Thread 33492911

Figured out my gf had multiple instances of group sex, helped a guy cheat while doing it, because she really loved a girl who was sleeping with him. "She chose you" is something I'm tired of hearing, he wouldn't have dated her cause he was using her for sex. I didnt know her well back then but I knew he treated women like objects and cheated on every girl he has been with. I'm not really asking advice from women because they'll defend hook ups with bad men because its just sex which if that was the case theyd hook up with anybody. If I didnt know him and how he was I'd be okay. I'm just trying to get over this retroactive jealousy because i do love her.Ive lost friends because I was so upset but I was upset mainly because they throw her past in my face and how do I respond to,"She chose you to date? she chose to be just sex me." I need advice on how people got over retroactive jealousy or got over knowing a douche got with your girl. She feels guilty about it and says she wish she never did it which is why I dont throw it in her face and thats also terrible to do.

Just need some advice

>>33492911 (OP)
smile, nod, keep fucking her until you find a better chick
next

>>33492911 (OP)
>Just need some advice
When you were young and stupid, did you really never do anything that you now regret and wouldn't do again? Clearly this was very poor judgment on her part, but she herself admits that. People do stupid things when they're young, and it's not fair to hold those things over them for the rest of their lives. It's not like she murdered someone; she had sex.

Now, if you think that she is still the kind of person to do something like that NOW, then you're absolutely justified in having a problem with that. But like I said you must have done some stupid things yourself when you were younger, and you wouldn't want them to define your whole life, would you?

It's also worth asking yourself rather carefully if it is really *her* that you have a problem with, here, or if actually your problem is *him*. Are you resentful of the fact that someone who is an asshole got far more than sex than you ever did? If that's what you're feeling, then it is understandable to feel upset about that; but make sure that your anger is directed against the right target. If you're actually upset about your own lack of sexual opportunities, or you're upset at his behaviour, then *she* is not necessarily the person you should be getting angry at.

>>33492946
Thanks for the advice, towards the end anyways. You say its just sex but if sex didnt matter than they would just hook up with whoever and its with a guy that cheats and uses women. Its another thing that upsets me because the media always claims men have to be better but why of women have sex with these guys? As if she didnt have sex with them they wouldn't flaunt it or brag about it in the work place if it was just sex. Claiming it was just sex but society just doesnt treat it that way until its looked down upon which makes no sense

>>33492911 (OP)
Again looking for actual advice. The whole "its just sex" if it was just sex people wouldn't brag about it or say how easy it was to do. Looking for real world answers to get over retroactive jealousy, not looking to make women feel secure with sleeping with shitty men because they want men to act better but they cant ever quit fucking them. They'll "choose the bear" but fuck the man is having your cake and eating it too

>>33492960
Are you now angry at society rather than at her?

>>33492988
I think it's pretty clear, anon, that you are not looking for advice at all. Either you are simply trolling, or you are looking to *justify* how angry you are and dump her. If you want to dump her, then dump her. But at least be honest about the fact that it's what you want.

>>33493004
Society most likely because it really is just opposite of what people say and want. Problem is me. I guess I should adapt to society. I never understood the point of chivalry but thats why its dead. You dont need to be chivalrous anymore because women don't want it. Pretty stupid of me to turn down sex in the past or not sleep around because I valued them lmao its my fault

>>33493133
>Society most likely because it really is just opposite of what people say and want.
Fine. Be angry with society. But *she* is not responsible for society. So don't be angry at her.

>Problem is me.
Perhaps.

>I guess I should adapt to society.
Perhaps.

>Pretty stupid of me to turn down sex in the past or not sleep around because I valued them lmao its my fault
Well, yes, that was, indeed, stupid of you. And now you're blaming *her* for your own stupidity. How was that her fault?

>>33493173
Listen moron, I blame society and not her. Go get dicked down or whatever you do to pass the time. Funny people that give condescending advice achieves the opposite. You're such a dumb ass

>>33492911 (OP)
>"She chose you"
This is pure cope. I would rather die a virgin than marry a whore.

>>33492911 (OP)
>Betrayed friend because of a whore
>Friends warn about whore
>"She chose you to date? she chose to be just sex me."
Look at the level of cope of this guy, LMAO

Dude, you are a cuck for life, deal with it.

