Thread 33474734

Yesterday was my birthday and my ex reached out to wish me a happy birthday. We started talking about what went wrong and eventually she told me she still had feelings

We broke up because she started to ask me for the Instagram of one of my friends. I met her in Canada and now I'm working in New Zealand so we are long distance. I think she was probably joking about my friend's Instagram because she had no way to contact him as I don't have social media and even if she did, he lives in New Zealand so it's not like it was doable. She told me it was a joke and I can believe her

But still, I'm confused as to why she wants to come back, what can I do?

>>33474734 (OP)
So you both see each other as a best candidates for satisfy own need for love. Yes or no?

There is absolutely nothing in the world that she could probably need or feel that you couldn't need or feel too. and thats all you need to know about each other in the present moment.

Everything else is your own brain fart misleading from what is actually happening in life . If you want to live you have to serve your life and properly served life brings glance of happiness .
In order to properly serve life you need to kn ow exactly what life is in a present moment and what would make life more wonderful then it is.

I like old good term 'shrink' because that is exactly what good shrinks do, shrink out bullshit from your mind so that you could self see the truth as it is and adjust accordingly to avoid suffer.

>>33474734 (OP)
>I'm confused as to why she wants to come back
If the whole thing was actually the result of you misunderstanding something, and she has since decided that, although it was a misunderstanding, it was a reasonable one, there's no reason why she wouldn't want to get back with you: *you* dumped *her*, after all, she probably still likes you. The tricky bit, of course, is that you would now be long distance: that can destroy even the best of relationships.

>>33474767
You do have a point, I think I'm a bit overwhelmed because I wasn't expecting it. It's true that I have a lot of problems with my libido and I have very specific fetishes and I wasn't able to satisfy those with any girl I have dated but I'm okay with that and apparently she is okay too with my dick problems but yes, let's see how it goes

>>33474778
I personally don't mind long distances, to me physical affection is not key but I need to feel reassured, as in I need to know I'm loved otherwise everything falls apart and my insecurities eat me alive

It will be nice to dwell with you again Maria. Now we can grow through the misunderstanding and our communication will naturally find a rhythm with both of us making the effort for each other. Distance is not an issue. Let's have our trip and spend time together in person!

>>33474784
>problems with my libido
Bull shit, meaning I can fix it
>my dick problems
No. that is not truth. Your dick have a problems with your judgemental mind.

Tips for good sex . Sex = fuck so tips for good fuck is to never ever have it, OK? ... so when you finally do, it will be wonderful. Point is to enjoy share from self fullness and not squeeze last drop from the balls for self pleasure.

There is no such a thing as 'I love you' Truth is you see her as a bast candidate to satisfy your own need for love. and it is wise versa.
Truth love and hate is always mutual other ways one is just crazy can't get ideas from ones mind.

So you spend time together by paying attention to each others needs and feelings and serve life live together do crazy things enjoy and avoid fucking = sex as long as possible. Fucking can not be planed it is discharge that mature in inevitability to explode.

Keep that urge to reproduce , blind lust and strong temptation ... convert it in to daily normal life serving force . (riding the dragon)

'la petite mort' men falls for it there for men is mortal.

>>33474785
Well, she's still interested or she wouldn't be asking; so if you don't mind the distance, why not give it a try? FWIW, based on what you're saying, I think she is quite likely telling the truth when she says the original thing was a joke that got out of control; so you have no reason not to trust her. I would go for it and see what happens.

>>33474807
Thanks Anon. We were long distance after I left Canada (and still are) so for now I can focus on Nofap and after slowly build back trust on each other if that's possible. I told her the truth, I thought she had moved on but apparently hasn't so maybe I should just take this chance?

>>33474816
You are right, right now I believe would be a bit unnatural to jump into a relationship now but we have agreed on keep talking and in me trying to trust her feelings without dismissing them as "fake" due to my lack of trust. Why she loves me is beyond me though. I'm balding and I have a limp dick but apparently she does like me

>>33474824
Don't touch your dick at all and actively avoid anything that links to fucking ....
It takes on average 8 days to restore one 'lapetite mort' its like loosing ½ liter blood. real injury and abuse your self. Why? Rater drive that energy to enjoy life as long as it possible and you will not need extra stimulant for fetish.

You are like mobile phone can communicate different ways in all the world ... but Only if your batteries fully charged. Other ways you will miss all opportunities in life.

Value of the straight men is his strength always full charged batteries and pick of performance.

Obviously you need spiritual connection with your
women and intimacy few times per day, just do not ejaculate . If train is coming with out possibility to stop it , squeeze with two fingers root of your dick just beside balls and hold it until automatic pulsation will ends. Have a habit voluntary squeeze your ass hole and take a deep slow breath in and out ... that retention of semen will save your life.

Imagine you have 8 wife's and each give you 'la petite mort' they will fuck you to death, kill you , your hair start fall off first.

bald men = petite mort happens a lot.

>>33474862
So there's a correlation between semen and hair? I used to masturbate a lot and now my hair is incredibly thin, could that be the cause?

Could to give me some advice on how to permanently stop masturbating? I'm very grateful for the advice you have provided me Anon

I hope I can also spiritually heal, I have a lot of intrusive thoughts urging me to blaspheme the Holy Spirit and it's exhausting sometimes, I don't know what to do

>>33474734 (OP)
Hopefully you both get aids and decease, OP.