Thread 33492438

I'm kind of conflicted. I've recently started a relationship with a girl I like quite a bit. We've also been getting intimate a lot, but no penetrative sex. She often tells me of her desire to have sex, especially within those intimate moments within the bedroom, under covers.

We haven't had sex yet because according to her, she would like to go to the doctor first. She has conjoined kidneys and thus the way her body deals with the hormones from an anticonceptionsl drug is different from the average woman.

She seems to just not want to go to the doctor, though. It's been two months since we started dating. We get intimate, but never penetrative sex. I make her orgasm, but she can't make me orgasm.

She's also expressed that she wants things to go different this time, as she was disappointed with her last relationships, in which she had sex. I don't understand.

What goes on in her mind? I am so confused. I am profoundly in love and I desire to be intimate with her, which she claims to desire too, but makes no effort to achieve.
What is going on? What should I do?
Am I just trying to take things too fast?

>>33492438 (OP)
>woman refuses to get man off with oral sex even though he did so for her
>denies any other type of sex for her man
She has a teasing fetish.
Dump her and get a dog. They'll gladly swallow your loads.

>>33492438 (OP)
Basically nag her about the doctors appointment. First, have a conversation where you say how much you want to have sex with her and she agrees and says the doctors appnt part. Then, remind her every week "hey, you schedule that doctor's appointment yet?"

>>33492438 (OP)
You are a betabuxxer she is not attracted to.

>>33492510
ur a tard. A kidney problem wouldn't make it impossible for her to give the man a blowjob or handy.

>>33492438 (OP)
You're being played

>>33492438 (OP)
>She has conjoined kidneys
That is not a real thing.

OP here. To clarify, she peeforms
oral sex and handjobs on me. I meant to say that we don't have penis to vagina intercourse, thus, the whole thing feels incomplete.
>>33492556
It prevents her from using an anticonceptional. Without the usage of the drug, she will not have sex. This is an entirely new thing when compared to her other partners.

>>33492808
The condition is called "horseshoe kidney".

>>33492510
I'm afraid of coming off as a guy who is only looking for sex. I really, really like this person, and I don't want it going tits up.

>>33493384
>It prevents her from using an anticonceptional
No it doesn't. You can use condoms. She can use a copper IUD, or even a spermicide and diaphragm.

>>33493419
In fact, I wouldn't be particularly surprised if she could use a hormonal IUD as well, but that's something you'd have to run past a doctor.

>>33493419
The condition stipulated by her (in conversation with her mother, it seems) was that she was not to have sex without the usage of an anticonceptional drug. Condoms are also a necessity, but she either takes the drug or we do not have sex.

>>33493425
>The condition stipulated by her (in conversation with her mother, it seems) was that she was not to have sex without the usage of an anticonceptional drug
Well, that's just ridiculous. Copper IUDs are very reliable and do not involve a drug. They're not suitable for everyone, but unless she's investigated that possibility, she's just being difficult.

>>33493425
Oh, and as I suggested before, a hormonal IUD might also work. That does involve "a drug" (retarded language) in that it is hormonal, but it uses a far lower dose than the pill, or most other forms of hormonal birth control, so her kidneys would almost certainly not be an issue. It is extremely reliable - more so than the pill.

>>33493501
Thanks, man.>>33493485

>>33493512
(NTA) I think you need to consider the possibility that your girlfriend simply doesn't want to have sex with you, and all this business about contraception is merely a convenient excuse.

>>33493384
So you lied. How do you expect good advice if you give bad info?