>>33492911 (OP)
>She feels guilty about it
She doesn't, I can guarantee that if you turned back the time, she would do all over again.

She enjoyed each second of his cock entering her whore pussy.

>>33493133
>Society most likely
Oh yeah, because society forced her to take dick left and right, to have sex with dogs, blacks...

Dude, kill yourself. Society condemns these things, and they do it anyway. Because there's nothing that holds them back anymore after sexual liberation.

You can find other ways to cope, but saying that it's society's fault that your women got BLACKED, got DICKED, this is dumb. It's just dumb.

>>33493207
Anon, what you originally said was:

>I'm just trying to get over this retroactive jealousy because i do love her.

The way that you get past your "retroactive jealousy" is by understanding that it is not actually HER you're angry with. You're angry at the guy; you're angry at society; you're angry with yourself; you're even angry at me! But you're not actually upset with her, not fundamentally. The way you get past the jealousy is by understanding who you're *really* upset with. Right now you're hurting, and you're blaming her for the pain; once you realise that it's not actually her fault that you're hurting, you won't feel like this any more.

>>33493173
>Fine. Be angry with society. But *she* is not responsible for society. So don't be angry at her.
Are you sick in the head? LMFAO

Did society forced her to fuck more than 100 guys and have group sex?

>>33493207
>Listen moron, I blame society and not her
You are a moron, KYS

You are the kind of dude that will marry a stripper, and lick her pussy after 100 blacks came in it. You don't have any self respect.

>>33492911 (OP)
>my gf
don't you mean our gf?

girl had been passed around the entire block from what it sounds like lmao

at the same time though, misogyny aside, if I met a woman and found out she has a past, but seeing by the way she conducts herself that she has totally changed, I would be with her.
But it would take:
1) Her showing a considerable amount of guilt over what she's done
2) The mistakes she's done being just 3-4 times, or many times in a short period of a couple of days / a week max, and not a long term reoccuring thing
3) She has cut off communication with all of the people who she had done these things with, or that know she's done these things
4) When she's reminded of this period of her life or specific mistakes that she did, her attitude towards it is one of fear and disgust, and avoidance, in other words she looks like she doesn't miss it and is repulsed by it

Only with those 4 conditions met, would I take a whore as a wife. And even then she will always be a risk, because once you've done something once - you're so much more likely to do it again simply by the fact that you've already done it.

But, if she can't show such a significant amount of change - then personally I will not be interested, politely reject her and move on. Because she's too much of a risk and liability.

I can't even IMAGINE being with a whore who's STILL in contact with a GROUP OF GUYS WHO USED TO FUCK HER and then being the boyfriend, that's absolutely dreadful.

>>33493214
Thats advice I'm really looking for is how do guys cope with thier gfs sleeping around previosly which is why I dont ask advice from females because they dont deal with "yeah I cracked that." "She and I had a good time" "You're dating her? She just let me hit." Do you just argue back it was her choice to be sex for you? Lol

>>33493238
>how do guys cope with thier gfs sleeping around previosly
They don't, it's unnatural. The sooner you accept this, the more at peace you will be. You are clearly afraid of your own company, you are a scared little man, and it's obvious in your comments, you are looking for approval like the little man that you are, and you even cut your friends because they disagreed with you, and you couldn't stand hearing the TRUTH.

My advice is: Stop being a faggot. Stop fighting nature. Stop being a little bitch. You will never win. You're no different than a tranny taking hormones and screaming at people for approval.

>>33493238
OP, does your gf meet any of the conditions I wrote in my reply? >>33493233

>>33493233
She's done all these things really and shes shown nothing but love. Everyone deserves love. She is a great person and lucky to have her but its just hard to defend her honor when she's the one who chose to do it. It's just humiliating and women don't understand that because they hate to be held accountable for anything but entitled to everything

>>33493302
Well it's men as well really. I think the world of her and they just saw her as an object, which she may have seen them the same way, but she was okay being just that for those guys regardless of how they treated other women. Just hurts sometimes

>>33493315
>Just hurts sometimes
You are a pathetic little man. Have you read >>33493272?

You don't want to dump her because you think you're not capable of finding anything better. Disgusting.

