Help me out with messaging a 9/10 - /adv/ (#33470228) [Archived: 68 hours ago]

Anonymous
8/7/2025, 1:23:27 PM No.33470228
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Chatted up this Filipino baddie yesterday at this party
She’s super hot and actually a interesting person
We were talking and relating on the work we do and I was making her laugh multiple times
She gave me her phone put my insta in and told me to text her
I caught her on the way out and she shook my hand at end end and said how it was great to meet me but then I said you live really close to me wanna hang out sometime and she said sure
So Anons am I in or out?
What should I text her later?
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Anonymous
8/7/2025, 1:24:46 PM No.33470231
I like making girls work for their money but I'd go to jail going into details. Fucking them wouldn't excite me
Anonymous
8/7/2025, 1:46:29 PM No.33470283
if it doesn't come naturally then say nothing
Anonymous
8/7/2025, 1:47:29 PM No.33470285
but you are in. just calm the fuck down and stop second-guessing
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Anonymous
8/7/2025, 1:52:13 PM No.33470298
>>33470285
What should I say though I’ve never gotten a girl this hot to be interested in me
Should I just be like
>Hey I think you’re really cool and interesting and I would love to take you out to dinner to know you better?
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Anonymous
8/7/2025, 1:58:08 PM No.33470317
>>33470298
does it feel natural? if no then no

it has nothing to do with how hot she is. stop basing your self-worth on getting attention from women. you're not auditioning. you're seeing if she's worth your time also.

go do something else and next time you think about this, ask the first thing that comes to mind
i am not joking
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Anonymous
8/7/2025, 2:26:25 PM No.33470433
>>33470228 (OP)
Sounds like you're in. Don't overdo it. Let her set the pace. Let her come to you. If she doesn't at least meet you halfway and reciprocate even a little of the interest you're showing her then she isn't for you.
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Anonymous
8/7/2025, 2:50:46 PM No.33470524
>>33470433
Should I text her and if so what?
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Anonymous
8/7/2025, 3:26:58 PM No.33470676
>>33470524
Just text her and say good morning or something. Keep things simple and don't simp. No matter what. Make it to where she simps over you instead if anything. Girls don't like talk, they like actions. You gotta actually do things to make them like you. Instead of texting her send her flowers, send her money, buy her food or something she'll like. That's gonna put you ahead of everyone else. Ask her if she needs anything. Girls want an asset, someone who helps them grow in life and get or do what they want. Not some simp who just wants to get laid. Show her that your interest exceeds just words or text messages or dates. Go the extra mile.
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Anonymous
8/7/2025, 3:29:55 PM No.33470688
>>33470317
this is good advice

>>33470676
>Keep things simple and don't simp.
>Instead of texting her send her flowers, send her money, buy her food or something she'll like. That's gonna put you ahead of everyone else. Ask her if she needs anything.
???
anyways OP, don't what this guy says
Anonymous
8/7/2025, 3:30:57 PM No.33470693
>>33470524
tell her how you fell but not in a simpish or desperate way:

"You're so beautiful."
"How are you so perfect?"
Just randomly tell her she's amazing.
or just be like "Wyd?" or "What's up?' or "Hey"
or "Good morning"
Just show her that you admire her.
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Anonymous
8/7/2025, 3:35:22 PM No.33470705
>>33470693
>"You're so beautiful."
>"How are you so perfect?"
indian tier
Anonymous
8/7/2025, 3:56:04 PM No.33470771
>>33470228 (OP)
Make zero effort and withold affection and validation. Do / say whatever you want on dates, and definitely and in bed. Respond to everything she says with indifference and humour. Do not ever try to impress her and ignore her on text for hours, especially after sex.

You need to stand out from other guys and be the one who won't give her what she wants. Otherwise, when she gets it, the novelty will wear off and she'll move on. This is how hot girls operate and exactly why they end up with abusive assholes. You don't need to actually an asshole, but you need to act like one.

Under no circumstances do >>33470693. Showering her with compliments signals that you think she's out of your league. Never do that. Withold all the loverboy shit until she's your gf or pay the price
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Anonymous
8/7/2025, 5:17:20 PM No.33471003
>>33470228 (OP)
"It was fun chatting with you at the party (I'm the guy with the ____ story) Want to continuie over coffee sometime?"
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Anonymous
8/7/2025, 5:44:58 PM No.33471098
>>33470228 (OP)
>What should I text her later?
Do not use texting for idle talk. You can do that in person. it also leaves less to talk about in person. Waste of time. Only text when there's a goal of some sort of action.

