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Anonymous No.33488733 >>33488753
>you stumble upon your old forum posts
>you realize that one girl that always talked to you was the best girl you were ever gonna get and you completely ruined your relationship with her

How to come to terms with these emotions 16 years after the fact?
Anonymous No.33488753 >>33488794
>>33488733 (OP)
Anon, if there was a real solution, it'd be trending within the normie world as they deal with this too. There is no easy answer, and 16 years is a long time. You either
>find a new girl to obsess over & risk falling in love again
>forgive yourself & commit to being better moving forward
or if you genuinely cant get over her
>become so insanely chad that she brags to her current friends that you guys use to date
3rd option is the only way you can realistically get her back, and even then you'd have to run into her in a darkened club or some shit so you guys can lowkey ditch the place & hookup again & possibly reconnect under the radar. There is no other way around it & i totally understand it fucking sucks & there is no solution. Unless you drown yourself in drugs & alcohol like i did for a period of time, you really just gotta bite the bullet & move on no matter how much it hurts. Maybe use the hurt as fuel to become insanochad if you love her that much. Heartbreak & loss does wonders to the male progress.
Anonymous No.33488794 >>33488897
>>33488753
You're right on all counts and I came to the same conclusions about two hours ago. I figured I would just make this thread for the hell of it, just see what others anons would think about my situation.

I like your third solution but again, we were only ever Internet friends. It would take a lot on her end for us to meet in person. She lives in Canada and I live in California. I did send her a message on an online account that she's still active on but I am NOT getting my hopes up.

It does hurt on some level but now that I'm older, I choose to look back on our time together fondly. I feel like I found a missing part of myself that I didn't even realize I had lost. A lot of my behavior towards dating and romance has been explained with this recent reminder of what I had before so if nothing else, I can use this epiphany to improve my outlook on my romantic life and build towards a solid relationship with some woman I'll meet in the future.

I'm not sure what else to say... Time is a cruel mistress and she punishes us all sooner or later. I thought this girl was annoying back then and now that I'm older, holy fuck I would do anything to have a girl like her in my life. It's not like she was obsessed with me but we would talk for HOURS every single day for like a month. I was young and full of angst, anger, and resentment. I found her annoying at the time and decided to ghost her. What a mistake... Like I said, I sent her a message in the hopes we can reconnect but whatever happens, I know I need to be able to move on and focus on the life I have now. We are meant to learn from things like this and apply the newfound knowledge on the relationships we have now.
Anonymous No.33488897 >>33488906
>>33488794
Dont worry about it anon. I know how you feel with the asking for advice & already knowing the answer. Its good to talk to someone, anyone. And i totally relate. Online relationships suck ass. Long distance relationships are torture. I need my baby in my skin every night. I hope you find someone better, genuinely. Its hard as fuck living as an average single man today. Goodluck anon, wishing you the best.
Anonymous No.33488906
>>33488897
Thanks, dude. I don't know what time it is where you're at but I appreciate you being awake at 4 AM my time to talk about this with me.

She's special to me. Definitely had a huge impact on me during my formative years. But now that I'm aware of that now that I'm older, I'll use this knowledge to the best of my ability. I'll be alright.

Online relationships can be fun but yeah, nothing beats the real thing. Having someone in person to touch. I wish you the best as well!