>>33493238
>Thats advice I'm really looking for is how do guys cope with thier gfs sleeping around previosly
(NTA) The answer, anon, is that there's nothing to cope *with*. If you ask me how I handle the fact that someone else once came on my gf's tits, the closest I can give you to an answer is "Because she has washed since then". Beyond that, I don't give the tiniest of fucks, because there is no rational reason to. The fact that this happened did not cause any physical or psychological change in her; she is exactly the same person she would have been if it hadn't happened; so WHY WOULD I CARE?

The fact that you think that there even is anything to cope with here is the problem.

Honestly, you should break up with her. It doesn't even matter whether the incels are right and she's a devalued whore, or whether the issue is that you can't stop thinking about other men's dicks when you're in bed with a woman. Either way, it's not going to work out. You need to accept that you are always going to have a problem with this, and move on. The only way this could work is if you weren't bothered by it, and you are, and always will be. So move on.

>>33493322
You don't know me, I've turned away other girls for her. I just want to cope with her past and its not easier said than done.

>>33493326
Reasonable advice, I just disliked the humiliation that it comes with and the guys are assholes that didnt try and i felt it was part of the humiliation because I was trying hard to even get to know her or to go on a date when guys just did so much less and I get reminded about it

>>33492911 (OP)
OP, the core problem is that your girlfriend has completely detached sex from intimacy. It's a common woman problem and you should've spotted it a mile away. Realise that, though she may love you, she may never value you. And to woman how they value their man is the #1 most important thing to them. It seems evident to me you didn't lose your virginity to her, so take that into consideration if you decide to leave her; the difference between 0 body count and 1 is the equivalent of 10 body count vs 1000.

>>33493369
>I just disliked the humiliation
Why? If there's nothing to be humiliated about having a whore as a girlfriend, why do you feel humiliated?

>>33493352
>You don't know me
I know enough to know you're acting like a cockroach.

>I've turned away other girls for her
So besides dating a whore, you're also dumb? I'm not surprised.

>I just want to cope with her past and its not easier said than done.
Stop trying to cope, you either accept she was a whore, and embrace it, not feeling bad at all when people mention how she was fucked by multiple dudes, or you don't accept and break up with her and find someone that is not a whore.

>>33493302
> She's done all these things really and shes shown nothing but love. Everyone deserves love. She is a great person and lucky to have her but its just hard to defend her honor when she's the one who chose to do it. It's just humiliating and women don't understand that because they hate to be held accountable for anything but entitled to everything

I'm the guy who posted the list.
Why do you have to defend her honor? If she doesn't communicate with anyone from that time or with anyone who knows about that time (point 3) >>33493233
Then there's nothing to defend?

Unless she's still speaking to those people.

Anyway from your replies it sounds like you're really affected by this, like you're going through a really hard time right now. And I just want you to know that it's okay. It's okay man. No one is forcing you to either be with our leave this girl. It's all your choice. At the end of the day if you feel a great pain, your options are 3:
1) Accept it, and find a way to move on
2) Communicate your grievances to her, and try together to find a solution so that you feel comfortable with staying
3) Leave, this is a totally valid option, you're not bound to this person, even if it feels like it.

I personally wouldn't date cheaters, and obviously cheaters wouldn't tell me that they are cheaters, but if a girl was stupid enough to tell me that, I would seriously reevaluate our relationship

>>33493369
Well, I don't see any reason to feel humiliated, but if you, then you do. Honestly, anon, literally no one "copes" with this. There are people like me who can't understand why you would think there's anything to cope *with*, and are perfectly happy; and there are people Iike you who have a problem with it, always will have a problem with it, and need to accept that and move on. But no one ever "copes".

>>33493352
>I've turned away other girls for her
OP you have fucked up. You have traded in potential virgin wives-to-be for a public orifice. In ten years time you will look back and you won't like what you see.

>>33493458
cope

>>33493473
No, I'm just straight.

>>33493624
>No, I'm just straight.
Not the guy you're talking with, but no. You are not straight, at least not in the head. You're worst than shit. That's how much you value yourself, I bet you hated yourself while growing up, lol

>>33492911 (OP)
I was "just sex" for a while to this girl and she used me a few times to leave other men (by cucking them). She also had sex with a couple of my friends (the ones I like). She started pushing to date me a bit later. Here's the take away: you can't really cope with it and additionally being in the "just sex" position makes all the novelty vaporize. Women are retarded. You're dating a whore. Find God.

