Thread 33464084

I used to get pussy when I smoked weed, but now I stopped because I didn't like being a good for nothing stoner.

I'm happier now, my mind is clearer, I eat healthy and spend more time productively, the bad part is that I'm a very boring man, weed was the only thing that gave me some color and personality.

the truth is that I really enjoy just sitting at home or going for walks or reading, I always lived like an old man and weed was perfect for it because of the chill stoner archetype, now I'm just a boring guy who doesn't like going to parties or events.

I have nothing to talk about, I didn't live interesting experiences besides smoking weed and doing acid a few times, I never traveled nor desire to travel, I don't like riding motorcycles, I don't like concerts, I don't play any instruments.

I don't miss any of the bullshit of going to parties and socializing, I just miss the sex.

>>33464084 (OP)
I think you're describing all of us perfectly. For me it's games. I never drank, never smoked or did drugs. I'm 29. The most I did is at different times of my life I had different weights and when they were low I'd get a lot of success online with girls, find a gf for a couple years online, meet her, one of them turned into an irl relationship for 5 years.
Now I vowed to not do the online thing anymore because I'm 29, and just find an IRL one. But my weight isn't in the right area for my pics to look good. So yeah man. I'm back to playing games and I'm working on my weight and I'm trying my best to go outside. But unfortunately sitting at home won't do shit. If you want to meet women outside you have to Speedrun doing outside activities.
So I follow what I preach, my schedule for September 1st looks like this:

Go back to uni 9 to 5 Monday through Friday (it's a simulated IT work environment)
Monday I dance Bachata, fuckload of girls
Tuesday I rehearse with an acting group who does small time plays
Wednesday I practice historical European martial arts which is swordfighting essentially
Thursday I sing with my choir
Friday I do kickboxing
On Saturday/Sunday I take one day for chores and relaxing and one day for doing any different activities or meeting people I couldn't meet throughout the week

It's extreme and I'll miss slopping around at home playing games and cumming over and over but honestly I won't miss out on anything, that dopamine high is pacifying me and helping me avoid my fears and what I really want - to be a functional human out there in society doing normie things around ladies, and then one of them will hopefully become my friend and it'll seem natural to progress into something more. That's my hope. But this gaming and cooming shit can't continue. That's my diary of a coomer, and I hope it helps you to see that in my experience, being at home has never helped me to achieve anything good, so go outside and try. Don't be lazy, good luck

>>33464172
I think it would be cool if I could coom 2 times a day in a woman but also exercise, read, meditate, why do women make you unhealthy.

>>33464084 (OP)
listen to me now
there is nothing fucking interesting about smoking weed. you think it’s interesting to sit in one place frying your mind?

go to narcotics anonymous, make some new associations with people who cut the weed and drugs and booze and got real hobbies. be interesting for yourself. build a life worth living

>>33464246
it's not really interesting I know, I'm the same person as then but I had a way easier time having sex, I could just say "wanna smoke some weed?" we smoked some weed in a park or beach, I would invite her to my place and fuck, now what do I say? wanna come to my place and fuck? watch tv?

>>33464246

also to add

>be interesting for yourself.

I don't have a desire to do interesting things for myself, I enjoy peace and quiet, I don't like big groups of people, I'm the kind of guy that drinks tea with no sugar and spends 2 hours walking by himself, but I do like sex.

why does sex have to correlate with other shit that doesn't have anything to do with it? I want my penis inside a vagina, what does dancing have to do with it?

>>33464264
if you fuck sober chicks you don’t have to worry about any of this and then you can have some self respect

>>33464216
>why do women make you unhealthy
Honestly now that I'm a little older, a little wiser, a little gayer
I know that it's not the women who make you lazy, it's my addiction to dopamine.
I'm so fucking addicted to dopamine.
I want to sit back and do things that make me happy and just farm dopamine all day.
Back then with my ex, I was eating good food that's she cooked for me or bought for me, played games, fucked her whenever I wanted she literally never said no that girl just loved being filled with my cum, and sleep as much as I want (and sleeping with her was amazing)

So yeah then I became complacent, and didn't feel like I need to do things outside, my intrinsic motivation kind of fell off. I was still going to school but that's about it. I was completely addicted to dopamine, I became complacent and reliant on her.

When she left - the benefits of love and sex left with her, and I neglected making valuable connections with friends. And I was left alone

For the longest time I thought woe is me. And woe really is me, but in part it's because of me. Because of how fucking addicted I am to dopamine.

