Thread 33454708

>Have platonic female friend.
>8/10 stacy/stacy-lite. Very photo-genic face.
>Objectively out of my league.
>Due to circumstances and proximity we became comfortable friends. I never bothered asking her for a "date" because as mentioned, objectively out of my league, she is kind and endearing to me so I'm contented to just being friends with her.

>Be friends for many months.
>Noticing signals from her: Body-language mirroring whenever we hangout one on one.
>She always smiles whenever she sees me.
>She shares her inner world with and asks me about my inner world.
>She tells me secrets of hers I never thought I would hear.
>She tells me she won't be dating for another year.
>She told me a secret about another mutual female friend I had a crush on: She said she went travelling with an ex of hers. I'm very grateful to her for telling me this.
>She moves in to hug me whenever we part ways without me doing anything.

Shes an awkward introvert herself.
I'm neurotic. Part of me thinks she just cherishes me as a platonic male friend she can lean on since she's told me guys have just wanted to be friends with her to sleep with her. Another part of me thinks she's trying to get me to ask her out.

Can anons here help tell me if she's romantically interested?

>>33454708 (OP)
>She tells me she won't be dating for another year.
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>>33454722
Okay thats a very good point lol.

I feel obliged to say she said that because online dating was just too nerve-racking and anxiety-inducing for her which is why she just wanted to take a break and stay single.

>>33454708 (OP)
>if she's romantically interested
I hate to tell you but she isn't interested in you romantically. She's treating you as another of her girl friends. She probably thinks you're gay, but she definitely doesn't think of you as a man.

>>33454739
Thanks for the direct answer, as bland as it is. It crossed me as well that she just saw me as "one of the girls". Ironically she is bi.

If she was romantically into me how do you think she would treat me?

>>33454747
not anon, but she would be a lot more physical and your conversation topics would naturally end up being more sexual.
She would make an effort to "present" herself to you (difficult to explain if you've never experienced it). Trust me, there'd be no doubt in your mind if she was actually interested. If you have to wonder, she probably isn't.

>>33454776
am anon, and this is correct. I'll also add that women are almost as prone to spilling their spaghetti as men, which is another sign.

>>33454776
>>33454778
Ok, that makes sense to me.

I was thinking the reason she doesn't is because... she's such an awkward person. I can tell she's had men do all the leading for her.

But yeah, if she really liked me that way she definitely would have done something at the very least. She knows I'm socially awkward.

Thanks anons. This helps. I'll just content myself with her as a friend. She's not a bad person, is very kind to me.

>>33454792
Just to add: you don't get romantically involved with a woman by being a friend. That gets you where you are now. And that may be fine with this particular woman, but absolutely DO NOT do this if you actually want something romantic with the woman. That depends on YOU flirting, hinting at sexual interest, etc. How forward you are depends on the girl and your skill, but plan on failing in the beginning. It happens to everyone. It's just a learning experience and there are billions more women left. Don't get hung up on one particular girl because in reality....there's really not much one *specific* girl can do that no other one couldn't do.

>>33454834
Thanks for this extra input anon.

Yeah I'm learning lessons in all of this. Good news is that this particular girl comes with baggage. So its relatively easier for me to let her go.

I hear what your saying. If I am interested in a girl, being more upfront about it and setting expectations is definitely something I need to do.

>>33454883
>If I am interested in a girl, being more upfront about it and setting expectations is definitely something I need to do.
Yes. Just work on your communication and charisma. There's a reason seemingly dumb / poor / ugly dudes still end up with women. They act. They may fail, but they keep acting. And they find what they're looking for with time. And that's what you need to do. You'll fine tune your approach with time, and you'll get what you want.

Another thing to keep in mind is we don't really become "men" as it were until our 30s. And the peak of our prime is our 40s. Women are basically done by their 30s but we're just really starting. So don't apply some fake ass time metric to yourself either. Men have soooo much more time than women do because women's value is determined by their beauty and womb which ticks away with time. Ours, as men, is based on our fucking minds. That's infinitely more powerful to the point that, given good health and self maintenance, we won't lose that until we die. Don't forget that.

>>33454708 (OP)
empty eyes
>>33454729
still alive, respectable
>>33454747
empty eyes
>>33454792
cant really tell, empty
>>33454883
cant tell, prob. lucky in their lifes position