>>33493462
>OP you have fucked up. You have traded in potential virgin wives-to-be for a public orifice. In ten years time you will look back and you won't like what you see.
This right here.

OP can't admit he is a little bitch, and he fucked up. Not only he chose a whore, he even destroyed real friendships, with friend that were willing to tell the truth to his face, and picked up the whore. This is lack of self respect, I bet he is a little man, that can't stand up to himself, and doesn't stand his own company, LMFAO

>>33493688
>I bet you hated yourself while growing up, lol
Kek, not in the slightest. I rather like the fact that a woman who actually knows what other men have to offer thinks that I offer more than anyone else can.

Wanting a virgin - that really is cope. That's hating yourself so much that you know in your heart of hearts no woman will ever want you if she knows how much better she can do; and that the only chance you have is to prevent her from ever finding out.

It doesn't work, of course. Virgins cheat. They spend all day every day wondering what sex with other men might be like, and eventually they find out, from simple FOMO.

>>33493714
>I rather like the fact that a woman who actually knows what other men have to offer thinks that I offer more than anyone else can.
No, you don't, otherwise you wouldn't build a thread asking people on how to cope on being a cuckold, LMAO.

>Wanting a virgin - that really is cope
You don't know what cope is. Cope is telling yourself a lie, in what way is wanting a virgin telling yourself a lie? You're not only a cuckold, but also dumb as fuck.

>>33492911 (OP)
If it bothers you do much, break with her and go in search of the mythical virgin bride

>>33492911 (OP)
It's easy. If there is some glaring flaw about her that will bother you forever, how can you claim to love her? Just admit that she's hot and it clouds your judgment.

>>33493726
You can only understand the appeal of virgins once you've dated hoes and dealt with all the issues. It's not worth it lmao.

>>33492946
If certain women showed up at my doorstep today & wanted to sexy, I would also lose my moral compass for the day. Thing is, she shouldnt get mad or jealous of me since she did it too in the past. See how cucked that sounds? She would probably be furious.

>>33493726
I'm not OP.

>>33493820
>I'm not OP.
Still a cuck though

>>33493811
>Thing is, she shouldnt get mad or jealous of me since she did it too in the past.
What the fuck are you talking about? She would be perfectly entitled to get mad at you for doing it NOW, because NOW you're in a relationship with her and you'd be cheating on her. I'm sure she'd be furious. Quite right too. But she would not be entitled to get mad at you for having sex with someone else before you met her, because you wouldn't have been cheating on her THEN. She can't reasonably expect you to have been faithful to her when you didn't even know she existed. The two things aren't even faintly comparable.

Lot of talk about cucks. I used to know an actual cuck. He was this massive, hyper-dominant, hyper-masculine Chad - 6'5", chiseled jaw, 230 pounds, body fat always below 10% and (according to his wife, who I knew better than I knew him) a huge dick, and a high sex drive. His kink was watching another guy fuck his wife, then saying "Now I'll show you how it *should* be done", fucking her himself, and getting off on how much more his wife enjoyed doing it with him than doing it with the other guy.

Suffice to say, cucks aren't necessarily what you think.

>>33493873
>Saar, do not redeem
Fake and gay

>>33492911 (OP)
>I need advice on how people got over retroactive jealousy or got over knowing a douche got with your girl.
You don't. I learned this lesson with my first gf at age 20. If you're gonna have a problem with her past, it's never going to go away in your head.
I wasted two years with my first GF trying to make it work when it never would. Earlier this year I dated a girl who revealed something similar about her past and I broke up with her on the spot. I miss her, I still have feelings for her, but I'm not looking back and making that same mistake twice.
This isn't a "fix it" problem. This is a "replace it" problem, as >>33492919 said

>>33492911 (OP)
You need to make a decision.

>Go to therapy to learn to make your current situation tolerable
>Break up with her and be comfortable with the idea of being alone, because you'll be looking for someone extremely rare.

