Thread 33456313

Hey adv. I've recently realized I'm kinda lost in life. I'm 29 and since I was young all I really felt I wanted in life was to fall in love, have a family and a home. Everything I've done in my life has been to that end. My education and work were only ever focused on making money so I could support a family, I've spent the majority of my time for over a decade only focusing on girls and trying to find the one. I've managed to get a good career and even a decent girlfriend but I feel empty. I have hobbies and friends but those hobbies feel empty like I only ever got into them to attract women or connect with friends. My work is meaningless to me, in fact I dislike it. And my girlfriend isn't even all that I had hoped. I feel I have an extremely mediocre existence and no real mission in life or goal to strive towards. I feel I have nothing I really care about or even enjoy anymore. I'm just waiting for something meaningful to happen.

How do I rectify that? How do I find what I want of my life or am I already done for?

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>>33456313 (OP)
A little more on the hobbies. I do like them I got into comics, games, music, playing instruments when I was young and at the time genuinely enjoyed them but now I just don't feel like it. I try to force myself to post guitar and after ten minutes or so I get bored. Same with video games. The only real drive I have to do anything these days it's when it involves other people or some form of social interaction. Nights alone I better just drink and watch reruns of shows I've already seen until I go to sleep and repeat. I don't know why everything just seems boring to me

>>33456328
Lmao this is what I thought of when i saw this post

>>33456313 (OP)
Make your meaning in life to find meaning and happiness. Didn't read your post btw.

>>33456313 (OP)
>How to reclaim meaning
Create as long-term plan and follow it starting now.

>>33456313 (OP)
the enlightened answer is to find a mission and devote your life to it even if it breaks your current life apart
the unexamined answer is to stay exactly where you are and start voting conservative because they're totally gonna bring back the world when you felt happy

>>33456350
why? Don't you want to read post #299230492 about "I am lost in lyfe wat2do?"

>>33456313 (OP)
>so I could support a family
then start making babies, you'll find meaning fast once one is born.

>>33456313 (OP)
Why yes I do wanna crack a cold one.

>>33456313 (OP)
>>33456335
genuine advice for you - start different hobbies.
I now do:
1) Dancing Bachata (Latin dance with a man and a woman)
2) Singing folk songs and classical/church songs in a choir
The above has majority girls in them, they are extremely expressive hobbies, they raise my confidence like crazy. I feel like I'm part of a secret group of people who's secretly better than everyone else, I know it sounds gay but actually Its because I hang out with beautiful women constantly, and I don't know what it is but as a man Its extremely validating.

Also - I do D&D weekly, and Historical European Martial Arts (Swordfighting), and I'm going to find an acting group to get into next because once again - Its expressive. It has a fuckload of girls. It makes you into a person who is more confident.

I know it sounds shallow but brother. I feel so validated that I have girls and people around me who appreciate me for my expressive skills, and soon acting skills too. It's just so good.

>>33456313 (OP)
>Did everything in the pursuit of women
>Feels empty
It's because you weren't being yourself. You put the carriage in front of the horse expecting to get somewhere. What you should've done is focused on YOU. What do YOU want to do with your life? What type of man do you want to be, irrespective of your family or women? What do YOU want to accomplish? The point is to have a vision that's greater than you or the future wife. Then the woman becomes an accessory which can help that greater goal. The pursuit of women in and of itself isn't fulfilling. They're emotional, fickle, fleeting, etc. It's like trying to build a strong foundation on quicksand and your emotional state and emptiness are reflecting that.

Men are supposed to put themselves first and become well rounded through those means. Those type of men always find women who see that vision and want to come along. The good thing for you is males don't even truly start manhood until the 30s and our prime is throughout our 40s.
>in b4 professional sports athletes are the prime
We judge men by the average. Not some rare edge cases. On average, filtering for consistent exercise and healthiness, a 40 year old man will beat the shit out of a 20 year old every time. One is a grown man and the other is very much still a boy, age of majority be damned.
>am I already done for?
Nope, not at all. I already addressed that. Hell, most billionaires don't even reach that until their 50s or 60s. Men don't have a biological clock. Our value isn't determined by beauty or fertility, which decreases over time. Our value is determined by our minds, and as long as we stay fit, we don't lose that until we die. A man could literally start working and become a millionaire in the last 10 years of his life if he was driven to do so.
>How do I find what I want of my life
Focus on yourself. Get back in touch with your inner child and his dreams and desires. You have money now. Try some of that out.

>I'm just waiting for something meaningful to happen.
no thing will happen, if you dont be meaningful yourself. maybe you actually just are that? a boring meaningless person?
but even if thats the case you can always change yourself
thats right, you just have to want(will) it.
and be more mindful and aware, practise mindfulness.

maybe you want to study the elevated, lofty and honorable things of the beyond?
be a worker for human evolution/elevation
do you have that certain wisdom, the intellect the capacities for that?
factum is, that one needs goals, aims in ones life, whatever they may be.

maybe you should learn about yourself. your signs your soul your desires, so oyu can fulfill them
>inb4 op is an ignoble atheist libtard vaxmax scum

>>33456328
thanks for the recommendation