Thread 33481083

I'm 28 and have been far away from my home state for approximately 6 years - i took a job immediately following college graduation (2019) that was far away to be with the person who'd id thought id marry. However , about a year after accepting the position we drifted away due to how much id have to work to be successful in this job :(. For some reason , be it hope that things would change , i kept my job and decided to give it my best shot even though it was already in the place i really didn't want to be. My family ,friends, and way of life as a whole was totally uprooted which honestly had me feeling lonely over all these years. and better yet , The job has been ridiculously intense, with a wild shift schedule; however really set me up for a career in my field.

I know if i stay here ill be able to rise through the ranks , but i desperately want to get home - the feeling is stronger than ever at this point. I had some luck in the stock market and could theoretically live for a few years on that alone while i look for that next position? But with the current job market i should really wait till i have a job until i quit this job as i dont want to be without a job for that long.

The breaking point is that each and every day is unbearable , the dread is enough to make me seriously deflated.

I'm just asking for advice here

Take some time off. See a therapist. Start making friends and developing a life with what you value where you are.

>>33481083 (OP)
Go home anon.

>>33481083 (OP)
I won't read your autobiography. Get to the point next time.

>>33481083 (OP)
Fuck the job and fuck rising through the ranks. Follow your heart and see where it takes you. It's the only path to true love & happiness. You didn't come here to be a miserable wage slave, did you? You decide. I'd rather be homeless and happy living with the girl of my dreams then successful, miserable and alone.

Sorry anon, I've been in your position. Finished grad school, moved to the Bay area to start a flashy tech job, but then my long-term GF took a job in a different state and then broke up with me within a month, and then I never got my feet underneath me socially, and then Covid hit and it was GG (eventually moved away to be closer to family).

Not knowing ANYTHING about you, but if I were in your position, I would gradually start working less, just 1 or 2% more me-time. I would also use my vacation days to visit my family (not just during the holidays), and/or take a day off to go on a long walk and think about what other kind of jobs I/you could do or get caught up on things I've been neglecting.

Do you have any specifics you want to brainstorm about?

>>33481498
I fucking sucks man , it really does - i told myself that i would just work and get myself to a higher position. That it would be worth it , and perversly maybe i could win her back ?? well its been 5 years , i dont think that delusion will ever play out. Its childish and im happy i finially woke up from it all.


I work like 90 hour weeks now at this point and its enough to make me lose my mind coupled with the loneliness and desire to get back home. Im going to start really applying back home and see if i can get a safety line - i feel honestly emotionally trapped.

>>33482073
Bro in what industry do you work that you have 90 hour weeks after 5 years? Law? Finance?

>>33482379
Nuclear operations , our plant has a 7 on 2 of rotating shift schedule - i think i picked the worst possible job to do alone.

>>33482452
Bro I'm sorry, I think you're in a rotten position and should, again, make time to put yourself in a (at least, temporarily) low stress environment and seriously think about your future. Sitting under a tree seems to help for some reason. Whatever the juice is, its not worth the squeeze.