You have to realize a lot of things are going on at the same time. Firstmost women look for a sense of safety, they go for strong looking men to satisfy the protection instinct, they jump from relationships to relationships because they want the intimacy with the safety of not making an irreversible choice. Society has told women they can and should use sex as a bonding tool, to get what they want and that nobody gets hurt. At the same time society told YOU that you should feel hurt if you use sex the same way because girls are vulnerable.

She can't change her past, neither you or her can't change what society told you or lead you to do. She can change her viewpoints and present, and you can change to appreciate the present instead of focusing in the inalterable past. If she has really changed, she now has a more complete perspective or life. It's up to you to see that and measure whether she has grown in this sense, and it's only your responsibility to grow to see this reality or keep pursuing fantasies.

>>33492911 (OP)
>Ive lost friends because I was so upset but I was upset mainly because they throw her past in my face
your friends are there to tell your hard truths that nobody else will. it's too bad you sacrificed that for some retarded whore.

My GF told me one of her girl friends asked her to have sex with her in front of her BF once because he liked watching lesbian porn and wanted to see her doing it. she did scissoring and 69 with her while the guy masturbated.
i said that sounded cool and that I'd like to see that too. she said no because that was "a long time ago"
I dumped her shortly after

>>33494031
>I dumped her shortly after
You did right. These women set some rules for beta cucks, and for others they break these rules. If she is not willing to break those rules for you, she thinks you are a beta cuck. It's ova

>>33494031
>I dumped my gf because she stopped being a slut before she met me.
Okay.

>>33494064
>Guy thinks a slut can stop being a slut
Imagine thinking a serial killer stopped being a killer, or a rapist stopped being a rapist just because, LOL

Don't distort his words. He dumped her because she set rules for him, and broke for others.

>>33493969
LOOOOOOOOOOOOL
saaaaaaar
DO NOT redeeEEm!!!

>>33494031
I would also feel quite bad if she did that and then wouldn't do it with me.

desu that's pretty gay

I really hope that when I get another gf she'll be stupid enough to tell me about her past and I can make a correct decision.
So far my first gf of 2 years only had 1 short term bf of 2 weeks and 1 one night stand before getting with me (I was a virgin), then my second gf of 5 years was a virgin when I met her. Then a third girl for 2.5 months who I just licked and sucked with was a virgin too.
I honestly have been with ladies who were either virgins or low body count so I really don't know how I will handle this when the time comes and I have a gf who has had a long term bf or many sex saar before me.

>>33494081
He's complaining because he wants her to be a slut and she won't. I'm not putting words in his mouth.

>>33494109
No, it's because she did stuff for other guys that she won't do for him. If she never did that stuff, then it would be fine.

>>33494031
I'm sensing a trend here. This guy and OP (and others in this thread, I suspect) aren't upset with a girl at all, they're butthurt because another man got to do sex stuff they didn't.

>>33494081
>Having sex is exactly like serial murder
Yeah, okay.

>>33494109
you know, if she had replied something like "No, I didn't enjoy it, it was a mistake, so I won't do it again" I would have been OK with her refusal. But no, she said it was an interesting/enjoyable experience, she just wasn't willing to do it for me. So the problem was me.
I'd feel quite bad if my GF was willing to be a slut for a good looking guy, and refused to be one for me, simply because I'm not good looking.
in other words, she was not in a relationship with me because she was attracted to me. She simply wanted stability. makes sense, I was paying rent, utilities, all groceries etc, even her debt payments sometimes when she spent too much money. and she never initiated sex with me, I had to initiate every time, and she adamantly refused to do stuff like blowjobs, handjobs, etc. she put 0 effort into sex.
basically i was being used. leaving was the right decision.

>>33494127
Exactly. He's mad because she *stopped* being a slut.

>>33494146
>Having sex is exactly like serial murder
When did anyone said it's the same? Somehow, you can't comprehend an analogy.

>>33494157
I see what you're trying to say. But if someone committed a serious crime 20 years ago, and they're caught today, they still go to jail. Your past doesn't go away just because you stopped doing it.

>>33494157
>Exactly. He's mad because she *stopped* being a slut.
Stopped being a slut? LMAO

Imagining a serial rapist saying he will babysit your kids because somehow, he stopped being a serial rapist now.