Example: You text her because you want to set up a date. You text her because you had a specific question. You text her because you're asking her to do x y z.

That doesn't mean you can't ask what's up or how the day went, etc. But it can't be aimless or for the sake of texting or "getting to know her." You need to have a specific action that is accomplished by having texted because any communication short of that is 10x better when done face to face.

This is how a lot of women lose interest. Men doing a fuckton of idle talk through text like one of her girlfriends instead of making shit happen.

Lets say she texts you "hey how was your day"

You should be saying something like "It was actually a pretty crazy day, all things considered. We should meet so I can tell you all about it."

You're holding back information to build a bit of intrigue and use that to make a face to face happen.

Another thing: throw dinner dates out the window. It's hard to get to know someone while shoveling your face with food. Take her places and do things you were already gonna do anyway. For example, I'm into photography, so I'd take a girl doing that. Let her use one of my cameras and make it a competition. Or I like driving go karts.

This also filters girls who truly aren't that interested. If they genuinely like you, they're game to do just about anything reasonable. If she's not really into you, she'll want you to compensate her for her time i.e. feed her. That doesn't mean you can't grab a bite to eat while you're out and about. But it shouldn't be the main reason for going out. It should be a circumstantial thing.

>We went go karting and played at the arcade for a couple hours, then got hungry so we went to X
Anonymous
8/7/2025, 5:47:14 PM No.33471105
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>>33470228 (OP)
I won't read yellow fever threads posted by goofy, subhuman (and in this case, obviously moronic) nerds.
OP
8/7/2025, 6:06:13 PM No.33471180
>>33471003
Wait anon that’s actually perfect thanks!
OP
8/7/2025, 6:10:38 PM No.33471197
Now anons most important question is do I use “date” in the message
I want a a complete yes from her
So maybe something like
>Hey Sarah It was fun chatting with you the other night you’re really interesting, Want to continue over dinner sometime?
I think that way she knows I’m interested
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Anonymous
8/7/2025, 6:21:46 PM No.33471238
>>33471197
>sometime
don't ever use "sometime" when asking a girl out, give a specific date or a fixed timeline like "next week"
Anonymous
8/7/2025, 6:30:25 PM No.33471271
>>33470771
now I see why I've been getting friendzoned. You literally can't be nice to certain girls these days. It's true. It's sad but like a girl could literally think you're weird for giving her a compliment.
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Anonymous
8/7/2025, 6:41:01 PM No.33471330
>>33470228 (OP)
>a 9/10
>>33470228 (OP)
>Filipino
Anonymous
8/7/2025, 7:31:30 PM No.33471568
>>33471271
Yeah, it's grim. Was in a LTR for years and oblivious to all this stuff, but I've been dating just long enough now to see how it is. The second you soften up it's game over

Good luck anon.
Anonymous
8/7/2025, 7:40:52 PM No.33471608
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>>33470228 (OP)
anon how old are you? i assume you're young. if your under 30, just be cool about it. if you're both young, just keep it young. if you were to actually ask for real advice, you wouldnt be like "am i in?" for example when i date now, i see if shes compatible for wifehood and motherhood. but for you i know your horny and looks are still a big deal. just enjoy yourself and try to have hot sex while your young. take pictures of your youthful vigor face & body & if shes down make some movies! ;) I say this because i was a male model in my youth & i had some very hot sextapes that i unfortunately deleted & regret big time. Life as a man up until your 30's is just setting yourself up to secure a good job & being as hot as you can be and banging other hot girls. Life goes by quick, please enjoy it.
>pic related
me as a youngin
Anonymous
8/7/2025, 8:26:24 PM No.33471753
>>33470228 (OP)
Shes really really pretty wow
Anonymous
8/7/2025, 10:29:38 PM No.33472216
Just texted her
>Hey Sarah what’s up?
> It was great talking to you the other night
Anonymous
8/7/2025, 10:42:12 PM No.33472271
>>33470693
Saar, do not do this
Anonymous
8/8/2025, 5:59:34 AM No.33473938
Update she said no
Anonymous
8/8/2025, 7:00:58 AM No.33474130
>>33470228 (OP)
She's out of your league.
Anonymous
8/8/2025, 8:31:31 AM No.33474376
gulp
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>>33470228 (OP)
>9/10