Thread 33497437

>meet cute autistic girl
>become friends with benefits
>she claims she doesnt want kids but wont take birth control because it fucks with her hormones and makes her crazy
>meet up tonight and have a few drinks and smoke a couple bowls
>next thing i know she crawls on top of me and puts it in raw
>could have stopped her at any time but didnt because it felt good and im retarded
>pulled out before i came and wiped myself off real quick
>put it back in raw a couple minutes later for round two (which i also pulled out)
i didnt piss or anything in between rounds, just a quick wipe down with a towel but im sure there was still some left in the urethra (and probably still some on the shaft) when i put it back in. as soon as we finished the second round i wanted to blow my fucking brains out for being so irresponsible. a quick google search tells me the success rate of pulling out is somewhere in the neighborhood of 80%, but im fucking terrified because i put it back in without a proper cleanup.

what the fuck do i do? she mentioned plan B which i encouraged but i have no way of actually knowing if she will take it. it makes matters worse that i am better off financially than her and she is clearly looking for someone to take care of her. im 34 and want kids but not with her. is my fucking life over?

>>33497437 (OP)
>im 34 and want kids but not with her.

Don't fuck with girls you won't marry

>>33497437 (OP)
>as soon as we finished the second round i wanted to blow my fucking brains out for being so irresponsible
Good call.

>>33497437 (OP)
First off: is there a reason why she hasn't tried non-hormonal birth control, such as a copper IUD?

As far as this situation is concerned: what happened here is extremely risky. You'd better hope she actually did take her Plan B pill. (Plan B is very effective, but becomes steadily less effective the longer you wait to take it).

Pregnancy is obviously not guaranteed; and it depends significantly on where she was in her menstrual cycle. If this was post-ovulation and pre-period, for example, you're fairly safe. If she was ovulating, or will be in the next day or two, you're in trouble.

There are grounds for cautious optimism, in that if she's even talking about Plan B, that suggests she doesn't actually want children; meaning if she does get pregnant she may be willing to have it terminated. But of course that's her choice: you can ask her, but you can't make her.

If you do get away with it, try and be a bit less dumb in future. If you don't... then you're on the hook for child support for the next 18 years. I hope the sex was good enough to be worth that.

>im 34 and want kids but not with her
sooo why did you fuck her then?
>because it felt good and im retarded
so, you are the one to blame then

IF she took (fraudulent) advantage of you, i wouldve helped you. but you are the quote retarded endquote WHORE who cant control itself.
go marry her.
also shes based for not taking jewish pills

>>33498764
NTA but how effective would plan B work if you legit creampied a chick multiple times in one night?

>>33500302
ive been fucking her because i just came out of a 10 year period of extreme depression, weight gain, and utter isolation. i have been focused on getting healthy, losing weight, and building up a social circle for the last 1-2 years. she pursued me aggressively and made it clear she was interested in fooling around. over the last several months things got more serious and i am slowly becoming interested in something longer term, but im just not ready for kids for the next 2-3 years.

literally no woman wanted to be around me let alone have sex with me for a solid decade and then last year she threw herself at me, which at the time made me feel extremely special. ive had all day today to think about things, and honestly if she is pregnant i am not as upset at the idea as i was last night. still not ideal by any means, but i am financially stable enough that a kid wont completely destroy my life.

ultimately, im going to text her today and ask if i can pick up plan B and watch her take it in front of me tomorrow morning. i dont think that should fuck her up hormonally as much as birth control, and i guess in some fucked up way it will be a test to see how seriously she cares for me? especially since by her own admission she doesnt want kids.

just grasping at straws and probably just trying to convince myself that everything will be okay. at the end of the day its my fault for being such an idiot and not wrapping my shit up.

>>33501299
i didnt creampie her i pulled out both times, if that makes any difference.

>it's another scrote bragging about his sex life
I hate men so much it's unreal

>>33501408
are you mentally disabled and/or illiterate? i was literally a fat ginger shut-in neckbeard for a decade with virtually zero human contact outside of work. of course im going to fuck someone if they show interest in me

>>33501337
>>33497437 (OP)
It's on YOU to take the lead, buy the plan B and watch her take it. Why are you just leaving it up in the air?

>>33501443
>>33501330
>ultimately, im going to text her today and ask if i can pick up plan B and watch her take it in front of me tomorrow morning.

>>33501299
>how effective would plan B work if you legit creampied a chick multiple times in one night?
There are quite a number of factors that can affect that. For example, some medications make it work less well; it's a bit less effective if the woman is obese; if she has already ovulated before taking it, it's less effective. But typically, for every 8 women who would have become pregnant without it, 7 won't if they take it. (And if course the chances of pregnancy without it aren't 100%).

