Thread 33474417

>Option 1
Live with roommates (I don't have friends or acquaintances, they would have to be strangers) in the city
>Option 2
Live by myself in a shitty apartment in a poor neighborhood
>Option 3
Kick the can further down the road and stay with my mom (67) in a nice upper-middle class suburb area

I'm 31 I need to move out. I'm scared of getting shitty roommates. I really don't want to do Option 2. What do I do.

>>33474417 (OP)
#1 but don't commit to a lease

Option 2 is honestly a great move. IDK WTF your deal is, I’m 20 and even I know you should move out on your own ASAP. Why burden your mother?

>>33474434
Option 2 is a huge downgrade, it would make me depressed. I don't want to live next to a stripmall / stroad.

>>33474426
I don't think that's possible although I have 0 experience in the matter

>>33474417 (OP)
I did option 1 in NYC where option 2 would have cost literally 2-3x as much. First person I lived with I found on craigslist, signed a sublease for a room in the apartment. Genuinely think he may have been a space alien he was that much of a fucking annoying autismo. Also a deadbeat who wrongfully stole my security deposit and it turns out built his entire life around having no property in his name so even after I went through all the trouble to get a court order requiring him to pay me he still refused and there was nothing I could do about it.

Second apartment was also a share, found it on spare room. Those people were actually human, just kept to themselves and there was no drama whatsoever. It really is a dice roll as to whether you have to live with savages or not. But in hindsight there were warning signs about my first roommate that I missed, and I just needed a room right away since I moved into the city for work, and it did provide that.

So why do you need to move out anyway?

>>33474417 (OP)
id go with option 3 if your mother is a nice person

>>33474417 (OP)
Ranked 2, 3, 1
Living with rando roommates is hell. It makes sense to live with family more than really random people who hate you and are using you to pay part of their rent (sometimes all of it if they are ripping you off). Honestly if you do 1 or 3 you will wish you had your own solo place the whole time. Just deal with the crappy hood but you will be able to concentrate best on improving and upgrading the situation by yourself.

>>33474417 (OP)
I would carry on living with your mother until you save up enough money to move somewhere nice.

>>33474417 (OP)
I'm jealous of NEETS with good relationships with their parents. Mine were too fucking annoying and insulting to stay at home forever.

>>33474417 (OP)
Start on option c and move to option B when you get a chance.
Live on the shittiest stuff there is. Used everything.

>>33474417 (OP)
Move to smaller town where rent is cheap and commute like hell to work.

>>33474417 (OP)
Option 3 and save your money up, put a deposit down for a house then you can pay less in rent in a nicer area and actually own the thing.

>>33474545
>warning signs about my first roommate that I missed
Like what

>>33474417 (OP)
option 2, buy a gun

What the deal with roommates who keep to themselves? Ive had roommates who want to do everything at home as a friend group (annoying but some good memories I guess) and a roommate where we avoided each other when we were both home (it felt awkward but we both liked being in our separate rooms). We had a living room that neither of us used and would wait for the other person to finish cooking dinner before we would leave our room. Shit still feels weird thinking about it.

>>33478256
having roommates is so unnatural I hate it
fuck these random peoples feelings and the fucking fridge and sink

>>33474545
>So why do you need to move out anyway?
my mom's getting old and she has a chronic cough it's driving me insane

>>33478369
why don't you stay there and take care of your mother?

>>33478379
because as I said it's driving me insane
also I'm worried she's going to get alzheimer's and I want to GTFO before it starts
yes I'm a bad son I don't care

>>33474417 (OP)
Man I don't know

2 is ok if you can deal
But putting up with scumbags and a shitty neighborhood takes a toll
It really does

I would honestly do the roommate option. You never really know what you are getting into with an apartment. More times than not it’s available because nobody wants to live there. Noisy neighbors, shitty plumbing (I had the only unit that would get scalding hot water when someone flushed the toilet in 21 unit apartment), shitty ceiling floor boards, ant problem after the first week, heating/cooling problems. Shit you don’t realize until after the first couple of weeks of living there. Ive found potential roommates are a lot more honest than scum lords.

>>33478389
Burn in hell. May the rest your life be more miserable than her.

>>33474417 (OP)
Don't do option 1. Option 2 would be optimal for me. Get your own place and get a gf.

>>33474417 (OP)
2 unless you're a pussy who'll get mugged by poor people

>>33474417 (OP)
>I'm 31 I need to move out.
Why?

>>33474417 (OP)
> I'm scared of

Your only real choice is option 3.

>>33474417 (OP)
As someone who lives in a shitty neighborhood and shitty roommates. The shitty roommates are far worse than a poor neighborhood. #2. As long as the poor neighborhood is just ugly and depressing, not full of people actively trying to murder and steal from you.
A shitty neighborhood you can close the door and shut out and ignore. Shitty roommates get under your skin until you are driven to relentless intrusive serial killer thoughts every time you hear their voice or get another whiff of their disgusting B.O. and smoke. It's so enervating having to be a hostage in your bedroom because it's so tense/annoying/loud/smelly every time you need to use the kitchen or bathroom you might have to run into the most annoying people in your world. And then when you think it couldn't get worse, they start inviting their annoying friends and family over all the time.

>>33474417 (OP)
>>33480505
Actually maybe if it's a shared nice apartment, the pool of roommates will be higher quality, but wouldn't count it on it, being wealthy doesn't stop always someone from being a weird slovenly douchebag.
Maybe if you communicate well beforehand for compatible personalities. It's awkward AF living with some disgusting repulsive slob and they expect you to be friends with them when to you they are like mystery gunk stuck in the kitchen sink drain basket.