Thread 33482083

I've always been friends with my brother's friends so I've never felt unsafe or uncomfortable around them before.
I turned 21 last month, but I didn't get to try any alcohol because my family is kind of churchy and they wanted me to spend my birthday with them.

I went out with my brother's friends last night and they kept making fun of me for not drinking (except for his best friend who told me I shouldn't drink), so I wanted to prove them wrong, that I could drink, and I chugged down a couple drinks.

I got really sick. I fell asleep at one point trying to lie still so I'd feel better. When I woke up my brother's best friend was driving me home. He told me I need to be more careful and made specific mention not to ever drink around one of the guys from the group. He didn't tell my family, other than my brother, and my brother has been treating me like I'm retarded since.

I want to live a normal adult life and it feels like drinking is supposed to be part of that. How can I get better at handling my drink?

Don't do shit just because everyone else is doing it. Alcohol is bad for your health and you should avoid it. Your brother's friends made fun of you because they're dickheads who probably have their own hangups and insecurities. Normal, mature people don't give a shit if you don't drink. They understand that other people are different from them and respect their boundaries.

>>33482083 (OP)
It sounds like something horrible happened. It's not your fault. I'm sorry you felt pressured to drink, and that some sicko took advantage of that.

>>33482083 (OP)
You started by drinking too much. You should have started out by drinking a little only and then gradually escalating. Your tolerance has to be built up over time.

>>33482414
They just always treat me like I'm not as tough as they are, and act like I'm automatically not a competitor in everything because I'm a girl. I wanted to prove them wrong, I get that it was dumb but it just eats away at me when they act like that.
>>33482437
I don't feel like anything happened. Idk for sure since I felt sick and went to sleep, but I hope I would know if someone did something to me. My brother's bestie was on my case about being more careful when he was driving me home so I feel like he covered for me if anything almost happened, I hope.
>>33482622
I will try that if I have to drink again, thank you.

>>33483135
They're right. You are smaller than them, you have less muscle. In just about everything, but especially drinking, they have so much of an advantage over you that you don't stand a chance.

>>33482083 (OP)
nigger you are not tough, you are a married instead if hanging out with your brother's friends that just want to fuck you

*you are a woman, go get married...
idk how i sped past writing all of that

>>33483864
>>33484032
I'm not someone they can just push around. I can do all the same stuff, and I'm sure they don't want to fuck me because we all grew up together anyway so they were probably just worried about pranks getting out of hand when I was drunk.

>>33485297
>I'm sure they don't want to fuck me because we all grew up together
lol

>>33482083 (OP)
You will get better after time. The american rule to start drinking like a maniac as soon as you turn 21 is so fucking retarded. Most people make that experience at 16 and learn from there

>henlo im a dumb grill with a non-issue this will get lots of replies
idk what these creeps are getting out of it
but id gladly join in stoning them to death :)

>>33485892
Imagine being so much of a faggot you forget women make problems out of nothing and crave attention. Go stone yourself queer.

>>33485297
They all want to make you their wife, impregnate you, and grow old together with you after raising 2-3 kids by your side. You have no idea.

>>33486853
She’s a female. Presumable sperg female or autist. Dont bother trying to explain how horny men think, she won’t understand. It won’t sink in. Her ears are closed. She will continue to pass out drunk in the company of adult men while wearing easy access skirts and she’ll wonder what happened each time.

>>33482083 (OP)
Don't drink you retarded silly girl.

>>33483135
You are not as tough and you don't have to be. Just be a girl.

>>33487580
Why doesn't being a girl include the possibility of being as tough as them? I could be like Black Widow or Karlach or Millie. I'm not less tough than the guys, I just need practice drinking and they've had a year ahead of me to practice it.
>>33487578
What's so retarded about it?
>>33486863
If something like that kind of thing had happened I would have noticed I think.

