Thread 33453739

I was doing so well. And then I started playing games and cooming again, and now I'm back to sleeping bad, not cleaning my house, not showering, not going out to events anymore.

How did you break this cycle if you were ever in my situation?

>>33453739 (OP)
going outside. go outside OP, do something, at least throw pebbles in a lake no matter how silly it seems. walk around, get tired.

get sweaty from some kind of exertion

>>33453760
You're right, gaming and cumming just ruined me, my dopamine is spiking so high in the past 10 days that I literally can't sleep, and all these stupid thoughts are creeping back in, things like feeling ashamed for going outside alone, feeling like I don't belong in society or worthy of being there. It's so stupid. And I have so many dishes I didn't do and so much laundry laying around my place and so many letters I need to sort through. But I'll try to go on a walk tomorrow. Thanks anon.

I want to hear more stories of how people broke this cycle because I find it so hard to take the first step right now, I'm coping so hard

>>33453739 (OP)
I was never in such a "cycle," probably because I'm not a subhuman moron like OP.

KEEP YOURSELF FUCKING BUSY
YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW TO FILL UP YOUR WEEKLY SCHEDULE

1. Form good sleeping habits, ASAP. If you're sleeping at 4pm, sleep 1 hour every day later and later until you're waking up at 6am instead.
2. Start the morning with an early morning walk or jog. But we all know you won't do this, so hit the gym first thing in the morning instead.
3. I assume you have a job. If not, dedicate 2 hours every day to either applying for jobs or learning a useful coding skill. You might not ever use it, but you might as well learn and practise something. Don't bother with new languages though unless it's Chinese.
4. Throughout the day, assuming you don't have a job, you should be studying ALL THE TIME or learning an instrument, ideally while going for 1-2 hour walks around town or the city to get your steps up.
5. Shower every day, first thing in the morning.
6. Go on a shopping spree to buy some fresh hip clothes and get a good haircut. Ensure to looksmax every day as it'll change your perspective.
7. Join a salsa or dance class every day.
8. After dance class, it's either art class or gym again. Again, every day. They're everywhere.
9. Then, go to one of those board game meetups that are everywhere.
10. In the evening, do a final bit of studying or relaxing gaming (nothing too intense) and then head to an early sleep.

>>33453739 (OP)
Get a job

>>33453867
Thanks anon, I really appreciate this advice.

Thing is, before I relapsed 10 days ago, I was:
1. Sleeping on time every day, passing out almost instantly
2. Walking 6000 steps per day but averaging 11km per day for 3 months straight with a 77 day streak, and running to and from the train station every day (20 minute run total)
3. Went to the gym twice a week
4. Showered nearly every day, always before events
5. Shaved and did laundry and had good clothes ready to be worn
6. Went to hiking meetups every weekend, board game events, weekly D&D event, meaningful conversation evenings, bar meetups, picnics, dinner with strangers, HEMA (swordfighting), tried out to join a choir, met with friends
7. Lost 15 kilograms since January
8. Couldn't touch a game for more than 5 minutes

And now I relapsed so freaking hard I can't even sleep. I'm gonna try to get back into it. It's good that you told me about dancing too because I was really thinking about joining Bachata classes to dance with some ladies. But I need to go out again first. This gives me some motivation because you basically advised me to do everything I've been going so it must have been the right path, thanks anon

>>33453962
It sounds like you're doing all the right things, and it's only been 10 days so you didn't relapse that much. I think your biggest problem is you have no job to ground yourself. I know the economy is garbage right now, but even some retail job will help ground you while you study or train for something more regular.

>>33454007
You're right dude.. I told myself I'll get a summer job because I went on vacation to Italy with my student loan savings and I'm running totally dry, but then I didn't do it out of a mix of laziness and fear.. I know it's only been 10 days but it feels like an eternity.

Thank you for saying I'm on the right track. I really hope so. Your reply really motivated me and there's a bachata class starting in my city in the next week so in the last 15 minutes I looked it up and I signed up on their site. It's a 15 minute walk from my house. I told myself if I'm not attending this I'd better just chop my dick off because I'm not a fucking man if I can't even go do dancing for an hour every week in a safe environment a 15 minutes walk from my house.
I just realized that when I sign up for something it becomes real and then I go because I don't want to disappoint anyone, so you know what I'm gonna do it

Thank you so much anon. If you have any more stories and advice please tell me
Also in case you're wondering I'm going back to school in September again

>>33454049
I heard from my friends that Bachata is super fun but I have to ask... is it solo dancing or do you dance with a partner?

Also what are you studying in September?

>>33454093
So throughout this whole time doing events meeting people, I somehow fell into multiple conversations with people who do dancing, and it looks like the consensus is that everyone loves bachata the most, and the hot 3 dances I keep hearing about is bachata, salsa, and kizumba or some shit I don't know how to write it.
Bachata is an easy to learn, Latin dance between a man and a woman, the man always leads. You switch partners throughout the class and dance with all the ladies. Sometimes but not often you'll dance with men too but mainly with ladies because that's the nature of the dance. It's a sensual dance, it involves a lot of touch. Everyone I talked to told me that it's super social, that they have a lot of fun when they go there, and that they feel a sense of community.
What bachata leads to ultimately, is the ability to express yourself with your body, removing the fear of making mistakes while dancing, laying off these fudging shackles that I have on me when it comes to movement and touching women and approaching women, and it becomes normal to approach a lady and ask her to dance, and to lead her in the dance too. There are Latin dance parties that you're building up towards, and there it's free game. Everyone comes to dance. You'll dance with everyone, you'll approach ladies and ladies will approach you, and I'll finally get to feel like an animal a little bit. Doing what I'm meant to do as a human. That's my fantasy at least, I see dancing as the scariest final boss in life at the moment. I'm terrified of it. And if there's anything I learned in the past few months is that I have to get over my fears and do the things I'm afraid of

I study game design, it's an actual bachelor's and yes I make games every day and have made games

>>33454181
Woe is me I study game design and I'm addicted to fucking playing games xD I just realized it's like an alcoholic learning how to be a sommelier

>>33453739 (OP)
Replace gooning with running maybe. Gaming doesn't fuck your brain up half as bad, but if you want to phase it out of your life then slowly letting your running hours eat into the gaming hours might work.