>>33476562
>starting to take this for granted and she's getting depression frequently
>It's slowly approaching two years and I haven't moved in life, things have just gone backwards. I feel like if I had just said no, I would have had a house by now, a better job, time for my hobbies and I wouldn't have to work so hard.
>We've been talking about this for two months now and she's using her grandfather's cancer and a cover up and is slowly being avoidant which makes things worse.
>I asked her for some time to talk about the rent this morning and she threw a fit.
>once she gets back from work and is rested.
Lots to unpack here anon, this context would've been nice at the start.
You're growing resentful because she isn't appreciating you, you're taking care of a big financial burden for her. Yet she seems to not really care or want to return the favour.
24 Months, 19k-50k USD based on average you've provided this woman, that is a down payment on a house in a nice area, what have you got in return?
Relationships are two way streets, from what I can see from what you've said it seems like you've been walking down this street alone for a while.
Throwing fits when you're in your late 20's (I'm assuming your age) is cause for concern and using family health issues as a guise to be like that is also a major red flag.
Anon, in my opinion it's time to let go.
Unless she has a good paying job, makes a decent amount of money (4K+ a month) you'll never see the money you've put in to her back unless you take her to small claims caught, you'll still need some sort of evidence in writing that she was planning on paying you back.
It's one thing to pay for her rent for 1-4 months whilst she gets back on her feet and is going to pay you back, but she clearly has no intention on paying you back based on her mooching on you for two whole years, usually people feel some sort of shame or guilt if they are unable to pay back a large sum of money they've borrowed.