And the conduit by the way doesn't matter, we're both addicted to the same thing brother, it's just that you express it through weed and sex, and I express it through gaming and sex. Diff sides of the same coin

I wish I could also go back to filling her up whenever I wanted and gaming and having food made for me and having the house cleaned, but honestly it sounds bad even when I write it. So complacent. Like a child that's being taken care of instead I also cum inside my caretaker.

It'll happen again, but the difference this time is that I won't let it stop me from losing my intrinsic motivation to face my fears every day and do what I have to do to have a healthy and active life

>>33464246
I smoke weed and I'm an overachiever. I literally have to smoke to chill out or I wear myself down to the bone from not eating + working too hard + getting shit done outside of work. It doesn't fry anything, but it does make you Content almost a little too much. If you're prone to laziness then it'll only amplify but if you're a fellow workhorse then it's a great decompressor.
Booze actively destroys braincells, weed doesn't by itself but it nudges you to be content with bad life style choices. It's the lungs that take a toll, not the brain.

>>33464084 (OP)
You were ""more interesting"" on weed because you fucking mellowed out you try hard. You slowed down to actually think for a moment to collect yourself. You got laid because you were predictable to the women and laid back. Chances are you might have adhd and use the stimulus the weed provides to function proper. Talk to your mental health pro.
>don't like motorcycles
Well maybe you're just gay anon idk what to tell you. Have you tried building shit? Making shit? Literally flex any skill that's remotely linked to being a man

>>33464304
yeah but my issue is that I don't have anything to talk about with women, literally my only anchor was drugs, now I don't have anything.

like I said, I don't like trying out new food, I don't like dancing, I don't like loud music, I don't like fast cars, I don't like crowds, the only social thing I did enjoy was getting high and now it's over.

>>33464324
narcotics anonymous 12 steps NOW

>>33464319
>You were ""more interesting"" on weed because you fucking mellowed out you try hard.

nah nigga, women have found me boring even on weed, but weed and my looks (tall and handsome) have been enough to get me laid, you would be surprised if you saw the "conversations" I had with these broads before banging them, I had nothing to say.

>>33464343
I'm 45 days sober my nigga, also it doesn't feel right to go to a narcotic anonymous thing if it's just weed, in my area that thing is reserved for alcoholics and cokeheads, it's a little bit too much.

>>33464360
>45 days
good job. and you’re still miserable, right?
you may come to understand the difference between a sober addict and a recovered addict. the difference is that the one that recovered bothered to reintegrate into society.
this doesn’t necessarily mean dancing and loud music, but regaining the ability to live like a human being and have a capacity for joy, confidence, play, etc. and sex since you asked

weed is absolutely ok in na btw. shit is insidious. the action of using of any drug or alcohol is the same

>>33464360
You asked how to have an interesting life to get women, you got all the advice on how to get that life, now you're just bitching about all the things you don't like to do and how good you had it when you were smoking weed. Then go back to smoking weed "nigga"

I just have constant thoughts zooming in my head, anything from work, to music, to programming, to something creative, a scene from a movie, a memory, etc. All firing off at the same time so it's hard for me to even pick a thought and coherently verbalize it without taking pauses for 5-10 seconds every 15 words. Women hate it (like they've explicitly told me that it peeves them) and makes me come off as slow but then they'll say "aw you're just good at programming that's why you have a good job" like yeah no shit but I'm not a fucking retard at everything else, but whatever. I struggle with finding shit to talk about too but I think if I handle the former problem I described, the latter will be taken care of immediately if not improve 10 fold. That's what I think at least

>>33464397
>and you’re still miserable, right?

not really, I'm at peace with everything but my sex life, I like routine and quietness, I just want some pussy in between my routine.

>>33464400
Idk I tought there was a way to be interesting without trying hard in shit that doesn't matter to you.

>>33464418
>Idk I tought there was a way to be interesting without trying hard in shit that doesn't matter to you.
I mean, you know you look good, if you've got girls at parties before you can probably do it again, but that would put you at risk of substance abuse again.

If you're so mellow and chill I actually have a suggestion for you. There's a lot of groups I saw on meetup.com that are meditation and mindfulness groups, they meet in the parks on Saturdays and Sundays. You could always go there. There are girls, you're guided onto good feelings and try to calm down. There's time for socialization after. Since you're tall and handsome according to you, you'll probably attract girls. With minimal effort.

>>33464457
I will take your advice, this was good advice, I promise to not be a howie about this, thanks.

>>33464460
Thanks dude, I guess I needed to know more about you before I could lock in my advice.
But yeah for non handsome and tall guys like me I'm just going to Speedrun all these hobbies, dancing/singing/acting has been doing good things for my confidence regardless of me getting pussy or not