybe too late mentally or maybe even in relationship dynamics because those shits are solidified in your teen years and never really leave you even if you become a billionaire. So worry a lot more about non-money matters if you're going to worry a lot about anything imo (health, relationships etc)

>>33452154 (OP)
I would consider myself as one
>24
>College degree
>can't find a job
>Still live wth parents
>Sister is better off than I, about to start a family, has more friends, etc
>Got my licence last year
>broke up with last GF 2 years ago, haven't found another one since
>All friends are either in the same boat as i am or have good-paying jobs
>Might join the Navy as a last resort

>>33452154 (OP)
Colonel Sanders was 68 when he started KFC

You could be me OP
>31
>spend ages 18 20 and 21 at community college
>age 19 as full NEET
>spent ages 21 to 24 working part-time like 15 to 30 hours a week
>age 24 to 25 as full NEET
>ages 25 to 31 as factory wagie sleeping 5 to 6 hours a night,
>live with mommy and daddy the whole time
>didn't get license til 23 even though I knew how to drive at 19
>didn't kiss a girl til 28
>getting laid off in 3 weeks
>don't have any idea what to do next
Either a remote job or a couple community college classes to kill time. I don't give a fuck anymore.

>>33452326
Dude don't do welding. My ex gfs dad did it and his sinuses were permanently fucked up.

>>33454869
Just pursue whatever personal goal you have and don't give a fuck.
Unless you're gonna make six figures, wagecucking is completely pointless.