Thread 33468706

a girl loved me years ago, i was immature and dumb, i didnt want a relationship back then and told her to stop bothering me multiple times but she didnt so i bullied her away, i didnt beat her or anything serious just insulted her alot like a edgelord until she hated me after months. ffw 8 years, i realized what a treasure she is compared to most women and feel incredibly fucking stupid i will probably very surely never find another sweet woman like her ever again. i grew up and got my shit together, i know what i want from life now and what really matters and have been thinking about contacting her and try to explain why i was a insecure retard how i changed (for real) and fix things, i wrote her 6 months after(7 years ago) and she told me she doesnt want to talk with me which i understand and respect but ive been stalking her social media the past months and she broke up with her bf of 7 years and idk man i would probably disrespect her by reaching out again but on the other side im gonna feel like a retard when im old for not trying
what do i do

>>33468706 (OP)
she was 18 back then me 16

>>33468706 (OP)
she was 18 back then me 16, yes i know i deserve this suffering now

It's too late, your desire to reach out is almost as selfish as the way you acted towards her back then. You already apologized before so there's nothing else to do, too much time has passed, deal with your mistakes and regret it's a normal part of life

>>33468706 (OP)
lmao tsunshit irl gets fucked
also, people do not change, you're still immature and dumb, you will always be the same person, change is impossible

>>33468706 (OP)
you can apologize again but don't expect anything
also don't idealize her just take what you can get and be happy https://youtu.be/cZyj6GECjZ0

>>33468706 (OP)
>i would probably disrespect her by reaching out again
Yes. You might even scare her. I'm sorry, but you need to own your mistake, here. This isn't something you can fix. By imagining that you can fix it, you are trying to avoid taking responsibility for what you did. You need to accept that you can't fix it, and live with that: that's how you become a better person.

>>33468706 (OP)
if she doesn't want to talk to you then she doesn't want to talk to you man. if you're not following her socials then maybe follow her but leave it at that

>>33469435
>change is impossible
for you maybe

>>33468706 (OP)
Reach out and tell her you love her and you're gonna do whatever it takes to get her back and prove that you changed. Send her flowers. Send her $100 on cash app. Prove it. Make her jaw drop. Be the total opposite of how you were before. Show her the seriousness of how much you want her back, if not then shut up and move on.

>>33468706 (OP)
You have to give her that, "Wow, you really have changed" energy. Do something super romantic, make her feel like she's lucky for talking to you, show her why you giving you another chance would be a great idea for her.

9 years is a long time, she probably had a fucking equator of cock pass through her