Thread 33457617

How do I find what I really enjoy working with?

Have had multiple jobs, mainly in sales and stores or manual labor.

Slowly getting to terms with never finding a life long passion/job - but what to do the next couple of years?

Will be turning 32 in February, live in Scandinavia and am male.

Been a car salesman since 2.5 years. Lost the will to work for/on commission since 1.5 years tho as I've been massively miserable with bosses and the company at large.
Been unsuccessful at landing a new job in the same field since and I think maybe better for it, as the whole industry is fucked up.
I'm happy tho as I'd probably be upset at my self for not giving it a shot later in life.

The fact that I've befriended a few people this year that all have multiple years of education and a clear career path ahead of them, most making bank today, is very bad for my mental state I think. I try to find joy in being happy for them but I cant get rid of the financial turmoil I've been in the last couple of years today - where I feel burnt out from the stress of burning time without moving forward in my career. Maybe I'm not meant for a clear career tho, as a desk job sounds like hell.

So - how do I find my path? How do I narrow something attainable down that I'd be willing to strive towards in a time where the darkness hold a tight grip, basically strangling me and keeping me from drawing breath to utter ideas of what to do next?

How did you manage to find something in a world where you never felt the need to prove anything to anyone - even tho you felt like you had more to give and experience than basic jobs, even tho life has been rough?

I hope some of what I've written is cohesive - Thank you in advance

>>33457617 (OP)
>How do I find what I really enjoy working with?
Now that's a question only you will know how to answer.

A good starting point is what hobbies do you enjoy, can you make money from those hobbies?
If so you can start working on that, it should bring you some enjoyment and not feel like actual work.

>never finding a life long passion/job
Most people will never find a life long passion/job, yet you see it everywhere on the internet and in media. There's 8 Billion people on earth right now, if only 0.01% of them found a passion/job that they can make money from and enjoy that's 80 million people doing what they love and probably posting it on social media in some sort of way, leading you to see it and then thinking, damn everyone is happy but me.

>How did you manage to find something in a world where you never felt the need to prove anything to anyone
I took the hand I was dealt and made the best out of the circumstances. I've never gone in to work not wanting to be there, I've never not wanted to go the next day, I like my co-workers, I have fun at work but it's not my passion, it's nothing to do with anything I enjoy outside of work yet I still enjoy it.

>even tho you felt like you had more to give and experience than basic jobs, even tho life has been rough?
I'm so over qualified for my job it's insane, I've had a rough as fuck life but having a rough life will shape you in to the man you become, if you're the type to wallow in your own self pity that's on you. Learn to make the most out of everything.

You seem to have a more balanced outlook then I've been able to muster myself

Wallowing in self pity is my specialty but also a part of my self respect and cod regarding morality imo. Even tho my personal finances has taken a hit I feel better not entangling people in stupid deals. The frustration has however put me in a a worse spot mentally because of it

You mentioned being over qualified - was that something you actively chose or did it just happen and you took the opportunity and ran with it for other reasons? Also what do you do and how old are you?

You have any advice on not comparing myself to other except abstaining myself from social media which I wholeheartedly think is the biggest factor to my unhappiness

>>33457742
I'm 26 and I work for a small business doing anything and everything the business needs from accounting, website, tech, manual labour.

>You have any advice on not comparing myself to other except abstaining myself from social media which I wholeheartedly think is the biggest factor to my unhappiness

Comparison is the thief of joy my friend. Social media is bad in general but I've never had a problem with jealousy or envy. If you think that getting rid of social media is beneficial to you then do it.

>Wallowing in self pity is my specialty but also a part of my self respect and cod regarding morality imo.

Self pity ≠ Self respect, you can't respect yourself if you feel pity for yourself in my opinion, how can you have respect for your own self-absorbed unhappiness, self respect means, pride and confidence in oneself; a feeling that one is behaving with honour and dignity. saying that "Wallowing in self pity is my speciality but also a part of my self respect" is a lie you're telling yourself. Ruminate on that for a while, try and understand why you said that when it's a logical fallacy.

>You mentioned being over qualified - was that something you actively chose or did it just happen and you took the opportunity and ran with it for other reasons?

I didn't choose it at all, I was needed so I helped out in my free time and over time that became a full time job.

I really appreciate you taking your time to reply to me at this hour

My head haven't sat right the last couple of years and you're completely right about my fallacy

Something about the feeling of never having the "right" footing to be able to climb life's branches is what has trapped me where I stand today. Nothing keeps me from starting over tho, which is why I'm reaching out

I guess the biggest reason for giving ones self reasons to feel bad is that you've never found someplace better before to draw experience from. It's like a toxic ex

Also the fact that I've applied but never have gotten an offer has fucked up my self image too even tho I have qualities that I more often should be proud of

Insecurities and self pity are two things that I cant afford to bring with me in my carry on bag moving forward, I'll pack it in my checked baggage and hope that the bag gets lost somewhere between self love and a new job

Once again, thank you for your replies

>>33457818
Take some time to read some philosophy.
Here are some great books everyone should read at least once in their lives.
Marcus Aurelius - Meditations, Epictetus - Discourses, Seneca - Letters from a stoic and Friedrich Nietzsche - Beyond Good and Evil to name a few.
If you were to read any I would strongly suggest Meditations.

>Something about the feeling of never having the "right" footing to be able to climb life's branches is what has trapped me where I stand today. Nothing keeps me from starting over tho, which is why I'm reaching out

Good because you need to start today, not tomorrow not next week because those days never come. Today is now and you can start moving forward in the right direction now.

>>33457617 (OP)
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>>33457938
Good night OP, remember start now and you will thank yourself later.

>>33457617 (OP)
Do you have any hobbies that you might monetize?