Thread 33507115

how do i get over the fact all of my family and cousins live on the other side of the planet? im going to be visiting them and its been over 10+ years since i saw them and im just going through a string of emotions mostly sadness and happiness since its just me and my parents here in the states. im mostly sad about the fact that when we land in europe and visit them then the count down timer begins and itll go by fast and we will have to leave and im not sure when will we get to see them again. i know ill plan to get some temp job to save up money to visit them longer after i come back but its just the sadness knowing that we never got to grow up together and that we are just going to get older. every thanksgiving here in the states and other stuff is just a painful reminder that its just me here and what gets me more depressed is when my parents die itll just be me here in america while everyone else is over there.i guess someone will eventually say to move there but this is in eastern europe and everytime i tell them i want to move there to be closer to family they call me crazy saying there is no future here. i dont know what to do man. what annoys me the most if when people always ask me why i dont like to think about the future or plan my future its because of this situation and it always cripples me so much causing me to breakdown because i dont have a clear answer. i dont know what to do. i think the only solution to honestly stop feeling these emotions is to shoot myself because it just makes me sad and angry but its not logical.

>>33507115 (OP)
>everytime i tell them i want to move there to be closer to family they call me crazy saying there is no future here
They're right. Eastern Europe is a fucking shithole. Being born Estonian is equivalent to being born black in the US

>>33507115 (OP)
Zoom, Skype or whatevr other facetime app they have access to

>>33507115 (OP)
>how do i get over the fact all of my family and cousins live on the other side of the planet?
By returning to them and marrying one of your cousins. Problem solved! Most people here rightly hate you and always will.

The grass is always greener, OP.
Your European side will never understand how good they have it that they can just pop into any one of a dozen peoples' homes and instantly feel warm and welcomed. They don't see how cold and isolating it is to live in America.
On the flip side, you probably don't appreciate how desolate the financial and economic landscape is for E Europe. Don't know whether your country is in the EU but regardless as more and more EU "investments" come in the chance for anyone to lead a normal life on their parents' salaries dwindles to near-zero and they'll be forced to do something like your parents do, seek their fortunes elsewhere if they have a modicum of ambition and agency.
Sorry bro it's hard. Just enjoy it and try to freeze that familial warmth in a memory.

>>33509798
this guy actually fucks
that's a good perspective for both sides

to OP:
enjoy your time with them. And think about the alternative like - you know you're going to be sad, but the alternative - not going, is just plain mean. you shouldn't run away from feelings man. This is your family. Visit them and take the emotional hit,for family man. Enjoy them while you still can

I'm telling you this as a guy who moved abroad and I've been here for 5 years, I haven't seen my family in person in 3 years. Parents and grandparents and everyone, I'm completely alone here.