Would you let him babysit your kids? I doubt, but for you, this logic works when it's a whore, LMAO

>>33494156
not OP but I don't pay for rent or groceries for the woman, she pays half

>>33494142
I understand them. This thread is full of immature assholes, but even being mature and understanding doesn't translate into getting your needs fulfilled.

No girl comes looking for a "thoughtful guy who looks over her past", and the type of girl who does is not a high sexual energy nympho who can compensate a decade of prejudice and sexual reject.

>>33494160
I can comprehend a *valid* analogy, but that analogy depends on the idea that having sex is analogous to committing multiple murders, which it clearly isn't, and thus the analogy is bullshit.

Tell you what, I'll make an analogy to eating toast. Just imagine how silly it would be to get mad at your girlfriend because she used to eat toast with someone else and won't eat it with you. If you refuse to accept that toast is a complete valid analogy for sex, then by your logic, you don't understand analogies.

And if you don't agree with what I just said, that also (by your logic) means you don't understand analogies, because I'm making an analogy between my analogy and your analogy.

>>33492911 (OP)
If you feel that bad and you care that much about her past, break up with her and let her be with a guy that doesn't mind. Find a virgin gf for yourself or whatever.

>>33494173
Oh, another guy who thinks having sex is exactly like serial murder. Cool.

>>33494192
No, this is the analogy:
I spend a shitload of money on trips and fancy food for a gf.
My next gf, I take her to fast food joints and spend nothing on her.
She gets upset, but I say that being spendy is in my past and I'm not that kind of guy anymore. She's just getting a shitty frugal version of me and doesn't get the best.

>>33494192
I feel like you're missing the point of the analogy. if you girlfriend refused to eat toast with you because you're not good looking, and was willing to eat toast with other guys in the past, simply because they were good looking, wouldn't you feel bad? Why would you stay in a relationship with someone who is clearly not attracted to you, instead of breaking up and trying to find someone who actually finds you attractive?

>>33492911 (OP)
Just dump her anon

>>33494210
>if you girlfriend refused to eat toast with you because you're not good looking,
Yes, but that's NOT the reason why OP's girlfriend is refusing to have group sex, is it? Nor is it the reason why the other guy's girlfriend didn't want to perform live action lesbian porn. The women just didn't want to do that stuff any more; and and the men are sulking about that because they're envious.

>>33494204
>Oh, another guy who thinks having sex is exactly like serial murder. Cool.
It's not the same, nobody is saying it's the same. Comparing to murder or rape is a way to take the example to the extreme, as being a whore is nowhere near being a serial rapist, or a serial killer, but it's the same in the sense that you can't change something you did. Being a whore is not a mistake or anything like that, it's defined by something you did in the past. Repenting is cool and all, but doesn't change the fact you've been a whore. Have you never seen those exercises with kids, in which they break a cup and say "I'm sorry", and the cup doesn't fix itself? Think about it, if you are not willing to understand this, I think you're just trolling and unable to comprehend the truth of the matter,

>>33494229
>Yes, but that's NOT the reason why OP's girlfriend is refusing to have group sex, is it?
Not the guy you're talking to, but... are you inside her mind? How do you know that? You are just assuming things, just like us.

Are you virgin yourself op? If not, you don't deserve a virgin gf, if yes, dump her

>>33494208
She's getting who you are you fucking nigger.

Would you rather want her to tell you
>"Anon, you're a stingy asshole, you used to buy shit for your ex all the time. I'll give you one month to get your shit together or i'll leave you"
Would you be ok with dumping your hard earned money, a lesson well learned, for a needy girl? This is not about whether people owe others sex or things, this is about the boundaries people in the present are setting. Take it or leave it, but things don't work out because YOU are the one expecting shit only others can give and not things you can get yourself.

>>33494229
>Yes, but that's NOT the reason why OP's girlfriend is refusing to have group sex, is it? Nor is it the reason why the other guy's girlfriend didn't want to perform live action lesbian porn.
It's the only reason.
when girls get into relationships with guys they're actually attracted to they wake them up with blowjobs, wear sexy lingerie every other day and set up threesomes regularly, and if they're too tired to have sex they give them handjobs. That's what they do. their Bfs don't have to pester them to have sex which they only get every 2 months lmao.