"Plan B" isn't the most effective brand of emergency contraception, incidentally, there are others that are a little better. And if you're sure she wasn't pregnant prior to that, having an IUD fitted in a hurry can be even more effective still.

Plan B and similar pills can have quite rough side effects, of course, so you should only use them in a genuine emergency, not routinely.

>>33501330
>i dont think that should fuck her up hormonally as much as birth control,
It will fuck her up a LOT more.

>>33501750
god damn it. im going on a trip with her for a few days for her birthday next week and i would hate if she is extremely emotional/upset but i guess that is better than her having a bun in the oven. gotta learn my lesson somehow i guess.

>>33501742
thank you very much anon for providing information without being judgemental. you're a good one.

>>33501888
I've no idea if there's anywhere near you that you could have it done, but if you could make it happen in the next 2-3 days, her having a copper IUD fitted in a hurry might be your best solution. Copper IUDs have their own side effects - they can make periods heavier, and especially in the first few months they can cause cramping. But an emergency IUD is more reliable than Plan B, and the copper version is not hormonal, so it shouldn't give her hormone-like side effects. Fitting them is uncomfortable, but once they're in place they last 5-10 years.

>>33501888
>im going on a trip with her for a few days for her birthday next week and i would hate if she is extremely emotional/upset but i guess that is better than her having a bun in the oven. gotta learn my lesson somehow i guess.
Maybe you should be thinking a little less about the effect hormonal insanity will have on you and a bit more about the impact it will have on her?

>>33502020
thank you so much for this information. im assuming youre a femanon simply because i have no idea about any of this shit and you seem informed. thank you for educating me. i live in a relatively rural area of the south, but i have 2-3 major cities in the general vicinity so i know in a worst-case scenario that proper modern healthcare is only a short drive away.

i will discuss with her the idea of an IUD tonight and see how she feels about everything.

>>33502058
the reality is she basically said "yeah, so what?" after i explained my regrets about not using protection. i get the feeling i am a lot more paranoid about this than she is. i do not mean this in any type of negative context because i really do like this girl a lot, but she comes from nothing in a broken home and i unironically have trust funds and generational wealth to be concerned about. i know that sounds fucking awful, which is a small part of the reason i shut myself off from dating for years. i truly have genuine concern and care for this woman, but i also have to be particularly careful about my life which is why i am so upset about my own actions. i truly believe at this point i am either completely 100% fucked or everything will be totally okay and i can just learn from this and move on with things.

>>33502097
>thank you so much for this information. im assuming youre a femanon simply because i have no idea about any of this shit and you seem informed. thank you for educating me.
You're welcome. And no, I'm a guy, I just pay attention. :p

plan b starts a period. is she on her period? then you know she took it.
getting knocked up from some still in the shaft depends on your swimmers, time of the month, what have you. if youre still worried, just have her take a test in 2-4 weeks. id be impressed if she did get knocked up, but hey, cant blame you for freaking out.
easiest way to check is just text her, ask her how shes feeling after taking it, and invite her over. yeah, you gotta take care of her for a day or so, aftercare you can call it, but you wanna keep a trash can in the bathroom. dont take out the trash til she leaves, if theres used pads/tampons, youre good to go.
this is coming from an f, btw. its a really fuckin creepy suggestion desu, dont let her catch you.

>>33502151
she definitely wasnt on her period last night, but when i text her in a few minutes about my concerns i will ask her about her cycle. thanks

>>33497437 (OP)
Disgusting man whore. I hope she's pregnant.

>>33502205
>have sex with a single woman 5 times in 1 decade
>man whore
dont worry, your mother is next retard.

>>33502207
I'll enjoy your child support money, man whore

>>33502210
hope you like your newest sibling as much as my money, retard. i wont be offended if you call me "dad" either.

>>33502207
Why have u been fucking her and had raw sex with her if u don't want to marry her and have children with her? Kys

>>33502194
wait, how long ago did this happen?? plan b is only really good for the first 48 hours, anything about that is gonna need bigger guns. i think cvs or something has a store brand thats effective up to 72 hours, but youd have to do some looking around.
if thats the case, have her take a test either during the trip or after. all itd do really is just fuck up her hormones and the chance of it working goes way down.

>>33501330
>building up a social circle for the last 1-2 years
How have you done it? I am not at the same point you was. I am fit, have a job, and I'm not depressed, but I feel apathetic towards people, so I have zero friends. I don't want to F*** bitches like you do, but I wish I could get some friends.