>>33482083 (OP)
RIN SETSU A

>>33488398
Black widow is fiction, accept the limitations of the female body. Should I look forward to lifting planes like Superman? You are a retarded silly girl.

Consuming alcohol is a sin, idk whether you see it that way yet. But it is. Not as bad as sex before marriage, but it's still a sin.

>>33489058
>calling people retarded
>judging other people's "sins"
Yes, this is exactly how Jesus wanted his followers to act. Christianity is such a LARP.

>>33482083 (OP)
>Person warns you not to drink around these specific people
>Don't think there's a good reason for the warning and decides to ignore it because: I am "le smart"
Honestly? I wish I could punch you in the face.

There's so many rapists everywhere, and you decide to knock yourself unconscious around several men?

Did you know that many rape victims don't remember they were raped? I don't want to get you paranoid, but you could very well been raped.

Dumb whore.

>>33489072
The Bible does not tell you not to judge, it tells you to judge with righteousness, because the way you judge, you will be judged. But of course you don't know that, you only know Christianity through Bible quotes you've read on t-shirts of non believers.

>>33483135
>I hope I would know if someone did something to me
you wouldn't know, you were unconscious, they probably gang raped you and recorded. Go get IST tested

>>33485297
>I'm not someone they can just push around
The sooner you accept you are not a man, and you can very well get raped by even the weakest jeet, the better for you. You don't know what happened to you. You almost got raped, or you did got raped. In any case, this is what you get for thinking you are as strong as a man. If we were in nature, you wouldn't even have rights, because you're weak. This should scare you.

>>33489058
Black Widow is theoretically on a level someone could reach though bc she doesn't have super powers she's just really skilled.
>Consuming alcohol is a sin, idk whether you see it that way yet.
I don't remember too well but I thought there was a part about turning water into wine? Why would that miracle have happened if drinking is a sin and enabled sinning? I think there's a verse that says if you're like a lord or an official you shouldn't drink to keep your judgements clear, but I'm not in charge of anything so I should be fine?
>>33489100
I've known these guys my whole life almost. If I can't trust them, how can I trust anybody? They're my friends, they never gave me a reason to doubt them before so I felt like it would be ok having my first drinks with them and that since they knew me they'd look out for me. I feel like that sort of worked since my brother's bestie got me out of there and drove me home, but I agree it didn't go perfect.
>>33489105
"Judge not lest ye be judged", I think is the phrasing? I spent a lot of time with my mom helping at the nursery at church so I only got parts of the actual sermons a lot of Sundays. We were a strict KJV only congregation tho so it might be different in other translations.
>>33489109
What is IST testing? I don't feel sore or anything and I guessed nothing happened bc I thought it would hurt afterwards.
>>33489123
I guess it's kinda scary there are people with that kind of attitude out there. I trusted these guys so I believed I was in a safe place. My brother's bestie dios get me out of there so I have some faith he was like a guardian angel for me there if anything bad was happening. I don't like feeling like I have to depend on people though, so I'd like to get tougher at drinking so I don't need somebody to drag me home if I drink again.

>>33489381
>What is IST testing?
sexually transmissible Illness

>I don't feel sore or anything
They could have used your mouth, or have really tiny dicks, LOL

>I've known these guys my whole life almost. If I can't trust them, how can I trust anybody?
Look, the time you spent with people doesn't mean anything at all. When a person is evil, they will be evil even if you spent 20 years of your life with them. That's why it's important to have a good judge of character, you can't trust others blindly.

The people that helped me the most were literal strangers, and some people I knew for years were the ones who abandoned me when I needed the most.

This is life for you, it is what it is.

>I have some faith he was like a guardian angel for me there if anything
I don't know about that, don't blindly trust other people, you would be surprised about how many "good" people fold when pressured, and end up allowing evil.

>"Judge not lest ye be judged", I think is the phrasing?
There's a context. And you literally cut in half. Let me tell you, how can you not judge a person? The Bible is full of examples of the twelve disciples and Jesus judging people.