And that's fine. It really is. You can't force women to have sex with guys they're not attracted to, even if they're being supported financially. That would be prostitution at best, rape at worst.
But at the same time, guys are not obligated to stay in relationships where they have to beg and nag for low-effort sex. they have the right to break up and try to find someone who is actually attracted to them.

>>33494265
I would never her that I spent so much money on my past gf in the first place, but here we are.
>Take it or leave it, but things don't work out because YOU are the one expecting shit only others can give and not things you can get yourself.
There is literally nothing wrong with walking away and finding someone more suitable. Some anons in this thread are getting butthurt about that.

>>33494273
All of this is true, but the whole point of making advice threads is to find happiness, and someone who feels the NEED to have intense sex, and can't respect the limits of the only kind of partner he can pull, simply won't ever have his needs satisfied even if he exerts his right to dump her.

It's a matter of hard facts. Someone like OP needs to work on himself. Either to eliminate his jealousy, eliminate his need for debaucherous sex, or become someone who can make women horny for him. None of that certainly comes from whining.

>>33494285
Anons in this thread are pretending walking away is the guy's only option. They endorse this only option from
>Being jealous of other men's past
>A reactive sexist position to feminist culture
>Outrage against society's unfairness
None of these contribute OP to avoid being in the same situation in a future relationship. It's all anons projecting indignation.

>>33494313
Probably he will end up whining that all women are whores while he's not a virgin himself

>>33492919
>smile, nod, keep fucking her until you find a better chick
This is the best advice on this thread I guess

>>33494313
You're pretending that the woman has no option but to refuse bringing in another chick. You can't say that sex is not a big deal, while simultaneously making it a big deal.

>>33494363
>wants a virgin gf
>isn't a virgin man
Many such cases

If you're the type of guy that women only get with to avoid paying rent, the trick is to not let them move in with you. String them along as much as possible. Past a certain age (30 give or take) they'll get more and more desperate and push to move in with you after just a couple of months. You can use this to get threesomes, blowjobs, etc. They know they risk losing you if they say no, because at that point you can break up via text with 0 repercussion. They're also perfectly aware that that once they move in, they get a lot of leverage and it gets more difficult/expensive to get rid of them. so just ask for threesomes and oral sex constantly while promising them that they'll be able to move in as soon as your current lease expires. eventually they'll get tired of waiting and leave on their own.

>>33492911 (OP)
Just leave, quit being retarded and by using her for sex until the next person. By doing so you are being exactly the kind of person you're so pissy she chose to fuck in the first place. You aren't morally or emotionally above this woman in the slightest, regardless of what you tell yourself. The next girl, which you may or may not find you'll likely just lie to anyway about using your ex to find someone you consider worthy enough because you're already a coward that buckles to some mild social banter or peacocking.

>>33494434
Anons brainwashed by /pol/ think that only women have to have morals. They really think they deserve a muh virgin gf while being dickheads who fucked multiple women before and used their ex for sex.

>>33494379
The woman isn't the one posting in this thread, i.e she's not the one willing to compromise.

If she were posting here and asking
>"My boyfriend is an asshole, he wants me to fuck some random girl while he watches like a cuck, I had done that when I was at my slut phase and I don't want to do that anymore"
Most likely people would tell her to dump the faggot and have her seek her own happiness, and it would be valid to tell her she could concede just once, which absolutely wouldn't be good advice to make her happy. But that's not what's going on, you have some faggot whining that he's in a relationship with a girl who's not fit for him, revealing she's not fit for him because he's a giant faggot.

>you can't say that sex is not a big deal
It's as big of a deal as you make it out to be. It's your relationship, not mine. Personally, i'd be happy if a hot woman gave me sex in any manner since I'm apparently an autistic virgin nobody bothers to get to know. I have made my peace knowing women sleep around, I would have done the same if I were a woman, and I'd have done the same if I hadn't been condition by evangelists to become a high functioning autistic virgin.

>>33494385
Women don't care about male virginity, in fact, some prefer a non virgin man. The contrary is not true, no matter how much you gaslight yourself, men will always prefer women with less sexual experience than those who have been passed around.

>>33494434
>Woman doesn't have self respect and is used as a tool
Not his problem.

>>33494495
Not true. If you're a passed around men you're no better than a passed around slut.