>>33502241
this happened at like 9-10 pm est last night. its currently like 9:05 est. i will see her at her work tomorrow so im hoping she will take it around 10-11 am est tomorrow. its within the 72 hour window so im hoping we should be good.

>>33502216
>Why have u been fucking her and had raw sex with her if u don't want to marry her and have children with her? Kys
I'm not Op, but you are talking as if she is a victim, she chose to FUCK him RAW. She is not a victim, alright?

>>33502251
hell yea man. i can sympathize as i am generally an apathetic person up until this scare. for me it really boiled down to a few things. i will omit the health stuff since you said you are already fit.

>genuinely desired meeting people and forming a social group above all else; you really have to fucking want it
>was truly willing to put myself out there and face rejection (whether it was romantically or just a cool dude i wanted to get drunk or hang out with) which was very scary
>found a specific hobby (in my case golf) and showed up at the same social spaces week after week after week for months on end, seeing the same people over and over
>got drunk one night and i asked if they wanted to come golf with me sometime
>now have a dedicated group of guys i play with in a golf simulator tournament each week plus at least round of golf IRL at local courses once a week

i used to play video games 10+ hours a day for 20+ years. i have now replaced that addiction with golf. i am this extremely weird combination of being both very socially outgoing and adventurous but also awkward and possibly autistic. it took me until i was about 32 years old before i became confident with the idea of going out and doing whatever the fuck i want at the bars/golf courses/places i want to hang out and just walking up and talking to anyone i thought looked interesting. if someone is a dickhead i will just move on and talk to someone else. the hardest part of the whole thing for me was the fact i hyped myself up in my own head about being awkward or weird or that no one would like me or want to talk to me. that was the biggest hurdle. once i broke free of that mindset everything and opened up.

the first time you do it is the scariest, but go to a place that is dedicated to one of your hobbies/interests and just walk up to a stranger and talk to them. every time you do it, it gets easier. but just like anything else worth it in life, it takes effort.

>>33502097
>but she comes from nothing in a broken home and i unironically have trust funds and generational wealth to be concerned about. i know that sounds fucking awful
Yes, you're right: that sounds fucking awful. How sure are you that she knows this is how you feel about her?

>I truly have genuine concern and care for this woman, but i also have to be particularly careful about my life which is why i am so upset about my own actions.
Well, yes. That makes having completely unprotected sex with her even more bizarrely irresponsible.

>>33502604
thank you for reinforcing what i literally just told you? i fucked up. i regret my actions. i concede that i was wrong. hence why i am posting in /adv/. do you think i would be posting here and asking for advice if i was happy with what i did?

either way we talked tonight and she reassured me she does not want children and took a plan B first thing this morning. i do trust her so i feel better about the whole situation. she made me promise to buy a box of condoms for her birthday trip and we made a mutual promise to each other that we would both be more responsible going forward.

is it fucked up that this whole experience has actually made me like her more? why the fuck was i actually kind of excited?

>>33500302
1000% agree with this guy's assessment of the situation OP you fucking bellend lmao

>>33502716
Have you properly explained to her that the fact that she comes from a broken home means she can never be your girlfriend? I feel like she might not understand that.

>>33502716
>we talked tonight and she reassured me she does not want children and took a plan B first thing this morning.
That's good. I still think you should suggest a copper IUD - not as an emergency measure, but just so you don't find yourself in this situation again.

She may have quite a rough ride over the next few days - my sister once compared taking plan B to having your insides scoured out with steel wool - so try and be there for her.

Theres a small frame in the female cycle where a woman can actually get pregnant. (ovulation)
If she's not in that week you don't really have to worry and sperm usually only lives for 2-3 days.
Also Plan B doesn't work if she's already in that week I hope you guys talked to the pharmacist.
Plan B also doesn't automatically give you your period afterwards as someone mentioned.
That's not true you get your period when you are supposed to get it in your cycle but i can tell you after using Plan B your cycle will be messed up so she might get it earlier or waay later depending on her body.
Please don't use Plan B as a contraceptive it's not good for our bodies and treat her nicely in this time.

>>33503477
Yes. I took plan b pill once and it messed my cycle so bad.

>>33504377
Seconded that shit made half my hair fall out and develop lowkey schizophrenia for almost a year. I would've rather had a fucking abortion

>>33497437 (OP)
Maybe she did because she was ovulating

>>33504388
Jewish pills were made to fuck us up. It's 100% better stay far away from them as much as possible.