Matthew 7:1-5:

1 Judge not, that ye be not judged.

2 For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.

3 And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye?

4 Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam is in thine own eye?

5 Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother's eye.

[It tells you to cast out the beam out of thine own eye, then to cast out the mote out of thy brother's eye... Not telling you not to judge, but to not be a hypocrite]

>>33482083 (OP)
>I want to live a normal adult life and it feels like drinking is supposed to be part of that.
That's a really stupid reason for drinking. If you *enjoy* having a drink or two, go for it; but if you don't like it, it's pointless.

I have to say, this story doesn't quite add up. You sound as though you practically passed out after "a couple" of drinks. People who have never drunk before have a low tolerance, but not that low. You should consider whether your drink might have been spiked - possibly not with a drug, maybe just with extra alcohol. You should also consider that your body may not react normally to alcohol. There's a gene that causes this, which is very common in some ethnic groups, but can affect anyone. If you happen to have that gene, you should avoid alcohol altogether, because it's strongly associated with alcoholism.

If you're going to be pig-headed about it and continue drinking anyway, then here are some guidelines.

- Pace yourself. It can take as much as an hour for the drink you just had to be fully absorbed, so you are going to carry on getting drunker for quite a while. Consider alternating alcoholic and non-alcoholic drinks.

- Start by having no more than one drink and see how that feels. If it's fine, try two next time, but there's no rush.

- Eat immediately beforehand so you have lots of undigested food in your stomach. That slows down the rate at which you absorb the alcohol.

- Don't drink anything fizzy at the same time. Carbon dioxide bubbles make you absorb the alcohol faster and you get more drunk.

- Stay hydrated. Drink plenty of water, even if you are peeing constantly. Alcohol dehydrates you (by making you pee more).

- Generally speaking, the darker the colour of a drink, the worse the hangover will be. Vodka is not too bad; red wine or port will *really* make you feel like shit the next morning.

- Learn how much alcohol is in any given drink. It's not always obvious.

>>33483135
>They just always treat me like I'm not as tough as they are, and act like I'm automatically not a competitor in everything because I'm a girl. I wanted to prove them wrong,
(NTA) Anon, it is a fact of life that women cannot tolerate as much alcohol as men can. What controls how drunk you get is the concentration of alcohol in your body fluids. A woman has less fluid in her body than a man of the same size, and since women are also smaller than men, the difference is even greater. That means the same amount of alcohol will be spread out through much less body liquid, so it will be more concentrated, and you will be more drunk for the same number of drinks. On top of that, women burn off alcohol more slowly than men, because their livers are busy with other things (processing oestrogens) so the alcohol that you drink stays in your system for longer, and you can't have as many drinks in the same time period. Add to that the fact that you had never drunk before and will have a very low tolerance, and you are asking for trouble.

And drinking is NOT A FUCKING COMPETITION. You will get yourself in no end of trouble if you treat it as one.

>>33489381
You mean a lone woman taking on 10 trained men is not fantasy? If you want to test strength, raw strength, try wrestling you brother or dad. A 14 year old boy can break you into two. You can train all your life but a 14 year old boy can always beat you physically. I'll you techniques go out the window. Its difficult for a woman to win, if not impossible. Try wrestling your brother, seriously.

>>33489396
Thank you, I guess it makes sense we have to be sort of judging of stuff.
>>33489438
I was drinking fizzy mixed drinks, which from your write up sounds like where I went wrong. I'll be more careful.
>>33490329
I mean if a lone woman is skilled enough I think she could take down ten men, but she'd have to be like super good at what she does.

>>33491747
Why do you think we have separate men and women's boxing? Or mma. Or any of the track events? Swimming? Wrestle your brother.

>>33491747
Not even a trained adult male fighter could take 10 average men simultaneously in a direct fight, a trained woman would straight up get destroyed. It’s not just female characters like Black Widow even Batman wouldn’t be able to take on 10 guys at the same time IRL.