>>33494503
Yeah you are. The logic here is so obvious. Passed around men succeeded at fucking many women. Virgin men failed at fucking any women.
Passed around women don't need to put in any effort, they just let men put in the work.

>>33494502
We get it you have no morals and will manipulate or use others if it benefits you regardless of the emotional cost because you avoid forming genuine attachments anyways and when you do you can't even fucking maintain them. People who actually give a shit about others will swiftly avoid you and you will consume and be consumed by your own kind in the end like you deserved.

>>33494514
>assumes a lot of things without knowing the person
>throwing a tantrum like a spoiled kid
Calm down buddy, it's not that deep. I am a virgin, and I don't plan on marrying or anything like that. I completely withdrew from society. What I said is just a fact. You can't blame people by your own decisions in life. It's not his problem.

>>33494585
Since when NEETS become so shameless. Weak ass fag

>>33494231
The thing is, anon, you could make an analogy with literally anything.

I once played a game of tennis. Nothing can ever change the fact that I once played a game of tennis. I will go though my whole life as a person who once played a game of tennis. Does this matter? Not even the tiniest bit. Therefore, BY YOUR LOGIC, having once been a whore doesn't matter even the tiniest bit either.

Now, obviously you don't agree with this. Why? Because you don't think that playing a game of tennis is in any way comparable with being a whore, and therefore the analogy is invalid, and its conclusion is nonsensical.

Fine. I agree. The analogy *is* invalid because the comparison between sex and tennis is nonsensical.

But for *your* analogy to make sense, having sex would have to be comparable to committing mass murder, a comparison which is a great deal MORE stupid than comparing having sex with playing tennis; which means your analogy is even more invalid (and, frankly, even more dumb) than the one I just made. /

You know that perfectly well, so stop being disingenuous.

>>33494238
>How do you know that?
Because I have a great deal more experience of life, and women, than you do.

>>33494273
>when girls get into relationships with guys they're actually attracted to they wake them up with blowjobs, wear sexy lingerie every other day and set up threesomes regularly,
My God, how much porn do you watch?!

My wife rocked 10 guys before we meet, i fucked 9 girls. Pretty much all of our past partners were douches. A few hookups, but mostly just relationships that didn't pan out. It's easy to think "why on earth did she fuck that guy? Why did she make such a bad decision." But that still drive you crazy. And honestly, i made those same bad decisions fucking some of the girls i did. It's not that sex doesn't matter, but honestly, her past sex she had prior to meeting me doesn't matter anymore. Past mistakes build who you are and let you get a perspective on how they were mistakes. That being said, she's also no longer communicating with her past sexual partners. That's a pretty important part. We've been happily married now for 11 years, together for 15. Still very active and enjoyable sex lives with each other. We both barely even remember our past sexual partners.

>>33494740
but this is what you want. you WANT to meet a partner who feels like their past partners were mistakes and/or not really compatible with them.

But to cheat? and do threesomes? that's different. That's not a relationship that's hookup culture. once you cheat or help someone cheat you can't take it back. especially because she's still communicating with that person actually MULTIPLE PEOPLE from what it sounds like from OP's mouth.

so yeah man, really happy for you with your wife, but OP needs to let her go, certified cuck

>>33494031
kek

>>33492911 (OP)
Advice?
Find a better girl that isn’t retarded. If she’s done it once she’ll do it again. Think about it, how many people are retarded enough to fall for something like group sex? Have some self respect and date someone higher IQ

>>33497954
>done it once she’ll do it again
Done what once? Have sex?

I am going to kill myself

>>33492946
>People do stupid things when they're young, and it's not fair to hold those things over them for the rest of their lives.
Yes, it absolutely is. People are a sum of their actions, and should be held to acount as a warning to future genrations.
Anon's issue though is that he has lost any sense of respect of his girlfriend and he in turn feels disrespected by association.

>>33501314
Based post

>>33492911 (OP)
She's a slut, dump her ass. You don't love her, you love her holes.

>>33492911 (OP)
>>33492946
Why not just date a young woman in her prime? W

>>33492911 (OP)
I went through the same shit anon 6 months ago after I found out my gf had 20 bodies. It doesn't get easier. We are breaking up rn.

>>33492911 (OP)
What kind of group sex though?

MFF threesomes are based. Anything else, kick her out of your life.