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Anonymous No.33455136 >>33455157 >>33455188 >>33455337 >>33455389 >>33455444 >>33455927 >>33455930 >>33455935 >>33456014 >>33456049 >>33456334 >>33456521 >>33456885
Wife cheated twice
First time I was able to forgive her. The second time was a year ago. I no longer love her. She loves me. She cries when I bring it up. I don’t want to be with her anymore. Her mother is manipulative. I thought about just getting in my car and driving elsewhere. She acts retarded and I know she’s smarter. What the fuck do I do?
Anonymous No.33455157
>>33455136 (OP)
You leave her, but you do it in a smart way. That means you either take everything that's yours or you kick her out
Anonymous No.33455188
>>33455136 (OP)
>First time I was able to forgive her.
Retard.
>She loves me.
Retard.
Anonymous No.33455201
She clearly loves you man you should give her another chance
Anonymous No.33455337
>>33455136 (OP)
If you don’t love her anymore cheat and break up anon. Time to move on anon
Anonymous No.33455389 >>33456450
>>33455136 (OP)
Your first mistake was forgiving her. All you did was tell her "hey, you have permission to do it again because you get to experience zero repercussions!"
>She loves me.
She does not. Love would preclude cheating. She's afraid of what life without you will be like because she can't get a man to do anything more than fill her holes. Commitment is out of the question.
>She cries when I bring it up.
Girls have learned from a very young age that crying tends to lead that big burly man (daddy) to do whatever they want, eventually. Means nothing.
>Her mother is manipulative.
All women are manipulative to an extent. This isn't meant to cast them as bad: it's just a result of biology and not being able to depend on physical strength to solve their problems like men do. The only thing that matters is whether or not you're aware of it and acting accordingly.
>I thought about just getting in my car and driving elsewhere.
Eh, you don't want loose ends hanging over your head for the rest of your life.
>She acts retarded and I know she’s smarter.
Manipulation. See, she loves you so much anon! /s
>I don’t want to be with her anymore.
Good. Finally.
>What the fuck do I do?
Consult a lawyer and come up with a game plan so you experience minimal blowback from a divorce. Might even be good to get a pro men female lawyer because they know how manipulative bitches can be, but just go with whoever fits your needs best. The courts were built to rape men of their work and finance, even if the bitch is the one that cheated or fucked things up. How bad it is depends on the state you're in, though.
Anonymous No.33455444 >>33456459
>>33455136 (OP)
Do you have kids?
Anonymous No.33455927
>>33455136 (OP)
There isn't a man that hasn't been cheated on at least once in his life. Nor is there a woman that hasn't cheated at least once in her life. But for any man to excuse cheating allowing it to happen again is a self inflicted kill shot. The man is the retard.
Anonymous No.33455930
>>33455136 (OP)
>She loves me.
No she doesn't
Anonymous No.33455935
>>33455136 (OP)
Third times the charm OP
Anonymous No.33456014 >>33456023 >>33456459
>>33455136 (OP)
>I no longer love her.
Then leave. Relationships can survive infidelity if both people make an effort, but you clearly don't want to make an effort, and there's no good reason why you should want to. So leave. What's your reason for staying?
Anonymous No.33456023 >>33456103
>>33456014
>SHE clearly doesn't want to make an effort
Ftfy
Anonymous No.33456049
>>33455136 (OP)
What does a white man say when his wife cheats on him?

"I forgive you"

https://youtu.be/X1rSq6xfqUM?si=ysMiV3_V3fCYNmJ1&t=5007
Anonymous No.33456061 >>33456095
You should forgive her again, give her a third and fourth try. She definitely most surely will be not cheating again :)
Anonymous No.33456095
>>33456061
It isn't cheating when a man gives her a free pass. "Forgiveness" means it is ok you fucked another man and its ok for you to fuck other men.
Anonymous No.33456103 >>33456136
>>33456023
And he doesn't either. So there's even less of a reason to stay, and he should leave, and you're agreeing with me.
Anonymous No.33456136 >>33456290
>>33456103
Sure, but you tired blaming him.
This is clearly not him.
He gave an effort and she shat on it.
Anonymous No.33456290
>>33456136
>Sure, but you tired blaming him.
Anon, please learn to read. I said nothing of the kind.
Anonymous No.33456334
>>33455136 (OP)
You should have dumped her after the first time, but the second best time to get out is right now. She doesn't love you. She just realized that none of that other shit worked. Maybe you will realize you do love her. Don't let that stop you from leaving. She does not love you, but she deserves to be with someone who she will be loyal to, even if that man will never be half the man you are. You're a kind person, anon. You deserve someone who is loyal to you.
Anonymous No.33456450 >>33456510
>>33455389
Thank you. I will look into it.
Anonymous No.33456459 >>33456511
>>33455444
No thankfully
>>33456014
Idk I hate being alone but this feels like nothing. I’ve felt nothing but alone since it happened the first time and now I’m so numb. I met someone new and felt a spark I haven’t felt in a long long time.
Anonymous No.33456510
>>33456450
No problem. Another very important point: do NOT show your hand until your ready. That is: do not mention divorce until the plan is set, things are already in motion and you're five steps ahead about who's moving out (would be cool if you didn't immediately cede the house by moving out yourself like every guy ever). Maybe ask your lawyer about the legality of changing locks right before you drop the bomb on her. I'm not saying immediately kick her out, but you'd definitely have the upper hand on getting her out.

Either way it goes: be normal and cool for now. No need to give any warnings whatsoever. You need every advantage you can get. Good luck.
Anonymous No.33456511
>>33456459
>No thankfully
Ok good. Now I got no problems telling you to divorce. She broke the vow. Only moral reason to keep the vow on life support would be if kids were around.

But the vow is broken, she broke it by cheating. There is no reason to continue, it's just animating a dead corpse of a marriage and pretending it's still alive.

You should have bailed the first time. But I am sure you heard that before. It will be difficult, especially if you've already pretended to forgive her. Which you most likely did in an attempts to go back to 'normal' with her, tried to force forgiveness etc. didn't work did it? Hence why you got no love for her in you.

When was the last time she cheated? How long ago?
Anonymous No.33456521
>>33455136 (OP)
If you still want her then just accept that she will cheat and also take it as permission to cheat on her too.
Anonymous No.33456885
>>33455136 (OP)
do not deceive yourself anon
if she cheated twice, she clearly doesnt love you
if she did it just once, you could think of that as an accident and let it slip if youre deperate enough
but she did it twice which means is was deliberate, thought through
leave her asap